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writes:I had a general question about men and their opinion on women they date and the amount of life Experience they have or expect them to have ? I am in my 30’s have been abroad a couple of times but by no means much, I have had a small handful of relationships. I am socially shy... But I have worked a lot and have lots of interests and hobbies.Would a man be put off by a woman in her 30s who is not maybe quite as worldly as him? Who has not been out there and tried lots of things i.e. sky diving, traveling, volunteering or running a marathon if you get my drift, not necessarily because they didn’t want to though.I find men more confusing the older I get and am not quite really sure what they are looking for however, I realise you can only be yourself at the end of the day but I was just interested in people’s opinions.Many thanks
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 August 2019):
 A man in general no, he would not be put off by your so-called lack of worldliness. So-called because you sound quite worldly enough to me !.. you are in your 30s, you have travelled a bit, dated a bit, worked a lot and have plenty of hobbies and interests… More than enough for the average person, if you ask me. So, if someone has never hunted lions or joined the Marines,... they aren't " worldly " enough ? ridicolous ( add eye roll ).
If you are talking about one specific guy, with specific preferences, let's say like a modern -time Ernest Hemingway, someone who is very adventurous and spontaneous, an adrenaline junkie who thrives on novelty and challenge,- yes I guess you would be mismatched and not compatible, but not because there 's anything wrong with you. Or, with him either. Just because you have very different mindsets, interests and pleasures, and you both need to date someone who's more similar to you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 August 2019):
 Some men MIGHT be put off by it, many wouldn't.
And CERTAINLY not all men are "worldly" themselves.
If you "think" you ONLY want to BE with a "worldly" man, then maybe consider someone whether they WOULD be a good fit with you.
I wouldn't change myself to "look better on social media" because that is what it is.
NOT everyone is adventurous. Some like "smaller" and less "dangerous" adventures, some none at all.
And NOT having done XYZ doesn't mean you NEVER ever will. Maybe.. with the right partner it's something to try. Maybe it isn't.
BE who you are. NOT what YOU think OTHERS want you to be.
KNOW what you want and go for it. KNOW what qualities you would like in a partner and WHAT you have to offer as well.
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reader, SadMan76  +, writes (20 August 2019):
I am just as baffled as the next guy by this question.
Short answer: No. Not put off at all.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (20 August 2019):
 Hi Op,
If you find men confusing, then you are really over thinking men. Trust me, we are not that complicated at all.
You do not have to be Worldly at all. Why??? If you have done all the sky diving and so on, what is left for you and your partner to explore?? What new discoveries are both of you going to make together if you know it all??
Be yourself yes...but also have an open mind. The rest will work itself out.
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