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writes:I waited too long and now it us clear that she now only wants to be my friend. I am okay with this for now but if the feelings were there once, could she ever see me as more than a friend again? Or am I stuck forever her friend? Reply to this Question
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reader, llifton  +, writes (4 June 2014):
 There's not a whole lot of background details here to go off of. However, for me, personally, once somebody is friend-zoned, there is no going back. But that's just me.
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reader, methuselah  +, writes (3 June 2014):
Hi,
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/now-im-just-a-friend-because-it-took.html
Did you post this above earlier? I felt you should have asked. Did you ask her? Thanks.
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reader, wise-guy +, writes (3 June 2014):
I agree with chigirl - if there's anything I've learned about love so far in my life is never say never. If she has feelings for you they ain't just going to disappear, they ate there still, as we speak. Even if a girl says 'we aren't going to be more than friends' whether she's angry at you or just not ready for a relationship, it doesn't matter IF she has ever felt feelings for you more than that of a friend then she can't say you're always just going to be a friend - anything can happen, especially if you've been close and are still talking. If you've already asked her out and she's said no then don't despair - back off and slow things down, talk to her casually, text her even call her, I know from personal experience that talking over the phone is better than a text, because she'll hear your voice and it will make her want to be with you. But be cool with it. Don't be needy and pushy, don't get too deep about liking her - remind her that you're a sweet, fun and flirty guy to be around. She might not text you back straight away because she'll be busy, this ain't a reason to worry of clog her phone with needy annoying texts - that will drive her away moreAt the same time however don't throw your toys out of the pram and give her the silent treatment - I mean there's nothing wrong with being a little distant to see if she misses talking to you - but you're gunna get next to nowhere by action like an aloof jerk. Just be you, don't over think things, take some time to evaluate your next moves. Don't rush in and beg or try to reason - just talk to her and if she did feel something for you before she will eventually want to be more than friends. All the best buddy
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 June 2014):
 If the feelings were there once, they are still there. It's not about a timeline and there is no friendzone. It's about whether or not a girl likes a boy as more than a friend. If the answer is yes, then she thinks he boyfriend material. That rarely changes, even if she says you are just friends. You'd have to have done something in order for her to not see you as boyfriend material, if that is so... But even that can be changed.
How do you know she once had feelings for you, and what do you mean by you waited too long? Did you wait too long to ask her out? How do you know it's too late?
In most cases, a girl thinks a boy doesn't like her if he doesn't ask her out, and so she tries to forget about him, because who wants to be in love with someone who doesn't like them back?
Just ask her out and see what she says. It's never too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2014): Look I have been in your place but as a female I know it is difficult and you are in a tricky situation!! I never told them I had feelings and I still am regretting it you should tell her before its too late!! You never know she might be hiding some feelings for you deep down!! Its worth a shot go for it and it may work out for you. If she use to like you she probably has a few feelings hid away as it can be hard to stop feeling for the other person. Do what u feel is right in the end. Good luck!!
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