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anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm 16, and i have large labora minora (outer vaginal lips) i worry constantly, and what happens when it gets to the stage when i'm going a bit further in relationships?Please, male and female, give me your opinions.and i know its normal, but i find it gross. No one else seems to have this problem.Help, opinions, everyone.Love ya x
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 the bigger the better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): thankyou all, very helpful.i guess the key is to be confident and love what ya have.(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): My ex was the same way, and I loved it. It is a rare treat, and just as they say, guys tastes are like ice cream flavors. There are tons of them out there.
I am just one dude but I really enjoyed it.
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reader, dorothy2342  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 It is wonderful we are all so uniquely and amazingly different. The important thing is not how you look but if it works. If you are so large it is painful in some of your clothing or during sex, ther is surgury to reduce the size, but I wouldn't dream of surgury unless it was ever an issue of pain. Different does not mean gross, different means special, unique. You probably don't know how extremely different men's penises look from each other, especiallly with an errection. Short, long, thick, thin, curves to the right, curves to the left, hooks up, turns down, doesn't get errect, stays too soft. I will bet the thing they care about the most is if it gets them off. None of them are gross, it's how their made, like all of us just different. Your genitals define you as a woman, they are there for a purpose and your pleasure, not to make you unhappy. Life has too many stink bombs to be unhappy with what God gave you. FYI in certain countries the girls are forced to have their labia removed before pubity because they believe that if they prevent her ability to enjoy sex she will remain faithful to her husband. Now that is horrible and inhumane. Be thankful you can enjoy yours.
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reader, philsmegan +, writes (21 March 2010):
Hi
well, as one of many women who has this problem, let me tell you..
i have had this since before i realized there was something different about my genitals.then i had 2 children that actually made it more pronounced. my current love, the man i wish to spend the rest of my life with says to me constantly that there is nothing wrong, and that its just another part of ME, and that he loves me and therefore it. if you can find someone who cares about you that much..it wont matter what you look like, you are just you.so, dont sweat the small stuff hon, and remember that its a normal thing, and MANY of us women have it.
i hope my rambling may give you some insight
-m
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): I have always thought it is sexy....there is no set shape or size for a vagina but my circle of friends have always viewed larger lips as a good thing. hope this helps a bit kiddo........
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): I have your same "problem", but trust me like everybody else when I say that if the guy truly cares for you and loves you, he wont mind and he'll love you for who you are.
My boyfriend was a virgin when I met him. During our first time, I had the lights out because I was shy and a little embarassed that he wouldn't like my labia...well, he didnt seem to mind at all and went straight to please me. Then I gradually felt more and more comfortable until I just don't mind him seeing me down there (even though sometimes I do get self conscious of my lips still)
The point is, don't worry about it. Do what you need to do, and eventually, with the right guy, you'll realize that it doesnt matter. He will love you and everything about you.
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (21 March 2010):
 The way to overcome that worry is to only go further with a guy you know loves you and respects your body. A guy like that will love every part of your part however different it looks. Another advice I can give you is to stop calling it "gross." Once *you* start believing it's not gross, your confidence about it will make other guys not care how it looks (which doesn't look bad I'm sure).
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reader, rotarosca +, writes (21 March 2010):
I think you are thinking too much. You can meet your GP to get reassurance that you are normal. If a guy loves you, he'll be happy with the way you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Thankyou all.
But what if the guy i want to go further with is a virgin ? im just worried it wont be what he expects and might tell everyone etc.
it has helped, thanks xx
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Im the same as you and the same age as you, dont worry. For me it just means i really have to trust and love the person im in a relationship with, as i too find mine gross. Many people say have confidence in your body and everything will be fine. As it doesnt really effect sex.(apart from having difficulty getting started) But dont worry about it, relax, and if the boy really loves you and you love them, he shouldnt mind, he will most probably find it beautiful x
If you want to talk more about it, we can, just message me :)
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (21 March 2010):
"No one else seems to have this problem" - that is incorrect. Almost all growing girls tend to have this insecurity.
Trust me, no sane guy is going to mind how your vagina looks like. Vaginae come in different shapes, and like other parts of your body, it's what makes you unique. I know you probably haven't thought of it that way =) Don't worry about how it looks, there' NO REASON to.
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