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writes: I'm a female and not a lesbian but i get turned on seeing women naked than seeing men naked. What the heck is wrong with me!?? This is very unlikely for a woman but i do get excited when i see women's breast and women in bikinis (only those you see on the pornsites, not those on tv programs). It's scary to think that i could be a lesbian and i absolutely don't wanna be one. I only want to have sex with men and never in my wildest dream to do a bi thing. I just wanna know why i get turned on seeing women. Anybody know why or have the same problem? I would love to hear some answers.
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reader, NikitaAna  +, writes (23 September 2012):
 Me too,in real life when i touch my friends i don't feel anything,even when we sleep in same bed,but in porns i get turned on on females body
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): i also am turned on by lesbian porn and have a boyfriend who i love having sex with what i find that helps sometimes is to look at gay or regular porn before having anal sex one time i woke up naked on top of my naked female roommate she liked it and we started having oral sex and nipple liking also 69 position oral sex so find a girlfriend and have oral sex sometime
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reader, rally sport  +, writes (12 February 2011):
I wouldn't worry about that at all my girlfriend does the exact same thing she only gets turned on by lesbian porn but says she dosent know why she would never do anything with a girl but when watching porn gets turn off when she sees a guy but when i get naked she loves it. its so weird i know shes not a lesbian we are ingaged and have a kid on the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): I kinda have the same issue. But don't worry, first of all- It doesn't make you a lesbian. Maybe a bit bi, but thats not so bad. I'm 14 in a month, and, I know its reaalllyyy bad, but I started watching p0rn when I was, like... 7...... And I've been turned on by girls every time I watch it.. I don't get turned on by guys... =/
Well, it depends. If its 2 guys, and the scene is just right, then I might.. [I love gay dudes.............]
Its terrible, to me- But I have to live with it. I can't help it...
And neither can you. = /
But its alright, you know... At least. I think it is... Dx
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reader, dots +, writes (28 July 2010):
Don't worry - you're completely normal. I'm an happily (very!) married girl, and I love to look at hot naked girls/women too! :O I believe that we are ALL (male or female) capable of being attracted to BOTH sexes at once. Bjork said in an interview with Diva magazine in October 2004: "I think everyone's bisexual to some degree or another; it's just a question of whether or not you choose to recognize it and embrace it. Personally, I think choosing between men and women is like choosing between cake and ice cream. You'd be daft not to try both when there are so many different flavours." Brilliantly put. So just enjoy it! Even though I don't go out and do anything about it (i.e. have sex with other females), I do have a blast getting off fantasizing about them!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): I am aroused at seeing a nude female but have never been bi or lesbian
somehow I am attracted to females . I love men and like to look at them also
I work in a doctors office an at times I am asked to be in for an exam just to
make the female doctor I work for more comfortable with a male patient
being examined by her. In one case the male was in nude as she examined
him and his genitals were totally bare as in completely shaven.This aroused
me more than I can say and I could not avert me eye from his intimates. Yet
a nude female will also cause the same reaction
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reader, onestud21 +, writes (19 December 2009):
omg I was wondering the same thing but I can get turned when I see a really HOT guy with a nice hard on. I don't think i'm gay but i just admire the guys physique as long as he's pretty in the face. some guys are soo pretty too (ie Tom Welling, Sagi Kalev, Zac Efron, etc...) but i don't consider myself gay. weird, i can't explain it!
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reader, alice200111 +, writes (9 April 2009):
i understand. i feel like a pervert looking at naked girls online so i avoid it. i am not a lesbian or bi. i wished i could be a guy for a day just so i could sleep with a hot girl. hot naked girls is just the hottest thing ever and if i do watch regular porn the girl is the one who turns me on. good thing there are lots of girls out there like me or else i just feel like a pervert.girls are just so much hotter and way more beautiful than guys are and i understand that guys and many girl just can't resist and have to look at hot naked women.so don't worry there is nothing wrong with us.
