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writes:basically, there's a guy, and its possible stuff might happenbut im sorta worried. like, ive never been past first base before and im worried about my vagina area not being right? like my clits always seem really odd to me, big and sorta shrivelled....i mean, if its not right down there i dont want him to think im a freak, you know? i dont want to disappointso basically my questions are:1) would it matter to a guy if my vaginal area was strange?2) what advice to you give for giving a guy a handjob?thanks!
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reader, LimeDice +, writes (8 March 2009):
dont worry about it yours sounds like mine and tbh whenever Ive has sex no ones said anything. The worst thing anyones said about mine is my sx said i was tight but that was cause I wasnt turned on lol. lads only care if theres a hole there not what it looks like. anyways look at the state of their dicks haha
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (21 October 2008):
ok first of all i think my vagina's strange. But dont we all?? enyways there is NO such thing as "normall".
We are ALL beautifull individuals..& if he really loves he wouldnt care what your vagina looks like.:)
second of all i am still a teen and ive had my fair share of boys trust me..but not one of them have been good enough for me to have sex with..i want to find someone who makes me feel preety and he'll love me whatever happens.
Ok theres no harm in a bit of fun but there is a line.
so whatever you do..respect yourself & make sure YOUR ready.
GOOD LUCK BABES x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Let me put it this way almost every girl freaks out about what her vagina looks like and is worried its not good enough or it looks funny but in truth its not that noticable and nothing is wrong
As for giving a hand job I would recomend just moving your hand slowly up and down on his penis and keeping a nice grip on it, eventually you can go faster but note when he cums it might make a mess if you dont keep a hold of his penis
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): it sounds like your vagina isnt too strange, and no vaginas look the same im sure it would be fine when someone sees it, and ur second question, just grab the penis and stroke it, play with the head, try some lubricant also, and ask him what he likes, e will tell u
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): for question number one, i'd say, don't worry about it, you should completely trust him before you let him near such an important area of your body
especially if you haven't had experience like that before, it'll be much more special if it's with someone you know won't think you're weird
number two, go with the flow when you're pleasuring him
if its your first time doing that, then tell him and he'll be able to tell you what he likes
make sure you're completely ready though, because if you're not, it does get quite embarrassing because you don't know whether to amile, be serious or talk to ease any tension
but apparently having little breaks in between the hand jobbing feels better for a guy so good luck with him =]
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Hiya.
Your vagina sounds completly normal to me!! The skin is usually shrivelled & no, i dont think he would even notice if it looked strange. Everyone is different, so i guess it dosent really matter!!
I suggest for the handjob, start of by getting it slightly wet, by licking it gently or use a waterbase lubricant. Then slowly push your hand upwards & vary pressure, maybe occasionaly lick the tip if your going for penertration, then increase the speed & really try & make him moan with pleasure!! Go for it! Good luck x
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reader, Dakotanative  +, writes (22 February 2007):
If it really bothers you, have sex in a dark room. It is normal to be critical of yourself no matter how normal until you get comfortable with your body in the company of the other sex. Men wonder how they will measure up also. Quite frankly, I would spend more time making sure your hair is pretty. Once the clothes are off, the blinders go on.
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reader, prodigy3t +, writes (20 February 2007):
you've had a lot of answers cool i'm sure the different views are appreciated. However wait till the guy and the time is right you didn't talk about having you're talking about giong to second base, okay but just remember that little things lead up to big things. I'm not your mom but i will tell you that you should be careful. something like sex to early can casue some crazy emotional problems. about the hand job my guy likes a tight grip but moderate your speed it. when he can't predict what you're going to do it drives guys crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): stranger the better i say more for him to explore and you to enjoy,
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): well it doesent matter if you have somthing wrong with your vagina its a girl thing and if hes really into youu and loves you loads then why would he worryy hes proberly as scared as you aree . and you said bout givin handjob well just gently grip it and pull but not to hard hope it works out .
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 February 2007):
 First off I can tell by your question that you know very little about female anatomy. "Clits" I think you mean labia. Do a little research and you will find out that you are perfectly normal "down there". If you are not on any kind of birth control, forget any kind of sex until you are.
Stuff doesn't just happen by the way, you decide to let it happen. You might want to wait on all this until you understand all about human reproduction.
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reader, Psyche +, writes (19 February 2007):
Save yourself for a guy who makes you feel beautiful and amazing! If I could do it all over again I would have taken back my power instead of having sex because some guy wanted to.
Your vagina is beautiful. Society, porn especially, has totally screwed up the way we view sex, sex organs and sexuality. There is nothing wrong with you! If any person ever makes you feel like there is something wrong with you - there is something WRONG with them, not you! Don't lose your virginity to a guy who doesn't show you how special you are! Young guys need to step up and the only way they ever will is if young girls say, "no" to B.S. and require them to be good men.
If you are feeling insecure about yourself then don't have sex. Sex isn't about physical beauty or parts of the body. As you get older you will learn that sex is an expression of how we feel. And when we are with the wrong people sex feels awful - for women it can haunt you. When you allow someone to enter your body you should make sure they understand that you are sacred and that they are not allowed to USE you or treat you as thier whore. Which seems to be popular these days.
Sorry for the long message. But this is a choice you need to think about a long time before doing it. And when you do it be protected. Don't get pregnant, don't get a disease and don't EVER let a boy/man tell you that "it feels better without a condom." It's BS and it will screw up your entire life.
Go talk to older (30's+) women you trust before you do anything.
You are beautiful.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (19 February 2007):
 Every vagina is different just like every penis is different. I REALLY wouldn't worry. I doubt you're anything other than totally normal. Regarding hand jobs the best thing to do is let the guy guide you so you learn how he likes it. And if you're planning to let things get sexual, even if you don't intend for things to go past the handjob stage sort out your contraception now. It'll be a big load off your mind.
CD
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