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writes: How can I help my gag reflex, and give him deep throat? I have a real problem with gagging, so how can I relax the muscles?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): Deep throating can be over-rated. See if it is something your lover even wants or needs.
I have an average gag reflex and my man is on the small size so his penis fits just right in my mouth so gagging is less of an issue. But don't feel obligated... talk it out and see what he prefers.
I have discovered that my lover really likes my to take him out of my mouth from time to time and just kiss, like and embrace him along the side of his penis along its length with my mouth.
I think he likes that is makes him feel longer and he knows I am fully enjoying his penis actively. And it gives some variance of the 'in and out' of it all. I consider these actions as the foreplay of the oral sex, before he climaxes...
Deep, deep throat you cannot really do too much outside of sucking as your mouth is so full.
Don't forget other parts of his body as you love him this way... leg and knee cap stroking, ball caressing with hands and fingers. Engage all of the man if deep throating is not your thing.
It may not be his either or it may not be the ONLY thing he will like. Again talk it out...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 All the obsession over blow jobs is boring. I've had good ones and really bad ones but the best ones don't involve deep throating or gagging. Holding the tip between the lips while stroking the shaft with your hand and tickling the scrotum with the othe will change his mind forever. He'll soon forget the deep throat fantasy.
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reader, mistressgemini  +, writes (15 November 2009):
Please ask your guy to be honest about a desire to have you deep throat. If he really wants this disregard what Annalisa said. The fake deep throat she suggests will do nothing close to the real sensation and he will continue wanting you to deep throat. Being able to make a guy cum from a blow job isn't difficult so it should not be assumed that making him cum means you can give a good blow job. Many guys will rate the woman they are with as ok or fair though she thinks her rate is all time best bj giver. This is why open and honest communication is vital.
You can try a throat spray, losenges, or Oral Sex Mints which all contain a numbing agent. This will help a lot when you first begin learning. There is nothing compared to the lubrication the saliva from deep throating provides, it lasts a good amount of time which makes the job easier.
Remember being fully covered is not the same as the sensation of being fully in a mouth. Its like saying if he covers your clit with his hand but licks everywhere other than the clit you will be just as satisfied as if he was licking your clit!
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reader, saggers  +, writes (12 December 2008):
I find that breathing out whilst taking it in stops the gagging reflex, I also agree with first response, easier to do when he is lying down and you do down from on top in the 69 posistion.
Enjoy
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): hi! deepthroating is really not hard, it just takes practice. the main thing is that you need to learn to relax your throat to let something actually slide into your throat, down the esophogus. I found that the easiest way for me to learn was with a dildo. dont try with something really thick, try with something thinner to medium first and long. you want to use something fairly long so that you can have a good hand hold on it.
youll be surprised at the thickness you will be able to swallow.
whether or not it is a dildo or a penis, here is the technique that worked for me when I was learning.
it needs to be well lubricated with saliva and it helps to have a little saliva in the back of your throat.
tilt your head back and slide the dildo all the way in to the very back of your throat. you may want to just practice holding it here to get used to the feeling of something in the back of your throat.... even this may make you gag. when you gag, pull it out a little bit then put it back right away trying to fight the gag reflex. you are just retraining your brain to overcome an automatic reflex.
after doing that for awhile... 10 minutes to several times over a few days, then go to the next step
with the dildo or penis against the back of your throat press it back as you swallow. it is going to feel wierd at first as your throat tries to close around the dildo (or penis) but just try this a few times.... it will come right back out of your throat at first. just keep doing this to get used to the feeling.
when you are more accustomed to the feeling, try pushing it in farther as you swallow. just keep progressing with this until you are satisfied with the result.
at first I had a very strong gag reflex but now I can swallow 9" fairly easily.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): if u really must deep throat, lol, try lying on bed (head can b tilted or hanging off a lil) have him get on top and place it in your mouth slowly, relax ur tongue, this will b much easier than trying regular way. tip tho, this technique (deep throat) takes practice and if u r not a pro at it, u will gag so take ur time. And too, like they said u really don't have to deep throat, its really all in da mouth, tongue, and wrist try making a vibrating sensation wit yo tongue as u go down (can't really explain it, its like making yo tongue go up and down as if u were scratching da roof of your mouth) I taught this technique to myself and it drives my man wild good luck and don't give up, practice makes perfect!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Providing you want to take it deep - this may work for you. Try it a little at a time, practice at it - then you can gradually control your throat muscles as you go deeper, and eventually you will master it and control the gagging.
Failing that, you can pleasure him just as much by using your mouth like you have been, but make your tongue work too by flicking it round the head and licking the full length of it, as if teasing him.
Like Annalisa says cover and massage the lower part of his penis as you're doing all this, carry on with your tongue tease and lick around the underside of it too and round the testicles. He'll love it!!
Have fun practicing and enjoy!
BigSis xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): I've heard, that if you go down a lil bit, swallow, go down some more, swallow, and keep repeating that till your all the way down, you can get it accomplished without gagging.
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