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... Send *ot My Name a private message | | | *ot My Name's profile:I guess I am an analytical type of person who tries to consider all aspects of a situation from all angles and view it with logic rather than react with emotion. I am an observer of people and oft reflect upon human behaviour including my own which is not always ideal lol) and feel this has given me a pretty good perspective on the varying dynamics of human situations. Well most of the time anyway :-) I've always seemed to be the one being sought out by friends for advice.
I am a spiritualist by religion (yes - talking to dead people) but with a scientific approach. I am considered quite knowledgable in paranormal matters, and oft counsel and empower people having issues in that dept, but as comes with the turf will also help with people's problems. I am not a thou shalt do this and don't do that type tho, that mind control crap in many religions makes me sick! I think we answer to our own conscience at the end of the day and if we grow and learn from an experience no matter how moral or immoral it is percieved by others, then we are progressing as people which is what it is all about at the end of the day.
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Does she feel masturbating is wrong?
Q. Dear readers, how do I get my girlfriend to masturbate... I've told her to try it several times and said she didn't feel anything. She says she only feels it when I do it. She also doesn't like putting her finger in herself... does she not enjoy ma...
A. 21 December 2009: Glad my comments helped/ gave you insight /whatever :-)
Just thought I'd add, my non pushy approach paid off today.
Did not really have time to do anything this morning before work, but thought I would just tease my man a bit to keep him keen... (read in full...)
My ex has sex with me and then goes and calls his girlfriend
Q. Three weeks ago i found out that my boyfriend was cheating with me. We had a big fight and he left me. He called me bitch and said he never loved me. One week ago he called me and asked for help...he came to my state to do his pratical and he needed ...
A. 19 December 2009: Dont disrespect yourself by letting this guy disrespect you. Don't get sad, ... get mad at any guy wanting to treat you like this and boot his butt out the door. ... (read in full...)
I became compulsive liar and he broke up with me. I want him back but don't tell me to tell him the truth!
Q. Hi. ok i've known dis guy for 4 yrs n we've gone out for 3 n half of them. i had started lying a lot to him regardin Oy health n stuff jus to get more attention from him. he always loved me n believed me. however i started turnin into a compulsive ...
A. 18 December 2009: I thin you should see out some therapy to address the compulsive lying before you ruin your next relationship.... (read in full...)
Every time I have sex with my husband I think of this man
Q. I am married and I got acquainted to another man since 2004 and finally this acquaintance turns into love. We met several times but we never had sexual intercourse. I was so afraid that this will turns wrong if I go in sexual relationship with ...
A. 18 December 2009: Dont let wondering what sex with him would be like over ride the other reasons that caused you to refuse it in the first place. Is the potential losses if you were caught worth it? Is hurting others and yourself worth it? This man clearly only wan... (read in full...)
He is my first boyfriend but he doesn't make my heart race
Q. So I've met this guy, and he is my offical first boyfriend. I want to make myself believe that I love him, but whenever I'm with him, my heart just doesn't seem to race. I guess he is just too perfect, I want more drama into my love life. He always ...
A. 17 December 2009: I think we really only truly fall head over heels in love with someone a few times in our lives - and thats if we are lucky, ..or I suppose perhaps unlucky coz we did not stay with the first one.
Most of the time tho I think it is just infatuat... (read in full...)
Stay with him in an open relationship until I meet other men, or stay single and just enjoy being a mom?
Q. I have a little scenario that I'm wondering if I should move one for good but I feel like I dont want to have to start all over and get to know the person. I've been with this guy for over 4 long years hes been abusive in the past so far he hasn't ...
A. 17 December 2009: If he is unhappy and wants a woman to trust him then he should have thought of that before showing himself to be untrustworthy.
However, What you are basically asking is if you should USE this guy for money and company when it suits you until so... (read in full...)
I fight to get my anger out now he has walked away!
Q. Okay, so i just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, we are very very serious, we've already discussed marriage.The problem with me is that i fight to get my anger out. We have been fighting for over a week now, everyday. It is always my fault and i ...
A. 17 December 2009: He didn't end it in a second tho did he? It took all week of you going him to cause him to take that action.
Perhaps you should enrol in an anger management course if you want to show him you are serious about taking steps to resolve your ang... (read in full...)
We are mis-matched in terms of height, can we still have sex?
