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writes:So me and my boyfriend (now ex) have been together for almost 3 years. I just recently broke up with him because we both got into an argument and neither of us could stop mentioning our mistakes in the past so I broke it off (after thinking about it if I was sure I wanted to for 4 days. Is it horrible I cried and felt sad about the whole thing? He did become my best friend, he made me happy, and I did fall in love with him. It's just I couldn't get past the fact that every time we argued our past would come up.Plus, he was my first boyfriend, and the first guy I ever feel in love with so its hard now...is this okay?After that day I literally cried the next because now neither of us will be in each others lives. No more being friends and now we wont be able to talk anymore.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (24 June 2014):
FIRST love is very important but it does not always mean in most cases thats its your LAST love .Its quiet natural to have a real good cry after the relationship ended.He will always be a SPECIAL memory for you and part of your youth. Maybe in time you might be able to be just friends.Just give it a little time and be gentle with yourself.Best Wishes NORA B.
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reader, wise-guy  +, writes (24 June 2014):
Hi, Of course it's okay to cry about it and feel upset - you are, after all only human.When you have feelings for a person and when that person plays a big part in your life it will feel very horrible and upsetting thinking that they will never be in your life again. you will think of all the great times you had, the conversations etc ... You might be tempted to look back on photos of that person and of course it will hurt - there might even be times when you think to yourself that you've done the wrong thing and that maybe you acted in haste. People will tell you that there are plenty of fish in the sea but I know from recent bitter experience that sometimes only that one fish will do. Remember that you aren't alone in this feeling of upset, your ex is more than likely feeling the same things - maybe he is coming to terms with it or maybe he is thinking in his mind that there may be a way to solve this problem - who knows. The thing is, even if it is you that did the breaking up, it is still going to hurt and you are going to be upset. I don't know if you still love him or not? If you do and you think maybe you acted too fast I will tell you now that you should open up to him and tell him these feelings - of course I don't know your situation BUT don't let him go without thinking about things first and talking to him.If however you are at the stage of wanting to move on then you just need time to heal - Have your cry and upset, a good cry can really refresh you, its better then pretending you're okay (like an idiot I do that all too often) You're allowed to be upset. If you want to move on then it will happen as a natural part of life, the upset will fade and you'll feel okay about the situation. All the very best for you
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reader, Lolaxx  +, writes (24 June 2014):
Of course it's normal to cry, most people hurt even after shorter relationships and at more mature ages, in your case it's to be expected...but just remember that at some point you're going to have to move on for your own sake..and don't be sad about it being over...be happy for all the memories and the amazing feelings he left you with! Take care!
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