Should I try to change career?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female, i have a son who is four years old. I have been in and out of jobs since he was born but i never stick to a job. I am now studying towards a law degree but i feel like giving up already, i thought it would be for me but i ...
A. 24 June 2014: I don't see why the police force wouldn't consider you if you applied. I know from friends that it is a difficult process but they do recruit new people. You're studying a law degree? That's a pretty useful degree to have and it's very res... (read in full...)
Dating for 9 months. Now she's decided that she's not ready for a relationship? What can I do?
Q. She told she is not ready for relationship, I've been dating her for nine months. Now and all of the sudden this happens. What do i do ? Do i wait ? We headed off since we first met everything was good we had great conversations we wen...
A. 24 June 2014: Hey buddy, I feel your pain. I think most of us will have been in this situation at some point. The problem is you can't force her into a relationship (not that you'd want to of course, you just love her to pieces, right?) Look, I've been... (read in full...)
Is it okay to cry after I dumped him?
Q. So me and my boyfriend (now ex) have been together for almost 3 years. I just recently broke up with him because we both got into an argument and neither of us could stop mentioning our mistakes in the past so I broke it off (after thinking about it ...
A. 24 June 2014: Hi, Of course it's okay to cry about it and feel upset - you are, after all only human. When you have feelings for a person and when that person plays a big part in your life it will feel very horrible and upsetting thinking that they wil... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over his new wife and I don't know how to stop.
Q. I know before a write this that people are going to think i'm pathetic but i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about how i'm feeling. Long story short, i was in a sort of FWB situation that ended about 2 years ago. I was the one to end it ev...
A. 21 June 2014: Hi, I don't agree with the whole FWB thing, I don't think it's right and almost always one person from the agreement gets the raw end of the deal. You are that person. Do y'know what, don't feel ashamed or bad, life has its ups and downs and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend moved on so quickly after break up and I feel upset
Q. 3 weeks ago, I broke things off with my now ex boyfriend. He was my best friend, someone I've known since high school and we stayed together during our last two years of college. He is the first guy I honestly have said "I love you" to, and he said ...
A. 8 June 2014: No you're not in the wrong - I know I'd be feeling just as mad and frustrated as you do now. The fact is you did nothing wrong, you were a nice loving and attentive girlfriend that he chose to take for granted - to avoid you like that and not be ... (read in full...)
Should we just take things slow and see what happens?
Q. Okay, sorry if this becomes long but I think I need to get it all out so you folks can better judge the situation So, I’m 24 and the girl in question is 23 still at university (I graduated before her) – I have known this girl for 2 years or more ...
A. 7 June 2014: As usual, I agree with the WiseOwlE. She seems like the right kinda girl you'd want to be involved with and she seems to be sticking around after everything. Pace yourself and take time - the fact you want to do it slowly is excellent! So ma... (read in full...)
I feel I am already in the friend zone ...
Q. So what makes a girl contact you relentlessly for a week (she initiates almost every conversation), invite you to her grad party, and ask you to go to the movies with her (which I did on Monday) after almost 8 months of no contact? I had a great ...
A. 5 June 2014: Seems to me that she probably likes you more than a friend BUT to really find out what's going on you're gunna have to play it cool and wait. Don't rush into anything at this point - it's a good sign that she's talking, wanting you around etc. ... (read in full...)
Co worker... Flirting?
Q. Hi all, I'm new here anyway I started a new job around a month ago and since I have a co worker who always stares at me I always catch him in the corner of my eye I pretend I havnt noticed anyway he's always sort of touches my arm and try's to make ...
A. 3 June 2014: Sounds like flirting to me - the touching is a dead giveaway without when mentioning him checking you out.
Do you like this guy? If so you should probably talk to him a bit more.
Suppose it depends what kinda guy he is - is he a player etc, y... (read in full...)
Will I be forever stuck as just her friend?
Q. I waited too long and now it us clear that she now only wants to be my friend. I am okay with this for now but if the feelings were there once, could she ever see me as more than a friend again? Or am I stuck forever her friend?...
A. 3 June 2014: I agree with chigirl - if there's anything I've learned about love so far in my life is never say never. If she has feelings for you they ain't just going to disappear, they ate there still, as we speak. Even if a girl says 'we aren't going ... (read in full...)
This married guy knows I have a crush on him and he touched and kissed me and said, "lets be casual". What does he mean by that?
Q. here's this guy a married man 47 yrs old, he's my friend and most of his family members were my friend also. last year i realized i really like him (crush). but i kept it inside me. he's so nice to me and whenever we see each other he always f...
