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writes: I'm seeing a girl now for the last few months on/off. We met on a dating app and went out a handful of times before I got injured and wasn't able to drive for about 2-3 months. We kept in contact and now things are getting more serious now that I can again. The problem is that I'm 26, and have only dated very few girls in the 10 years I've been looking to date. My first girlfriend was literally 9 years ago and while there have been dates with several girls since then not many made it past the second or third date. Mostly a mix of my own confidence issues and incompatibility. When I met my ex girlfriend there was this real rush of excitement I had for most of the relationship. I don't feel that now as much and am worried that might mean I don't like this girl as much as I think. My friends tell me to take it slow and take it date by date. We have a lot in common, and I think she's really smart. She's more "conservative" than most girls I have pursued and its a different dynamic for me. There's a lot less passion in it, and I'm not sure if this feeling is normal. I don't want to hurt this girl if that's the case, but I don't want to waste this if it becomes a great relationship. P.S. I don't want to offend anyone by this question. Yes I've been told I'm an overthinker.
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reader, 0livia  +, writes (20 April 2020):
 Girls not into you or your not into her and she can feel it
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 August 2019):
 Conservative people look for stability and someone you can spend a life with. Others want passion and without it, they would rather be free and not caged in a relationship. It depends on what you want. Being secure and safe does not have to be synonymous with boredom. But at the end, there has to be enough attraction and connection to make it last.
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