Q. my height is 5'3 and my bf is 6'2 can we have sex??? if so how????...
A. 16 December 2009: I have a similar height discrepacny with my guy, and the only time it is noticeable is standing up - but nothing a pair of killer heels can't fix, and if he is flat on his back with me on top I cant reach far enough to kiss him at the same time ... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin with a 5.5 inch penis. I feel shy about having sex...help!
Q. i am 23 old virgin and i have 5.5 inch penis .should i feel shy from having sex ? i feel shy :(...
A. 16 December 2009: Girly bits are only so long ya know, so too long is not only a waste, your poor girl will have to also miss out on the body /ball slapping (lol) contact. Now that would really suck imo. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting my 22 year old daugther to bring boys home?
Q. Im a 49 year old divorcee and have a boyfriend. We get on well and my 22 year-old daughter also accepts him. My daughter never has a boyfriend until recently she starts asking a boy at work out for a drink. She said they are just friends he is ...
A. 16 December 2009: U seriously would rather her be hanging out in a bar with the potential to drink and have alcohol cloud her judgement than choose her actions contientiously and sober in her home?
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Watching lesbian porn turns me on! Normal or not?
Q. right, this might sound wierd but i enjoy watching lesbian porn, in turns me on. but im not a lesbian, is this really strange? does it make me a lesbian, because i really like men and i wud defo say im staight but then i dont know why i get turned...
A. 15 December 2009: Prob nothing to make any assumptions about, ..but question for yourself is if you get turned on by straight porn too?
A girlfriend of mine had a thing for lesbian porn, no interest in watching straight, ..then lo and behold after 20 years of marrr... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 15 December 2009: Who says you have to be drunk, or that you have to hide it from a long term partner?
My (ex) partner of 2 decades was a Police man, who when still just friends (in my teens), I asked to take me to the Police Social Club coz a girlfriend and I wa... (read in full...)
Why can't I come during sex?
Q. Okay, I know I'm not alone in this by any means. Why can't I come during sex? I know I can have orgasms, certainly. I've masturbated quite frequently from a young age, and have been consistently able to come (granted, it takes twenty minutes ...
A. 15 December 2009: You being on top may help as you can guide the angle, pace, etc, ... or you could always stimulate your clitoris yourself during intercourse. ... (read in full...)
Why do I get these bad feelings in my tummy just before something bad is going to happen?
Q. I am having bad feelings in my belly it hurts then something bad happens like once i was out and my tummy was hurting and then i got a call and my loved one died can someone please answer this it will help me a lot thank you very much xx...
A. 15 December 2009: As far as I am concerned EVERYONE has what we can sometimes call 'psychic ability' , but most of us will simply recognize it as the gut instinct/ intuition that we all have to a degree, and it sounds to me that this is what is going on with you.
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Do teen guys like "it" shaved?
Q. So I'm a 14 year old girl and I want to know... do guys from 14 to 17 years old like "it" shaved? I am too young to go that far, but I'm really curious about it! And I want to be ready in case "something" happens! Thanks!...
A. 14 December 2009: Gotta say I just get pissed off with men and their pubic preferences.
Too much, not enough, want it all on, want it all off, even fussing over what little designs they want a landing strip in. Drives me nuts - yet turn around and start making r... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening to rape me!
Q. help! im 16 and i jus broke up with my now ex bf who is 19 bc he kept pressuring me to have sex. now he wont leave me alone! he keeps txting me, threatening tht he is going to rape me! his texts say: "listen beautiful, u know u want me, and your gona...
A. 14 December 2009: Yup - what everyone else said. Tell your parents and your school. Take the phone to the police and get him charged, file for a restraining order, and make sure that you are never alone. ... (read in full...)
How can I get a vaginal orgasm?
Q. I also want vaginal orgasms too not just clitorial. I know I have already asked this but I just dont know what to do at all. I am nervous and dont want to ask my mom because it is embarrassing but I want a toy. I dont know if she will let me nor d...
A. 14 December 2009: oh and I forgot - direct deposit in to the stores business account may be an option as well.... (read in full...)
How can I get a vaginal orgasm?
Q. I also want vaginal orgasms too not just clitorial. I know I have already asked this but I just dont know what to do at all. I am nervous and dont want to ask my mom because it is embarrassing but I want a toy. I dont know if she will let me nor d...
A. 14 December 2009: Get yourself a visa DEBIT card. You can attach this to any bank account,(open one if you have to)you can get it at any age, and you can use it just like a crdit card except you actually have to have to put the money in to you bank account first.