A. 3 June 2014: It means he wants you for sex because you're young and attractive. He does not love you, sure he lusts after you but it ends there
He seems a pretty low individual to do this if he is married - spells bad news, keep away!!
You're nothin... (read in full...)
I feel like men don't want to enter a relationship with me because I have a child.
Q. I'll try to keep this short. I'm 25 years old and I have a 6 year old daughter I've been dating for the past 4 years since I split from her father. The problem I'm having is I feel like men don't want to enter a relationship with me because I have a ...
A. 3 June 2014: Hi there,
I imagine this is a common problem with single mothers wanting to date.
I don't think you'll always be getting the bottom of the barrel - sure some guys won't want to deal with 'baggage' but there are plenty of mature, decent g... (read in full...)
Now I'm just a friend because it took me so long to get the courage to tell her I like her
Q. Dear agony aunt, ive known this girl for around a year now and a few months ago she started taking an interest in me. While I was dying to reciprocate the feeling, it took me a while to pluck up the courage and tell her I like her. But now it's as ...
A. 2 June 2014: Tell her how you feel man! What are you waiting for?!
If you don't tell her you will always regret it (trust me on that) - even if she tells you she only sees you as a friend at least you'll hear it from her and not just friends.
You nee... (read in full...)
My 17 yr old son met an American girl while gaming online and now her parents are offering to pay for his ticket so he can meet her! I'm scared that he'll never come back!
Q. Hi Looking for some advice! My 17 yr old son met an American girl while gaming online 4 yrs ago! They have been chatting on fb and Skype since and now he wants to go to America to meet her! Apparently her parents will pay for his ticket!! I have t...
A. 1 June 2014: I'm 23 with no kids but even I have to say I'd be scared too in your shoes, I mean it's not as if he's just going to be down to road at her house or in another city... We are talking America!! That's a huge country! On another note it would a ... (read in full...)
I really hope I haven't ruined things with this guy! What do I do now?
Q. Can someone please give me some advice?!!! For the last 6 weeks I have been on 5 dates with a guy from work I really like. The first few weeks were great and he made me feel fantastic! He brought chocolate to my office for me, we went on romantic ...
A. 1 June 2014: I agree with oldbag, you need to take a step back and see what happens. Clearly he was very interested in and seems like a lovely gent. I think you unintentionally moved fast because you wanted to kinda make sure he was yours - been guilty of t... (read in full...)
In love with a guy who hates me
Q. Hi, I have never had a boyfriend and I am still a virgin despite being 20 years old. I fell in love with one of the first guys who ever talked to me in high school, even though we never talked much. We just had two classes together and he would ...
A. 1 June 2014: It's stories like this that really makes me think us guys are jerks, I mean how low and horrible of him - the only good and semi noble thing he's done is stop leading you on because he knew all he wanted from you was sex.
Fear not however,... (read in full...)
Is it wise to play it cool now?
Q. I fell out with my close male friend eight months ago We got close too soon and as a result became clingy and too emotional and pushed him away Last night I saw him at a friends leaving do He saw me and looked awkward so I just remained calm ...
A. 1 June 2014: Certainly seems to be some unresolved issues with him regarding you, that's for sure! As a guy I know when another guy is trying to get attention and from the sounds of it he was certainly doing that at the party.
Maybe he feels something for you?... (read in full...)
I know she has no interest in the activity, so why did she join my group?
Q. When my ex girlfriend and I were together, I could never get her to participate in any of the activities I enjoyed. Now that she's single again, she's deliberately joined one of the groups in which she knows I'm active with. An activity she has ...
A. 1 June 2014: I think both of the answers posted so far pretty much sum up what I think of the situation.
When I read this for some reason my initial thought was she wants to open up something. Not 100% what or why but she has certainly joined because of you b... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing the girl AND watching her love someone else?
Q. Well, after a year of being with her as great friends, I finally confessed my feeling. She didn't feel the same. The friendship didn't last. Only a week after our friendship ended, I see her with another guy at school. They both are always in each ...
A. 28 May 2014: I feel your pain man! Nothing worse than loving someone who openly doesn't love you. I've been there, I doubt there isn't a single person out there who hasn't had their hearts ripped out by the dreaded friend zone, especially when the friendship ... (read in full...)
Should I start up a text conversation with her again?
Q. Dear Cupids, I just got this girls nnumber last week. I waited a day and then texted her. A day later she responded while I was out with some friends. Probably should of told her I was busy. I ended up starting to text her back after a couple o...
A. 28 May 2014: I don't think you've quite blown it yet - I mean she seemed happy enough talking before, right? As you say she's probably just been busy like you. If you like her just send her a casual text but something she can respond to, ask a couple of questi... (read in full...)
I'm falling for one of my best friends ....
