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What are the signs to look for when you think your boyfriend is gay?

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Question - (21 February 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 17 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, *itty19 writes:

hi i need some help i think my boyfriend turning gay is there any signs to look for?

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A female reader, In Orbit Canada +, writes (17 January 2009):

I believe that my 6yr relationship ended because I couldn't take the fact that he always choose male friendship before me. He was not a flamer, he tried to be cool with a crotch rocket bike, gave me everything materialistic but little or no sex, we were like roomates. He had 2 uncles that were gay, one had a sex change. I came from the airline industry so I was always cool with the uncles at Christmas. It broke my heart that he wasted my time - gave me a ring but never committed to it. In the end when I found guys sleeping on my couch after being locked out after a horrible car accident I had to force myself in the house with law enforcement - he was stone cold, said I was crazy. It back fired in his face. He was quick to pay me off - It broke my heart.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008):

Its so hard to say what kind of signs because every gay is different. most gays are very fem tho tight clothes good style celeb gossip label whores know fashion very clean sometimes ocd not sexual

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007):

Yes there are signs the number 1 sign is if he always talking about how other men look, the way he walks, if he puts his hands on his waist alot , always doing alot of baking .

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A male reader, sephiroth United States +, writes (5 April 2007):

sephiroth agony auntNo, no, no, no, no... I'm gay and dont wear pink, dont use make up, i dont like light colors... or purple.. i dont bent my wrists.... i dont use the word "oh my god" or "fabulous" I love sports, i've worked in construction... Love fixing my car or the house and.... well if you want to know if he is gay or not.. ask him!! Nah.. just kidding.. If he has a computer you might want to look into his hardrive for any files that might contain homosexual content. You can also get access to the history folder.. How about his friends? Have you met them? I mean the least he might be a metrosexual, or bi...the worst ..gay! Good luck my dear friend!!!!

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A female reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x United Kingdom +, writes (22 February 2007):

x.Helpful.Cupid.x agony auntHiya.

Dressing more feminine

Looking at other men in a different way

Holding his hands different

Changes his clothes

Stealing your makeup

Paints the walls pink/purple

Or if when hes with men he hugs them or acts slightly different.

Good luck!! x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007):

if he starts painting your walls different colors

if he starts dresses in pink and says "omg i love that top"

if he walks with his hands up and bent

he could also be masculine gay, and theres no way to find out but ask.

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A male reader, Ponungalungb United States +, writes (21 February 2007):

Ponungalungb agony auntHere's a web site that might help:

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (21 February 2007):

TELLULAH agony auntHi,

You cannot just turn Gay. The feelings are there from a young age.

I asked one of my Gay male friends once "when did you know you were gay". His reply was when did you know you were straight. Always I guess i told him, and he said, well its the same for me.

If you know someone that mixes with gay men, they would be able to tell you straight away.

What makes you think that he is?. Does he dress a bit flamboyant, or does he have a femenine manner, or a typical queens voice. (before you all say it, I know not all of you would admit to talking like a queen, but sorry mostly you do).

Its hard to tell these days unless you mix with gay people all the time.

Of course you could ask him, and if he says he is, you could exept that and support him.

He may really need a friend if he is gay and not been able to tell anyone.

It will be painfull for you, but better to find out sooner than later.

Best wishes XXX

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