Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex.
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex. My girlfriend said no. I don't want to pressure her but i want it sooo bad. I really love her but i don't know if i should break up with her. please help me i don't know what to do....
A. 2 September 2007: What are you thinking? Your 13. You're not in love with her. You probably dont know what love is. Your too young, dont push her. ... (read in full...)
How do you get a girl to fall for you?
Q. how do i get a girl to fall in love with me ?...
A. 22 July 2007: You cant. Simple as that. You can flirt and use techniques, but really, just be yourself, girls hate fake guys. ... (read in full...)
Am i over reacting when his does not call?
Q. I've jus recently started dating some one who i've been crushing on for 5 years..and it's been a month..everythings lovey dovey but when he doesn't answer his calls or doesn't reply i get peranoid he's up to something.. I know i'm over reacting but ...
A. 22 July 2007: Ok.
This is an excellent question for me to answer. Because i too get extremly paranoid when im in a relationship, & also because i recently broke up with my boyfriend who sounds quite similar to yours.
First of all, i was like that, carrying... (read in full...)
Why have things changed?
Q. I like this girl and she likes me but things aren't going to well. I really like her but i'm not sure if she still feels the same way... i can't get her out of my head and i'm not acting the same as i used to around her.. What should i do because ...
A. 22 July 2007: Ok. Right, you like this girl. I know for a fact that she does feel the same way, and the only reason things may have changed is you might have worried her or made her feel uncomfortable in some way, but dont worry, your young, and everyone make... (read in full...)
If I go to the doctor, will she keep this confidential?
Q. I'm 16 and I happened to get a cap stuck "up there" (vagina) and I want to go to the gynecologist to get it out, but i don't want my mom to know. If I go in alone, and ask her not to tell my mom. Is there a law that she has to follow to make it ...
A. 20 March 2007: Hi.
Yes its doctors job to keep you happy & therefore she will keep this completly confidential. I cant imagine what happened but im glad your seeking medical advice as if this is left you could get a infection.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm too young and I'm worried in case I get pregnant. What will I do?
Q. Right, ok, i'm 13, and I've done everything with a guy but sex, i've recently met this great guy, who i really like, he is a year older than me, and hasn't been that far with a girl. We have both talked about having sex,and we have both have said ...
A. 18 March 2007: Hi..
OMG girl, your 13, & i bet your not ready, so basicly your just agreeing because you think your "in love" well your not, & you havent learned enough about sex, STI'S, responsibility, babies, parenting..so just DONT ok.
I mean, i cant tell yo... (read in full...)
I switched her contraceptive pill with sugar pills and now she's pregnant and crying all the time, I feel so guilty now, should I come clean and tell her what I did?
Q. [Moderator Note: If you don't have anything helpful to suggest then don't waste your time replying] Hi, I did something stupid, please don't judge. Right well, I've been with my girlfriend Vanessa for about 4 years now. I'm 32, she's 25. Ev...
A. 18 March 2007: Ok..
So what you did was kinda stupid, but you cant really do anything now..right? So just tell her to calm down & talk to her & explain that a baby wont mess up her career, & give her some time to think.
& remember, DONT FIDDLE WITH PILLS I... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday next week and will have my period! How can I still go swimming while on my period?
Q. heya well im 13 and im going on holiday next week but ive realised that i will be on my period that week and im worried that its going to ruin the holiday!! As i love going swimming in the pools and on the beaches but does anyone no how i can stil...
A. 14 March 2007: Wear a tampon..Dont swim..Or just swim anyway! It stops in the water. Have fun x... (read in full...)
Any snogging tips?
Q. Can some one give me good and useful tips in how to snog?...
A. 2 March 2007: Hiya.
Just go with the flow, start of relaxed & in a comfortable position, then softly put both of your lips on their top lip or bottom, & slowly pull away, then maybe increase pressure & try tounges etc..
Just do what feels best,
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Should I be worried the he refused sex, but then jerked off the next morning!?