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What is the Kama Sutra?
Q. What is Kama Sutra or however you spell it? My boyfriend whats to do it or have it or whatever. But I have no idea what it is....
A. 13 December 2009: It is also the brand name of some lovely edible products that are so poorly packaged they have a tendency to leak not only in the mail but b/n usage ..lol... (read in full...)
Why are some guys only interested in sex, I am losing faith in love
Q. why do some guys.. make you think HE REALLY LIKES YOU..but he just wants sex... when you DO GIVE in he never calls you again.. and if u DON'T GIVE in he doesn't call and changes his number?? why are all they looking for one night stands?? ...
A. 12 December 2009: If they cleared off coz you would not sleep with them then they did you a favour coz they were not worth sleeping with anyway.
Sooner or later a guy will come along who likes you for you, enjoy's just being in your presence and spending time tog... (read in full...)
I love him but he has no time for me
Q. i love him so much but he got no time for me at all, we dont see each other i want to give him space so that he can miss me but i cant, what should i do? ...
A. 12 December 2009: It kinda makes sense to me that if he loved you and missed you he would willingly make it a prioroty to make time for you.
If you think however that you need to open his eyes to what he is missing out on, then by all means try it, ... but obviousl... (read in full...)
Does she feel masturbating is wrong?
Q. Dear readers, how do I get my girlfriend to masturbate... I've told her to try it several times and said she didn't feel anything. She says she only feels it when I do it. She also doesn't like putting her finger in herself... does she not enjoy ma...
A. 12 December 2009: I have a similar situation but opposite sex. My guy previously spent 16 years with a sexually repressed prude who would only have sex in one position, lights out, and responded to any of his encouragement for experimentation by calling him a pe... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking me these questions?
Q. this guy and i are getting to know each other.. i like him and he tells me he likes me too.. but he keeps asking me how long has it been since ive been single, if ive ever gotten pregnant before or had an abortion:( i told him my ex was carefu...
A. 12 December 2009: No problem with wanting to gauge if someone is a health concern, ... but as for the pregnancy and abortion questions they are just odd and none of his business to boot. I am WONDERING here if he is trying to ascertain if you got pregnant to him ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Why did she reject me?
Q. hello guys girl 1 (girl I like) umm... I told this girl i like her, and she was like wow and then 2 weeks later i asked her who she likes and she said she likes nobody.. after 4 weeks, my friend (girl)came up to me and told me that she knows th...
A. 12 December 2009: To answer the second question first - She obviously is just not interested in you in that way. Same reason you would probably not go out with a lot of girls if they asked you. Simple. As for the rest, sorry to say, but it seems she took your ap... (read in full...)
How can I make him hate her and love me instead???
Q. i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...
A. 12 December 2009: He does not love you, you can't MAKE a person love you, and right now you are not displaying loveable qualities that would endear anyone to you anayway, so I fancy your chances to be about, oh, ZERO! This guy was pretty clear that he loved another... (read in full...)
I get violent with my friends when they agree a boy is hot!
Q. hey aunts i have a problem with jelousy but it isnt with my boyfriends its with guys i fancy, all my friends have noticed well its kind of hard not to because if i say the guy i like (lets call him chris)is fit and they agree i will literally rip ...
A. 12 December 2009: I am surprised you have any friends when you treat them like this. They are merely making an observation that in no way neccessarily indicates a threat to you. They have eyes, they can see, yet they are the one's under threat for being able to use ... (read in full...)
How can I move on and completely forget this man?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had a short affair with co-worker and end up to a big fight. We became close to each, send SMS and phone each other. He was married with a kid and I'm single mother with 2 kids. He is very vocal to his feelings and running afte...
A. 10 December 2009: Are you serious? How could you even begin to question if he loves you when he treated you this way?
People who love others don't go bashing in to them in passing or exposing their private msg's to their bosses.
Nuff said really!... (read in full...)
Why was he rejected?
Q. One for girls who liked a guy, but turned him down anyway A guy approaches a girl out of nowhere. He's comfortable in his own skin. He looks pretty good. Dresses pretty good. He's got a good enough build. He's not rude. Etc. The girl doesn'...
A. 10 December 2009: ..or maybe she thinks he is just trying to score/get in her pants and she is not interested in fickle casual relationships! ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up with me over my labia hanging looser!
