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writes:my boyfriend wants to penetrate me from the 'rear' can anyone offer advice on how to do it painlessly?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Youneed to be totally in to it and relaxed. Just remember the pleasure you will be giving him will come back to you in a hundred different ways. There should be no pain associated with any sexual act and if thee is you should not repeat that act.Use a load of lubricant and relax!
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (9 July 2010):
I hate to say this, but the way I got my girlfriend to enjoy it, was to court her. I did lots of little things over many nights to get her used to it. I waited till she was ready. Then when it happened it took our relationship to a nice new level. And it wasn't painful at all. It was fun. Good luck.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (9 July 2010):
hi
like all have said lots of lube, relax and make shore you want to try. it can be very hornie for you both but you will need to be turned on. good luck and lets all know how you go....
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (9 July 2010):
IF you want him to do it that way then go for it with lots of lubricant. If you don't then tell him no. A good hand job is twice as good for him anyway.
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reader, koojoe +, writes (9 July 2010):
lots and lots of lubricant, like KY Jelly and tell him to enter very, very slowly.
i would advise, don't go straight into the anal penetration, have some nice foreplay to get you both relaxed and in the groove.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): Hello,
Now you say your boyfriend wants anal sex, but you don't mention IF you do, or if you are just going along with what he wants sexually. So first I will say, if this is not something that appeals to you, then don't do it. We all have a likes and dislikes, and there is no doubt anal sex unless relaxed, highly aroused and 'lubricated' may not be as enjoyable for YOU as it would be for your boyfriend.
Some tips:
1. Plenty of foreplay so you are very relaxed and aroused
2. Use a water based lubricant, lots on the market, and in the local drug store. Don't use one that heats up, especially for a first time.
3. You guide him as to how much of his penis you want, or FEEL comfortable taking in, and agree beforehand if you are uncomfortable or want him stop, he STOPS right away.
4. Vary the position until it's the right position for you, doggy style too deep for a first time. May be spooning, he behind you, gentle stimulating you, penetrating you gently. It can also be quite gently done if he's on top of you, but again, you guide him as to what feels right for you.
Not sure how long you have known him, but I suggest condoms, and if you do have anal sex, remember not to let him penetrate you vaginally with the same condom, or if you've been together a long time, and he's natural, without washing himself first.
As clean as people can be, bathing lots, regular showers, high standards of personal hygiene, the rectum is for passing waste from our bodies, and the bacteria in the anus is totally different to the vagina. This is normal advice giving in most sex guide books, so be aware that you will need to be a little careful.
The most important piece of advise I feel I can offer you though, ONLY do it you want to - otherwise you will not be relaxed or aroused, and the more aroused and relaxed you are, the better for YOU!
Good luck!
Jilly x
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reader, Violet009 +, writes (9 July 2010):
 The key to anal sex is lube. Never skimp on the lube! As a special treat to my boyfriend I like to indulge him in anal sex and it took me quite awhile to get used to the sensation. You should start off with some gentle anal play, lube the area, perhaps get him to insert a finger or two and see how you go with that. Make sure you are relaxed and wanting to do this.
Once you're ready for anal penetration make sure he is lubed up and being very slow and gentle with you. Good communication is the key. Tell him if hes hurting you or if he needs to slow down etc. It took a few goes for my boyfriend and I to have anal sex, it's not a process to rush until your relaxed and it can take a bit of getting used to.
Good luck! hope this helped :)
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