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female
age
41-50,
*ham
writes:My boyfriend broke me up a week ago, then he deactivated his Facebook account. I beg because I love him so much, I have done everything for him. It really hurts, he doesn't answer my text and when I call him, he will turn off his cellphone. What should I do to forget him? He's always in my mind. I'm always crying, even at work.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 May 2014):
 It's been a week. Time will heal this pain.
DO not contact him.
DO NOT stalk him.
You must respect his desire to end it with you and accept it.
You have my permission to mourn fully for six weeks:
you can go without makeup
you can wear dark glasses to cover your red eyes
you can cry 24/7
you can skip exercise
you can eat whatever you want including ice cream from the carton or whipped cream straight from the can.....
avoid drugs and alcohol if you can it will make it worse.
you may obsess over him and about him with any and all friends that will listen and support you.
WRITE HIM LONG detailed letters about how you feel. say anything and everything you want to say.
the one rule is DO NOT MAIL THESE LETTERS. In fact, seal them up in an envelope and put them away in a drawer you rarely use. in a few years read them... it's very enlightening.
having your heart broken is part and parcel of growing up. Even at your age.
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reader, wise-guy  +, writes (8 May 2014):
I feel your pain I am also trying to forget a special someone. It's very very difficult. We are cut off - no more Facebook, unanswered texts. I'm not sure there's any way to forget, if you loved him as much as I love this girl I am telling you nothing you try will make you forget. People will say 'keep busy' and 'find things to take your mind off him' it just won't work I suppose time is the only healer in a situation like this - I certainly don't want to feel like this forever It'll get easier, the day's will get better and eventually you'll accept how life is - as horrible as that seems. Time is the only way to forget. And even then you'll never truly forget, but it won't hurt as much to remember. All the best for you.
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