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reader, young man view  +, writes (30 September 2008):
I am male and in my early 20's I found this website somehow when I looking for reason 'fit' men are used in ads aimed a males (turns out it meant to make you jealous of that mans body to encourage you buy the product to get to similar level of masculinity as him). Anyway I feel same as you do to male nudes. (Man in Porn is meant to do that to us) but in outer situations i feel slightly aroused by nude male (sometimes half nude) male form. But I think is it just my pride been male reflected so I guess something similar for you. I only a man I don't know so but i guess it just you appreciated the fine art that is women body. I am part time nudist I think when break the barriers (seen another man naked for more then few mins. is almost tabooed these days for us)so maybe seen a women "having"(allot is fake) sex is breaking your barriers. So don't worry if look at self naked in mirror in morning really helps to give you confidence and you take less noticed of same sex nude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): 1st of all you make being a lesbian sound like a bad thing, its not but anyways, lots of women are aroused by other womens bodies yet are not interested on acting on these feelings in real life. this is very normal. like many of the others have said here before me, womens bodies are much more beautiful, mysterious, sexual than mens naked bodies. mens bodies are built for function yet womens bodies are more like art that should be enjoyed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): you're just going through a phase that hopefully will soon passmaybe try doing something with another woman and see if you like it.. U might find that you enjoy being a bisexual or gay.Don't think that just because ur not with a man that u cant still enjoy the feeling of sex. Strap ons and toys can be used.If you are positive you're not a gay then just let the phase past. maybe no men have treated you right in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): I guess we are in the same place . I too often wonder about
if I am or not? Maybe,a curiosity ,experiment might end this
burning question. Then you could really tell ,where you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Hi. I have your same problem, I am a woman but I like to see porn showing naked women more than men! What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): I think our society puts to much emphasis on what causes pleasure for us. We allow society to dictate what should be normal for us ( normal is a word I absolutely hate), and we shouldn't be depriving our selves of pleasures of decent things, just because society doesn't think that it is right.There is just too much comparison to what others think. You are obviously well balanced in your ways, so don't look to change a thing. We all need space to be allowed to be who we are, as long as you are realistic about it, and you do see the difference. Since you are worried about it, you definitely know the difference.All through history (even way back in biblical times)the woman's naked body has been admired by both sexes, and it is usually another woman that takes care of other womens' bodies, and they strive to make it even more attractive.(I also need to say that beauty should never thought of as just skin deep).I don't want to sound like a man with no sensitivity, but women were created to be beautiful, and to be admired as a work of art.This is where I might be phrasing this too bluntly, or in the wrong manner, but a woman's body is a work of art, and it is to be admired with enthusiasm (this can be as in a turn on ).We are not criticized for getting turned on by inanimate objects, so what is wrong with a woman getting turned on by another woman's naked body.You just happen to appreciate, and get turned on by the woman's beautiful naked body, and please don't allow anyone to take that away from you, because the next person may think it is not right.You have said that you still are turned by men, just not as much as you get turned on by naked women. That's you, please don't let anyone take that away from you.Thanks,From a philosopher by heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Hi. I'm so glad I came across this blog. I have the same issue. Just before coming across this page I tested my self and just did not find the same excitement than when I look at female porn. I myself lead a hetersxual life. I live with my boyfriend and have wondered if possibly there was something different about me... but when I mentally put myself in a situation where I can be with a woman I just don't really care for it. I mentioned this to my boyfriend and he is now convinced that I am bi or curious when infact I really don't feel I am; and believe me it's not that I have trouble with lebians, I lived with my gay aunt for a while, it's just I preffer men for real relationships and sex. As a matter of fact I feel very lucky sexually with my boyfriend. I do have a couple of theories about what the attraction may be:1. We like the way are bodies feel when we masterbate, so we admire our female bodies2. We admire our own breasts and so appreciate another womans breast and vaginal area3. The womans body is delicate and we crave softness, which sometimes men lack....and I'm sure there is a lot more you girls can come up with. Thanks, who ever you are for starting this blog. -The Happy Hetero!!
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reader, The Councilor +, writes (30 December 2007):
I used to be on the gay scene; then I met a man; I have met a lot of married women, who are, let me say curious; I have found over the years from meeting many women, who claim to be straight and never been with a woman, say they like to look at women and find them attractive, to be honest, you are very 'straight' and it is a natural thing for a woman to admire a womans body; so I wouldn't worry; if you wanted to take it further you would know and would do that, but if you are just liking to look at a woman's figure, that is quite normal and you have nothing to worry about, it is very much the norm. If you are wondering why nobody has mentioned this before is because of our victorian standards, so it is not talked about. You have to remember I am talking from many years of experience with knowing gay women, bisexual, bi-curious and straight women who I have had in depth conversations with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): i have this exact same problem!! I have always considered myself to be straight, but i get more turned on by women than men! I reallllly don't want to be a lesbian, any response so far that will help"
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): The reason women look hot when they're even just half naked.. is cause they freakin are..Tell me something what do men have up there anyways? Nothing..But women don't u just wanna touch that, feel those nipples with ur fingers and lick it with ur tongue. Women are born goddess, they are created 'beautiful beings'. Men were the first created, a bit NQR.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): i totaly know what your talking about! ive never been with a girl and cant imagine myself with one but there is something about grls half naked that is quite hot! :s
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Hiya.
Dont worry! This is just pure curiosity! Females like to look at other girls sometimes more than men, to observe or simply as a kind of role model thing. You are definatly not a lesbian for doing this!
Dont worry xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): Hey...It sounds like your just sexually curious. Many girls find the female body a turn-on or fascinating. Sometimes it's just a role-model thing, like wishing that you looked like that. It's a phase, many people I know have gone through it, so don't worry. Good luck! Cara -x-
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): this is very normal seriousley! im like you i find the naked woman body fasenating! but i am straight and have a serious, very lovely boyfiend who i have great sex with! a wamans physique is lets face it more mysterious than a mans, and their is more to like about it! but lets face it you cant resist a man with gorgeous seductive eyes, and a cute butt!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): this is very normal seriousley! im like you i find the naked woman body fasenating! but i am straight and have a serious, very lovely boyfiend who i have great sex with! a wamans physique is lets face it more mysterious than a mans, and their is more to like about it! but lets face it you cant resist a man with gorgeous seductive eyes, and a cute butt!