Q. Been friends for a few years. Last year and a bit we've become really close. We do everything together, always hangout, close with her family. I've never had feelings for her, until a month ago. Do I tell her? I don't know if she feels the same...
A. 25 May 2014: Who hasn't been in this situation right? It's just one of those natural but potentially disastrous things that can happen in a friendship - someone once told me that guys and girls are never just friends... Now that's a pile of crap as its ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent my step-mom a sex message intended for my girlfriend!
Q. Okay. . .I know some of you will be tempted to think this a prank message and OH BOY I REALLY wish it was at the moment. My girlfriend and I got into "the mood" and decided to send sex messages and pics to each other. We were really getting i...
A. 10 May 2014: I agree with Daisy... She's probably just had a quiet laugh about it and doesn't want to say anything to shame or embarrass you.
She probably sees the funny side of it - this will be a funny story one day. I know it's pretty cringing but all ... (read in full...)
He's moved on. How can I move on and forget him?
Q. So I started seeing a guy at the beginning of this year. I'm quite shy, and it took a lot of effort from him to convince me to say yes to a date. I didn't have much experience with guys before him; I had only been seeing one other guy, and at ...
A. 10 May 2014: I know how you feel - here's a little of my story. So just like you I met this girl, nothing 'official' happened but we were always talking, she actually asked for my number and called me - from then we just talked for hours, even into the ea... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a blowjob but I can't do it due to past experiences
Q. My current boyfriend of almost a year really wants me to give him a blowjob. He's asked a number of times and at first I thought nothing of it and said I would at some point, but more recently he's become more naggy on the topic. This has made me ...
A. 9 May 2014: You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do
Your boyfriend really needs to grow up and understand this
Blow jobs are not 'normal' in a relationship - they are something extra that couples do IF they want to.
If he can't acc... (read in full...)
Will I be limiting my chances of having a Boyfriend considering that I don't like giving blow jobs?
Q. Will I have limited boyfriend chances unless I give blow jobs?? I don't mind hand jobs, but I'm not a person who feels comfortable with the idea of a penis in my mouth. I also don't particularly like the idea of a guy ejaculating on me, but I don't ...
A. 9 May 2014: No you're fine :)
You don't need to do anything like that if a guy loves you. I know us guys enjoy blow jobs etc but it's not the end of the world if they aren't involved in the relationship. If you're not comfortable doing acts like that the... (read in full...)
I want to forget my ex but how?
Q. My boyfriend broke me up a week ago, then he deactivated his Facebook account. I beg because I love him so much, I have done everything for him. It really hurts, he doesn't answer my text and when I call him, he will turn off his cellphone. What ...
A. 8 May 2014: I feel your pain I am also trying to forget a special someone. It's very very difficult. We are cut off - no more Facebook, unanswered texts. I'm not sure there's any way to forget, if you loved him as much as I love this girl I am telli... (read in full...)
I'm still undecided about my career path!
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I have always found the aunts and uncles advice so helpful so I thought I would ask. How do you decide which career path to take? I am currently four years into a law degree and will graduate this summer. Alo...
A. 7 May 2014: Y'know I can totally relate to this. I am a qualified barrister - went to university then trained for the Bar in London All good right? Pretty proud achievement BUT something is nagging at me as to whether I carry on or not. I feel the same wa... (read in full...)
He always wants sex
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend won't stop trying to have sex, we can never stay in a just watch a dvd, he always trys it on, and I tell him no but he will carry on until he gets it, should I say something? Thanks ...
A. 5 May 2014: Yes say something - just because you're his girlfriend doesn't mean he can have sex on tap because HE feels like it - the feeling has to be a mutual one.
You don't need to come on too seriously but just firmly state your case and leave it there - ... (read in full...)
My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!
Q. I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...
A. 4 May 2014: Good for you. If you don't feel right about this guy then drop him - you're 21, find someone you feel comfortable with.
Just don't become a cheat yourself, as tempting as it is to hurt him do not do that... (read in full...)
Is he right -- am I being selfish?
Q. Im in need of some advice, i been with a guy for 7 years and is has been a roll coaster. i feel like he is so selfish and only cares about himself but yet again, he says im selfish. we are in a long distance relationship hes in florida and im in new ...
A. 4 May 2014: Of course you're not being selfish. If anything it's him being selfish.
If he loved you he would want to support you in your education and your achievements - I dunno maybe he's a little jealous and intimated because you're doing good for your... (read in full...)
My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!
Q. I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...
A. 4 May 2014: Why on earth would he do that? He had a perfectly good girlfriend at home who loved him - this is what gives us guys a bad name.