Q. i have a bf, we have been going out for 2.5 years now, and do have sex. just the other night, i assumed we would have sex, but we decided not to since we do it almost 4-5 time a week (!?!?) any way, that very next morning, i saw my bf jerk off.....
A. 2 March 2007: Hiya x
Hey dont worry!! Im sure he just wanted some pleasure..& well, 4/5 times a week? God he must be tired. Maybe he wanted to just wait a bit. Dont be worried hurt or betrayed, its perfectly normal..men have the strangest erges..& strange reac... (read in full...)
i have been asked on a date only twice but both times were joking..why would they do that?
Q. ok so i am 16 yrs old and i haven't had a bf yet! where i come from it's not bad not to have had a bf..and i have never been asked out on a date before as i have been really fat but now managed to be 180lb is that really fat..i mean my mom says i am ...
A. 1 March 2007: Hiya! Oh god, boys can be complete idiots, if they joke around tell them to get lost. You need a lad that really cares about you!! It dosent matter that you havent had a bf..its your choice! Just be confident, and if theres a boy you like, try a bi... (read in full...)
Every time I think I'm ready to cum I find I need the loo, I would die of humiliation if I wee'd instead. Help!
Q. I cant cum. I dont know why but when i have sex with my boyfriend and i feel like im about to cum i just keep thinking i need the toilet, it feels as though i need a wee and ive learnt to hold back and not cum, now i dont know how to because i would ...
A. 25 February 2007: Hiya.
Finally..Someone who has the same problem as me. When i am on the verge of cumming, i feel its wee, so dont cum. Trust me..its just the juices inside reacting & coming out, dont worry!! Just let it all come out..but make sure you use the ... (read in full...)
Would it matter to a guy if my vagina area was strange?
Q. basically, there's a guy, and its possible stuff might happen but im sorta worried. like, ive never been past first base before and im worried about my vagina area not being right? like my clits always seem really odd to me, big and sorta shrive...
A. 22 February 2007: Hiya.
Your vagina sounds completly normal to me!! The skin is usually shrivelled & no, i dont think he would even notice if it looked strange. Everyone is different, so i guess it dosent really matter!!
I suggest for the handjob, start of by ... (read in full...)
What are the signs to look for when you think your boyfriend is gay?
Q. hi i need some help i think my boyfriend turning gay is there any signs to look for?...
A. 22 February 2007: Hiya.
Dressing more feminine
Looking at other men in a different way
Holding his hands different
Changes his clothes
Stealing your makeup
Paints the walls pink/purple
Or if when hes with men he hugs them or acts slightly diffe... (read in full...)
Will my gynecologist know I'm not a virgin? I don't want my mom to know! Is there doctor/patient confidentiality between us at my age??
Q. I am 17 and I have scheduled my first appointment with a gynecologist because of my menstural cramps. I am worried, though, because I have recently lost my virginity, and I am sure the doctor will know. Mostly, I'm concerned that my mother will ...
A. 22 February 2007: Hiya x
Your gynecologist will be able to tell that you have lost your virginity, because there trained to notice, but if you ask info to be confidential, its their job to obey that, your mum wont be told unless you give permission.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Help!!! I'm REALLY obsessed about my weight!
Q. hey, i think i have a problem. i am really obsessed with my weight, sometimes i have thought of becoming bulimic but have thought better of it as to be honest i hate the feeling of throwing up and i know it is stupid so i wouldn't ever do...
A. 22 February 2007: Hiya.
Oh my god!! You are 16-17, 7st && a size 8, && you think your fat!! Im 8st 3 && a size 8, so you have absoulty nothing to worry about honey. Its good you dont want to be bulimic. Just wear what you want in the mornings!
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I am becoming so dry down below and it's wrecking my confidence and my sex life with my boyfriend. What can I do?
Q. Hi, lately when i've had sex it has been getting really dry, then sore and painful. I had chlamidea but i got the treatment so i dont think its that, then i thought it was thrush and used the treatment so i dont think its that. It was fine in the ...