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reader, des16 +, writes (13 January 2007):
 i am just like you i couldnt be intimate with a woman but i too am turned on by them. sex scenes are made where the focus is all on the woman. the man hides his dick in the woman which is his best part, (he is just like a toy).
the woman is made to look sexy, beautiful and confident. i dont want to have sex with her i want to be her!
maybe you like aspects of her, the figure she has, her nice breasts.
you are like most women...normal xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007): I am a straight woman and I get attracted to gorgeous hunky men wearing smart clothing but really can't get turned on by the image of naked men. It's usually the naked woman that turns me on or may be some spicific parts of men like strong muscles,strong chest or cute toned butt etc. I don't know any woman who get turned on by looking at full monty though...hmmm but then again may be i am wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007): I too am in the same boat.
Women are the most beautiful creatures on gods green earth.
I like looking!
But when I think about going down on one that is a total turn off for me!
I don't like some of the parts I was born with so why would I want two?
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reader, Seratuki +, writes (11 January 2007):
 Hi..
I have the same issue as you..but..well..it's a long story...lol
But truthfully, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing..Personally, I find men attractive in nice clothing..or men in a uniform...:)
I don't really think naked men are all that nice to look at..I think ladies are...:P
So don't worry about it..just enjoy it for what it is...simple pleasure
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reader, Nikita +, writes (11 January 2007):
 Hiya, well Im pretty sure you're not a lesbian especially when you say you only get turned on by women on porn sites where they are blatantly sexual. If you were a lesbian then you would fancy other women, ie, in your everyday life. Its quite normal to fancy women and have sexual fanatsies about them. I think a lot of women do this and most of them are straight and have bfs. I myself sometimes get turned on by seeing images of naked women, something that pleases my partner greatly! I'm not a lesbian though. I'm totally into men. Dont worry about this at all, just enjoy it for what it is, a harmless fantasy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007): heya hunxx....
well i think u shuld sty nd stop looking at naked women on porn sites as if ure delibratley doing it then it isnt going too help! and try and get a bf if u dont alreadi have on and if u dont have feelings for the boi then ure problery a lesbinx
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reader, lena +, writes (11 January 2007):
 yeah, i sometimes get turned on by seeing naked women and i am tottaly straight. i think its normal to get turned on by women. there is nothing wrong with you don't worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007): Hi sweety first of all don't worry about your sexual urge to look at ladies and don't ever feel guilt about it. It is your private life and no one has the right to judge you for what turns you on.
I don't know your exact age, you seem young. Also, you don't say whether you enjoy these images in order to masturbate and reach a climax or just as a visual treat.
Being a lesbian is not something shameful or wrong. A lot of women in heterosexual relationships with men enjoy masturbating while looking a ladies , reading lesbian erotic stories, or engaging into phone sex with a woman. And many of these women never act on the feelings and would run a mile if a lesbian lady approached them or caressed them in a sexual way.
Discover what makes you horny and happy and only time will tell.
I am like you, although I am older than you (over 40) and with time my pleasure at looking at naked ladies developed into more. I experienced it in real life and enjoyed it tremendously. I am not a lesbian and never will be. I have a boyfriend and will always dress up for men and please men. But for my pleasure I will always get horny on women. I have a large collection of photos I enjoy and several websites on the net with photos of ladies in the categories I enjoy most. I masturbate regularly while watching them and no one can take that pleasure away from me. I am not doing anything wrong! Simply having pleasure. I also have numbers I call to have phone sex with ladies.
What I mean to say is relax, and enjoy yourself. You are doing nothing wrong. Take care sweetie.
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reader, Love2Help11 +, writes (11 January 2007):
this is not sumfing 2 worry about.it is quite normal. things like this can happen during your period.just focus on men and u will b fine. gd luck
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (11 January 2007):
 I too like watching women because they're prettier than men, and it does make me turned on when they're posing in an obviously sexy way as to attract the eye of a man (like on porn sites or in Luis Royo's paintings).
I don't consider myself a lesbian though, because I have never wanted to, in real life, sleep with a woman (not that I haven't fantasized about it though).
Try to see attraction on a scale that runs from 1 to 10, where 1 is "being attracted exclusively to the opposite gender" and 10 is "being attracted exclusively to the same gender" (5 would be someone who is a bisexual).
I think that most people won't end up on the absolute extreme ends of the scale, but will in fact be attracted a little bit to the other group. This means that if you're a heterosexual woman you might still find looking at other women a little bit arousing because you're on place 2 on the scale. It's normal, and it doesn't make you a lesbian.
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