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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:So what makes a girl contact you relentlessly for a week (she initiates almost every conversation), invite you to her grad party, and ask you to go to the movies with her (which I did on Monday) after almost 8 months of no contact? I had a great time, and she said she did too, but I've been second guessing the whole situation like crazy since Tuesday morning.Am I just a...Source of validation?Ego boost?Friend or something I can't think of?I wouldn't mind being with this girl, but I feel I'm either already in the friendzone, or just a quick ego boost.Any suggestions on how I should look at this? should I just ignore/act uninterested/act hard to get with her from now on when she texts me?I'd appreciate any feedback!
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reader, llifton +, writes (5 June 2014):
 You say it's been 8 months of no contact. For me? If I contacted someone out of the blue as feverishly as she's been contacting you, I would say it's an ego boost.
The times I've done that in the past were when I'd been dumped or hurt in some way and feeling down on myself. So I boosted my ego by calling and receiving attention from someone I knew was a sure thing.
Don't quote me on this. I could be wrong. Just my two cents.
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reader, wise-guy  +, writes (5 June 2014):
Seems to me that she probably likes you more than a friend BUT to really find out what's going on you're gunna have to play it cool and wait. Don't rush into anything at this point - it's a good sign that she's talking, wanting you around etc. Continue to talk to her and hang out and see what happens from there - if she's starting to conversations etc it's a pretty good clue that she likes you more than just a friend - you're not in the friendzone yet luckily!
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