A. 21 February 2007: Hiya.
Sorry to hear your so uncomfortable. Maybe this dryness is because when you have sex, your body releases alot of juices, so after it just dries up. Maybe try a non perfumed lotion or perhaps a prescribed cream from your doctor if its real... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or was he just using me?
Q. i really like this boy i know from my swimming club, he is really enjoyable to be around and has a great torso and is really good looking. we went out the weekend before last on both days and we did a few things on the sunday then he text me almost ...
A. 21 February 2007: Hiya.
Hmm..This is a hard question to answer. Maybe this guy was using you, but i wouldnt worry much, because you can obviously do better!! His phone call sounded harsh, and maybe something has come up like family or friends etc that made him not ... (read in full...)
How do I move on to sex with my girl? We have kissed and hugged and stuff.
Q. need advice for first time sex. Me and my gf have been going out months and are both ready and have contreception sorted. trouble is shes a very nervous person not just for sex but alot of things. We have done stuff like kissing and hugging etc but ...
A. 21 February 2007: Hiya. Aww congrats with your gf, im glad its going well. I guess you should just ask her if she would be comfortable with regular sex to begin with, and if she says shes ok with it, make sure you use protection etc. But if she says shes not ready, ... (read in full...)
How do girls like to be kissed? Is there that perfect way to do it?
Q. hey I was wondering how do girls prefer to be kissed? My ex gf said i kissed perfectly but i have my doubts considering I had never kissed a girl before or even went out with 1 ya anyways a little feedback on what kind of ways girls like guys ...
A. 21 February 2007: Hiya.
There definatly isnt a straight answer. I guess its just what they like or are used to. Try to be soft at first, and if they start to adapt to tounges for example, just go with the flow!! But remember, you have to like it too. And also, make... (read in full...)
I'm very ill and I'm sick all the time. I can't hold any food down. What's wrong with me?!!
Q. I dont think Im normal Because over the past 3 months , I have felt sick every day. Im only 14 and I get all shaky and cold and I go all pale. Also I get really bad coughing fits. When i start coughing , I cant stop until Im Sick. I havent been to ...
A. 20 February 2007: Hiya Hun. I feel so sorry for you. Sounds like this is a horrible experiance. Im sure its not a disease, but maybe a severe allergy or something simple like a long lasting bug. Make sure your mum takes you to the doctor to get you checked over and... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and insecure about myself. How can I stop feeling this way?
Q. Lately, I have been thinking about this guy who I had a fling with a few months ago. I can't seem to get over him. I thought I could get over him by finding someone else...but I can't find anyone else. This makes me feel ugly and insecure about my...
A. 20 February 2007: Hiya. Babe!! Stop the negative talk!! Im sure your beautiful, and there are ways to make yourself feel beautiful inside without makeup etc. This boy is/was very important to you, and now its ended im sure your very upset, as we all get after a ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, he's 57 and married! Do you think he's using me or will he ever leave his wife?
Q. Am 17 and i have been going with a 57 year old married man for 6 months. We really love each other to bits, but i feel that he is never going to leave his wife for me! He says all the time that he wishes he doesnt have to leave me when hes going ...
A. 19 February 2007: Hiya. No offence but this guy is TOTALLY using you!! He says hes gonna leave, but trust me hes not!! I think what you 2 are doing is wrong and totally discusting. I suggest you move on to someone your own age. Good luck xx... (read in full...)
Shall I surprise her on Valetines day? Good idea or not?
Q. We dated once and our next date is a week after Valentines Day. I am going to the cinema with this girl. Shall I send flowers and a card to her via a friend to surprise her on Valentines Day? She said she'd love to get flowers and a card from a boy ...
A. 8 February 2007: Definatly a GREAT idea..She will love it..GO FOR IT xx... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and this guy wants me to give him a blowjob. I agreed to this because I'm in love with him. What shall I do now?
Q. Hey, I really like this boy and he really likes me, He asked me to give him a blowjob next weekend and I said yes, he wants to do more than that and i said maybe. I love him sooo much and he said he really likes me but hes got a girlfriend. What ...