That was a really dumb mistake on his part. The thought of going to a place like that makes me awkward. ... (read in full...)
Guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself?
Q. A question for the guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself .... I ask because my bf said he did this before we were together . He saw a very sexy woman one day out and said he went ...
A. 4 May 2014: Hmmmm I can honestly say I've never done that, nor have I ever felt the need to ... (read in full...)
I rarely see my boyfriend, is this a rough patch?
Q. Hi everyone, Lately I've been find it hard to cope with how much I'm seeing my boyfriend. We've been dating for a year now and recently he got a new position at work which has limited the time we see each other. We use to see each other almost ev...
A. 3 May 2014: Darling, you are being taken fir granted
I mean seriously you sound like the ideal girlfriend - wanting to be involved and really trying your best.
I'd feel exactly the same way if I were you - what right does he have to just dismiss how you ... (read in full...)
What's up with this old friend?
Q. What is up with my childhood friend? He has a girlfriend but has always been very protective of me with other guys i went out with saying they arent good enough and giving them dirty looks. Hes in his 30s im nearly 30 he seems to have put his ...
A. 3 May 2014: As a guy, it sounds to me that at some point during your friendship he has developed feelings of love for you. Hence why he hates it when guys take you away from him - I know he's in a relationship but sometimes you just can't help how your heart ... (read in full...)
Do I ask her to see if she'd like to date again? Or just let things go till later?
Q. I need some advice on what to do with a girl I've been seeing lately. I met a girl and we started to date for around two months. Within that time we enjoyed each others company; I did nice things to suprise her and we generally had a fun time. ...
A. 2 May 2014: Hey there buddy, I know exactly how you're feeling. I've been in the same situation before. From the sounds of it she does really like you so at least you know she's not messing you around. If you're worried about messing this up what I... (read in full...)
We talked for hours every day, but now that he's home he doesn't have any time for me?
Q. There's a guy who I know and I've seen around a few times who is sort of like a friend of friends. We've had each other on Facebook for around 3 years but have never actually got to know each other properly, until recently. In short- he is in the ...
A. 2 May 2014: I really feel for you sweetheart! Because I've been in this awful situation before. I spoke to this girl all the time and it was lovely. We'd text, Facebook, phone each other and even meet up. I thought she was the one. I still regret it now. ... (read in full...)
Is this how a booty call works or not?
Q. So Aunts and Uncles.. I had sex with a guy laat night. He's my sisters friend and I like to consider it a "booty call" and thought we were on the same page. Well we stopped by Walmart afterward and he kept holding my hand and kissing me in public. ...
A. 2 May 2014: As a guy I can say, we become very attached to a girl after sex, I mean it's a pretty close and intimate thing to do!
Sounds to me like this guy has fallen for you. If you like him too why not see where it goes?? I mean we don't want to be ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gave another girl his number just to be friendly
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 year and a half. A couple of months ago he was at a party with some friends and he met a girl there. (she wasn't just some random girl, she's good friends with some people at the party) My boyfriend s...
A. 2 May 2014: You are not controlling. Sure there's nothing wrong with having opposite sex friends but texting and talking often is a bit off to me... There are boundaries you don't cross in a relationship. I mean think about it, how mad would your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
He's an awesome boyfriend but I just can't come to terms with his past
Q. I feel like such a dumbass for writing this question. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months or so, and he's an exceptional boyfriend. It's been great, I'm really happy. Except I'm having problems accepting his past. I know, I know... it shoul...
A. 2 May 2014: I feel your pain. No matter what people say, it always hurts to think of a partners past especially when it comes down to sex. You're right, guys feel it too.
You seem very sweet and you've got you're head screwed on so don't worry you ain't a ... (read in full...)
Could an attractive real woman make a guy less interested in porn?
Q. Right here is a question I possibly know the answer to. Lets say a guy likes a lot of porn, glamour mags, sexy photos etc. is here any way him finding a real woman who is attractive in looks and personality can change this or at least lessen it? ...
A. 2 May 2014: Interesting question. I'd say with some guys having a girlfriend does make porn less of an issue. I mean I certainly know which I'd choose! To me there's no contest between porn and a genuinely lovely, sexy girl, she'd win every time because she ... (read in full...)
Where am I going wrong?
Q. Can someone tell me whats wrong with men today? I was dating a guy i met recently. He was a shy or quiet person anyway and when i text him i would get very dry responses and I ask him had he plans for the weekend. It seems I have offended him and...
A. 1 May 2014: Sorry to hear your problems with men. And it's always horrible when the person you love is with someone!!
Just seems to me the men you're meeting are wrong. Doesnt seem like you're doing anything wrong to me.
Maybe you just need to keep wai... (read in full...)
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