Q. I'm in dire need of explaining to my boyfriend that I am not cheating on him. He says that when we have sex that sometimes my labia hangs and is more loose than other times. Is that normal? I don't know why it is that way sometimes, and I am so ...
A. 10 December 2009: yeah - what everyone else said! Dump his baby arse and get a real man! . ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt every time we have sex?
Q. Every time I have sex it feels like the first time, We sometimes do it 5-6 times in a night and it hurts every time, sometimes he doesn't even put it in all the way, but it still hurts, he says I just have to get used to it but I don't think so, we ...
A. 10 December 2009: Wow - 5-6 times daily ..lol. Should that truly be the case well your probably not giving yourself time to recover.
Sounds odd perhaps having been sexually active for 20 years as well as having had a child, but my current partner literally made me ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think it is odd him going to his ex wife for Christmas day... or am I being jealous and unreasonable?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I've posted on her before and got some really helpful advice so I'm back for more! I split up with my partner about 6 months ago (after 7 years together). He walked out after us having many problems and I was upset and in...
A. 10 December 2009: I guess it depends on the individual circumstances but my parents seperated when I was 11, saw other people, and yet sometimes (not every year) chose to spend X mas day together for us children. It was really nice when they did too. And neither of ... (read in full...)
How do I get my 38 year old lover back?
Q. Hey everyone, Ive got a big problem. He's 38 and im 18 and even though ive heard all the comments about robbing the cradle, hes only using you for sex. I dont care and I love him and he loved me. it all started on saturday when he came up from...
A. 9 December 2009: How would you feel if you went to the effort and expense to travel to the other end of the country only to have him take off on you and go out clubbing with his mates?
Someone did that to me I would dump them before they even got out the door to ... (read in full...)
How can I get a vaginal orgasm?
Q. I also want vaginal orgasms too not just clitorial. I know I have already asked this but I just dont know what to do at all. I am nervous and dont want to ask my mom because it is embarrassing but I want a toy. I dont know if she will let me nor d...
A. 9 December 2009: Oh wow, lol, I can't believe you are even considering asking your mum if you can get a sex toy - much less your dad.*Grins* Umm, just go get one, make sure it is one designed to contact your G Spot (typically they willl have a curve in the end) and ... (read in full...)
Can anything be done for my boyfriend who doesn't last very long in bed?
Q. I've been dating my guy for a few months. We've had sex 6 times, and each time he "finishes " after less than a minute. Until me he hadn't had sex for 4 years, and is 36 years old. How long is normal for this to happen after such a long period of ...
A. 9 December 2009: He may not have a problem at all. He may simply be getting over excited at having a new body to explore and having not done it for so long.
The guy I have been seeing for the past 5 months had a similar scene. 37, was in a loveless long term rel... (read in full...)
What's similar and different between anal and vaginal intercourse. What does giving a blow job feel like?
Q. Can anyone tell me what's similar and different between vaginal and anal sex? And what does giving a BJ fee llike? [Mod note: I think the age range given by the poster is likely to be inaccurate.]...
A. 8 December 2009: The prior poster is right in some VERY small regards, ..there IS little stimulation to the clitoris during anal sex, ... but to appear to rule stimulation out altogether may indicate a lack of communication with sexual partners and understanding of ... (read in full...)
My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.
Q. Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...
A. 8 December 2009: People who have been sexually abused can sometimes get the mind set that they might as well give it up (have sex) voluntarily (even if not that interested) rather than have someone take that control/choice away from them. It is almost a self ... (read in full...)
If you're not dating a guy, how far is too far?
Q. If you and a guy start talking and yournot going out yet, how far is tooo far? Are you aloud to make out with him or go farther? Or should you wait until your going out. Should you hold of to give a blowjob or have sex? HELP!...
A. 8 December 2009: You're allowed to do what ever you feel comfortable with - but make sure it is because you want it too, not just because you want to please someone else or see it as a way of 'getting' them. I agree with the sentiment that if your looking for a ... (read in full...)
Sex... doggy style!
Q. Hi, my new bf wants to have sex doggy style and he keeps asking me. I haven't done it like that before (it just never appealed to me and my last bf preferred other positions) but my new bf seems to really want it. I told him i didnt like that pos...
A. 8 December 2009: Most guys will enjoy the ego trip of being the first to do something with you so dont be shy telling him you have not done it this way before - he will be likely to love the idea of being your 'teacher' so to speak.
I agree with those saying i... (read in full...)
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