A. 26 January 2007: Hiya.
I also love a guy who is older than me. If he asked you to give him a blowjob, then thats ok, but if you then change your mind and he gets annoyed/distant then he is probably just using you. And honey, dont worry, he might not be and migh... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and having Quads ..please help !
Q. i was with my boyfriend daniel for 1 year. and last year when i was 13 we decided to have sex. we used the pull-out method but it obviously didn't work. i kept on being sick so dad took me to the doctors. that was when they told me that i was ...
A. 22 January 2007: Hiya.
God, quads! Congrats...But this still must be really scary as you are so young. You werent to know that the "pull out" method would work as well. I think your extremly brave..But the choice to keep them or not is completly up to you. Your... (read in full...)
During sex I enjoy being urinated on. Am I strange?
Q. Hi, I'm a girl in my twenties and I get very aroused when a guy urinates on me. I've seen it in porn and find it quite arousing. My boyfriend and I have tried it once and I enjoyed it very much. Am I strange? Can anyone else relate to this? Is ...
A. 22 January 2007: Hiya.
Nooo your definatly not weird. This is just a sexual act that you enjoy. Dont be worried!!
xx... (read in full...)
Bf is concerned that if I get braces-I will look ugly and not be able to give him blowjobs! Any advice for me?
Q. Can I still give a blowjob if I get braces? I'm thinking of getting one, but my bf wouldn't want me to because he says it will make me look ugly and I might not be able to give him blowjobs because it might hurt the both of us. I wonder if I would ...
A. 21 January 2007: Hiya.
Right..ONE...you will NOT look ugly with a brace..and if your boyfriend says you will..then hes not worth it and is a complete loser.
TWO..Who cares if you cant give him a fucking blowjob..Hes the one who should suffer in the first place.... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant on her period?
Q. Well me and my girl have been together for 18 months and last week on friday 3 days before her period was over i had decided to have unprotected sex with her and wanted to know if you can get preganant while on your period?...
A. 21 January 2007: Hiya.
Yes you can get pregnant on a period. It is least likely, as the complete lining gets flushed out, that you could get her pregnant. But its not impossible. If you want to take the risk...fine its your choice!! But i dont think it would be very... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and going out with my ex-teacher, age 34...
Q. Ok so heres my story, im 16 nearly 17 and im going out with a guy who is 33 nearly 34, we've been together almost 9 months now and things are great..its also a long distance relationship, he lives in another country but i plan to move there with him ...
A. 20 January 2007: Hiya.
First of all..this is a very difficult question to answer and i understand how you must be feeling. I dont think it is completly sensible to go out with someone so much older as you really havent lived your life yet. I suggest you just be frie... (read in full...)
17 dating 13?
Q. i am a normal male guy who just turned 17 and there is this girl who i have been talking to and we get along really well she says she likes me and i like her but she is 13 nearly 14 is this wrong if so why do i like her?? any help would be nice...
A. 20 January 2007: Hiya.
Im around your friends age. And at the moment i am falling for a 16 year old..and i feel the same as you so that probabaly helps as we are in a similar situation. I dont think that there is anything wrong with dating a younger girl, just reme... (read in full...)
Why can't I experience orgasms like the girls in porn? Any thoughts?
Q. I keep watching porn and seeing these girls come loads! I mean like waterfalls of come! Is this real or fake? Why can't I do it? Thanks...
A. 20 January 2007: Hiya.
Those videos, are not 100% real, so i wouldnt get upset over it. I gurantee you REAL women cant do that. It could be trick filming or even water! Just enjoy sex, and do what YOU can do. Not what the fake porno girls can do!
Good luck... (read in full...)
My friend is worried about the shape of her vagina!
Q. I am writing on behalf of a friend who is very worried about the shape of her 'bits'. She shaves because she is very hairy and she is scared to go into showers with other girls because everything hangs down. She feels a bit of a freak. What can she ...
