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writes: i was in a relationship recently and the guy broke up with me because i have pubic hair. it has downed my confidence. what should i do? how do i get rid of the hair without it coming in a rash. do guys hate pubic hair that much? please help me! i need to know for next time.
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reader, greycloud24  +, writes (30 November 2009):
its the same as anything else that is physical. i don't date women who are taller than me or weigh more than me, i don't date women who don't shave their legs, armpits or pubic region (completely bald at that). you can say i am shallow, but so are you. you probably don't date guys who are more than a foot shorter than you, or who have thick long hair on their back. it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask your boyfriend who did grow hair on his back to shave it, the same for his balls or pubic region if you didn't like that. the fact that you would not conform to his desires of beauty says that there is something wrong with your personality, and perhaps that is why he left you.
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reader, babygurll +, writes (14 August 2009):
 ok well first its your body not is and guys have pubic hair to so whats the biggy.and maybe you should trimm it then because i feel more sexy when its shaved and smooth not a big bush i think thats a turn off
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): Some people dont shave,wax,trim,e.t.c, down there because they are worried they might cut themselves or leave a rash,or they wouldnt know how to shape the hair,or take it all off,e.t.c,so find it easier to just leave it natural,and could feel embarassed about going to a beauty salon to have it done professionally coz a stranger would be looking at your bits !!..And,men have pubic hair,so why cant women have it aswell ?.Plus,if this guy cant accept you as you are,he's an idiot and he doesnt deserve to be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Well, Keeping it shaved down there, Its much more clean. and Guys think having pubic hair, is nasty. and dont shave side to side. just up and down, and you wont break out. and Guys know what a shaving rash is, they wont think you have something. soo, shave.
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reader, darenknighton  +, writes (20 September 2008):
some times i like pubic hair on my wife, yet other times i do not,
if you find a boyfriend that does not want to see you with pubic hair then do as i do,
i shave my wife, she enjoys the feeling and i enjoy the pleasure after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Most women wouldn't date a man who never shaved his beard. It's arbitrary, but that's life. The social trend is clearly against pubic hair and it shows no sign of ever going back. So don't get in a huff about a guy being picky. If you really want him, you'd better keep that coochie smooth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): Well, from reading previous answers we don't see many males waxing their balls now do we? Practise what you preach lads. And leave our pubes alone. Keeps our bits warm like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I hate pubic hair on girls. It is one of my biggest turn-offs, and honestly, in this day and age, with all the products and options available, there is no reason for it.
Think about it this way: You shave your armpits, you shave your legs, but you're going to leave a nasty thatch of musky pubes on the most precious part of your body?
If you cannot shave it, then try creams or waxing... hell there's even permanent laser removal nowadays.
Personally, I do not even like a "landing strip" or anything at all. Perfectly smooth is the most asthetically pleasing to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): shave it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): I love pubic hair! It's sexy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): I hate pubic hair on women too. It's just gross!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): The guy is a JERKPubic Hair IS VERY SEXYDon't let it ruin your confidence or self-esteemFind a guy who loves YOU for YOU and your Pubic Hair
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): If he broke up with you because of that, then he does'nt even diserve to BE down there in the first place!
You body is special to you, and boys should respect that.
But if you want to trim/shave/wave/remove it to feel more comfortable with your body, then do. But don't do it just because of some jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): don't get down about it. there are some guys who don't like pubic hair and usually those are the kind of guys who are jerks anywayz.i've got pubic hair too,and been with guys who didn't like it either.but oh well, right? you just got to keep in mind that there's alot more guys out there who does like it.so don't get down about it. just think of it as a beauty mark in a weird way that's what i do. because really i've seen women without the hair and it don't look all the good. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): OH MY!! you are 13-15 worried about pubic hair!! WHAT IS HE DOING DOWN THERE??? You should ask your PARENTS!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Most men do prefer trimmed rather than completely wild, for a start it makes oral sex a lot more pleasurable for both. Do what feels best for you though ... good luck.
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Hiya.
Oh my god! This guy is a complete idiot!! You should completly ignore him, dont call him, dont look at him or anything similar. This guy dumped you because he didnt like you having a little hair, what a stupid thing to react too...if he dosent like it then he can F**K off and look for someone who dosent have it. Move on and find someone who deserves you.
Good luck gal!!
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007): heya....
well hunni if he broke up with u over a stupied thing like tht then he aint worth it!