A. 20 January 2007: Hiya.
First off, i think it is very kind of you to write for your friend. At a young age, teenagers can be very insecure about their bodies as they dont really know what the shape or size should actually be. I think she probably thinks it "han... (read in full...)
Is this my period starting?
Q. Hi.... Well I am 12 and the other week, i found what looked like loads of dark blood in my pants,(It was at the front of the pants!) but i had diarea when it happend and i dunno if it was blood or just poo, as it hasnt happend since, and im reall...
A. 20 January 2007: Hiya.
I reckon this probably is your period, but dont worry, as its completly normal at your age. I started mine at 12, and i too was scared and confused. I didnt actually tell my mum, i just left some "period pants" lying around and she found them... (read in full...)
We broke up and he's had several gfs'...so why does he still insist on remaining in touch with me?
Q. Hi, having ex problems!! Had a really intense relationship for five years, then he broke up with me, saying he still loved me but needed to sort himself out on his own, job, money, etc. etc. He had never had a girlfriend before me and he admitted he ...
A. 19 January 2007: Hiya.
Im sorry to hear that you broke up after such a long and involved relationship. But even so he is just playing with your mind. He shouldnt have girlfriends and then try and rub it in your face by sending texts, emails etc. I think hes tryi... (read in full...)
I get turned on by naked chicks more than men.. scared I may become a lesbian!
Q. I'm a female and not a lesbian but i get turned on seeing women naked than seeing men naked. What the heck is wrong with me!?? This is very unlikely for a woman but i do get excited when i see women's breast and women in bikinis (only those you ...
A. 18 January 2007: Hiya.
Dont worry! This is just pure curiosity! Females like to look at other girls sometimes more than men, to observe or simply as a kind of role model thing. You are definatly not a lesbian for doing this!
Dont worry xx... (read in full...)
I worry I'm fat when I know, rationally I'm not fat! what's wrong?
Q. I know this is usually a site to discus relationship problems but I donno who else to talk to about this. I’m an 18 year old girl from Scotland and am a U.K size 8-10 and I weigh 8 stone 6 pounds. (I’ve always been pretty skinny.) I go a...
A. 18 January 2007: Hiya.
Oh im glad somone brought this up. I am also size 8-10 and around your age, make sure this dosent become a eating disorder and remember, you are not fat! If youve always been skinny..your not fat at all! Make the most of your slim frame. Also... (read in full...)
I have a weird lump on my vagina. Does anyone know what it might be? Is it anything to worry about?
Q. Im a teen and i have a weird lump thing at the back of my vagina i dont have a clue what it is but if anyone knows or experiences the same thing please tell me ....
A. 18 January 2007: Hiya.
It could just be a part of sticky out labia..or could be a wart or something..i have had this problem and it turned out to be a bit of lumpy excess skin. Its probably nothing to worry about..just get it checked out by a doc..or possibly have... (read in full...)
I'm 18 so should I bring my 24 year old boyfriend to the prom with me or would it make everyone there uncomfortable?
Q. Hi, I saw someone else recently post a question about their prom and an older boyfriend so I figured I would post too. I'm 18 and have been dating my 24 year old boyfriend for quite a while. I always just assumed I'd be taking him as my date to pr...
A. 18 January 2007: Hiya.
The choice is completly yours!! And dont care what other people think! You like him...he likes you..you have nothing to loose. Go for it! If someone has a problem with it, tell them to F**k off!
Have fun and good luck xx... (read in full...)
Last boyfriend broke up with me because I had pubic hair. What should I do?
Q. i was in a relationship recently and the guy broke up with me because i have pubic hair. it has downed my confidence. what should i do? how do i get rid of the hair without it coming in a rash. do guys hate pubic hair that much? please help me! i ...
A. 18 January 2007: Hiya.
Oh my god! This guy is a complete idiot!! You should completly ignore him, dont call him, dont look at him or anything similar. This guy dumped you because he didnt like you having a little hair, what a stupid thing to react too...if he dose... (read in full...)
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