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reader, madonna +, writes (10 January 2007):
ok so ure boyfriend broke up with u but u could just leave it at that
one thing is try sensitive veet for romoving hair its good wont harm u.
other than that your young find a guy who appreciates ok ure number one
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I am shocked. You are 13-15 years of age and you have to worry about pubic hair? Boy, am I out of step with the times here. I hope you realize you are better off without a arrogant little 'twerp' like this in your life, hun. Is this just a coincidence but it does seem odd that almost all of the women in mainstream porn have little or no pubic hair, doesn't it? Did this guy like surfing the net, overly much. Hard to say but it makes me sure wonder. So what did you learn from this? Don't change who you are or put yourself through discomfort for any one. There are a lot of nice guys out there who wouldn't care.
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reader, paddy +, writes (9 January 2007):
Im a normal not so bad looking guy and my gf has got pubic hair and she is litterally a model! theres nothing wrong with it its natural. Personaly i believe men and women should trim so it looks desrirable and i reckon that that is enougth. Dont worri bout wat the lads want worri bout wat u want after all its your body1
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): i think women who have pubic hair or a landing strip are very sexy its the first thing u notice well maybe its just me but dont let him get u down
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (9 January 2007):
 Pubic hair is sign of maturity, clearly what this guy was afraid of. What an idiot he is!
So immature he didn't even have the balls to tell you the real reason for breaking up with you.
To make pubic hair more atractive you could keep it tidy and there are several methods to trim it.
You could try wax but this may be painful.
My favorite method is Hair removal cream. No pain, effective, leaves skin smooth and you can trim as little as you want. Only takes about 10 minutes too. Always read the instructions though.
I would not recommend shaving as it would cause a rash and spots.
Hope it helps, lots of hugs
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Hey, what an interesting question! Most boys your age are TOTALLY immature...Pubic hair is a beautiful, natural, protective thing. My boyfriend does not like it at all, so I shave it. Do NOT use hair-removal creams like Nair around your pubic region because you can get nasty burns, an itchy vagina, and you can get an infection (usually yeast), and it will give you a strange odor because the acidity of the vagina has been changed. When using Nair wax, follow the directions EXACTLY as you read them. If you chose to shave (my choice), then it may be hard to decide what is right. Make sure your skin is warm and wet from the shower, and use a high-quality shaving cream (the ones for guys work best, actually). Use a fresh razor, and use it no more than 4 times. Venus works best. Do not use a razor with only one blade on it. Go for two to four blades. Pull your skin by placing a hand below your belly button firmly, and move your hand upwards towards your chest slightly, so that your skin is taught where it is going to be shaved. I shave in a downwards motion so that I do not get razor burn due to my sensitive skin. To do the place inbetween your legs, you may want to sit on a towel on the toilet and bring you leg up on the counter, so that you're kind of spread-eagle and can shave with ease. You don't have to pull the skin here, but if it's more comfortable, go ahead. :) If you have hair in between your booty and your vagina, LEAVE IT ALONE! This is the most important body hair of all, believe me! This area is called the pernineal, and the hair on it makes sure that unwanted bacteria that naturally occur down there do not come incontact with your vagina. This is why girls are told to wipe 'from behind', starting at the crotch-region and going back to your booty. Not to mention this is uncomfortable to grow back in. :( Also remember that to keep ingrown hair at bay, very GENTLY exfoliate the area every time you take a shower, and only shave every other day...And not on the same day you will be bearing all. Enjoy life! -Carrie
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007):
Most guys do not like excessive public hair.
Excessive is defined by the overall length and the range. Down the inner thigh is never good. Length varries. I think trimming to an half inch is acceptable.
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reader, Vaughn +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Hi,
well i'm a guy and i find a girl who has pubic hair is just as good, like the other aunts say if he doesn't like it then he isn't worth it and most of all he isn't worthy to be with you if he acts like dat.
Vaughn x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): I hope this is a serious question... Giving the BotD, no, not all guys hate pubic hair. That would simply be ridiculous. Plus, you're pretty young. I mean, you shouldn't feel low in confidence - supposedly, there is nothing wrong with you. If some guy bases his 'love' on pubic hair, earrings, and dying hair colour, for Heaven sakes, you would be better off without him!
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reader, Reebe +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Maybe he had never seen anyone with pubic hair before? It is natural and normal and there for a reason. If you feel you have more pubic hair than you'd like, either trim it with scissors (be careful!) or get some hair removal cream, read the instuctions first, make sure you do a spot test, leave someone your skin and wash off after the recommended time just to make sure you don't have a reaction. Your skin may not like it at first but it will get used to it.
You met the wrong guy, as long as it's neat most guys don't care about pubic hair after all they have it too!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): No they don't you just meet the wrong guy,Is he not familiar with different hair removal methods? ask your mom.
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