My landlord wants to date me and is buying and fixing things in the apartment. It's scaring me, what do I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I've recently moved to a new city. I was pretty upset the first time I met my landlord, as my flatmates decided that me being the new girl, they could play a cruel trick. So he helped me out and sorted the situation. Compl...
A. 24 July 2013: What is your gut feeling? Is there chemistry between you?Personally i dont see a problem if you like him enough.Go out get to know him.However make sure you pay your share of the bill on the date. Let him know your resavations.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I am facing some major lifestyle decisions. How do I decide what will be the right direction and actions to help me go forward?
Q. Hi Everyone, I need help please. I need to make a decision about my home soon but I'm worried that it will have a knock on effect onto any potential relationship. I live in London in an area that I've been in for 15 years now. Eleven years...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi, reading your post, you sounded like me.Single mom in her 40s, love living in my flat but struggling to pay the mortgage, only can find part time work.
What I did was move my daughter into my room and rented my daughters room out to foreign stud... (read in full...)
My parents do not want me to see my little sister and she forgot who I was.
Q. I've been around my sister everyday since she was born in 2008, when I was 9. But when my dad came back into my life when I was 13 and got custody of me after 4 months I moved in with him. I visited my sister a couple of times a week and some ...
A. 6 March 2013: Ah honey, how heartbreaking for you.You don't go into much detail about your past, I'm assuming its quite painful for you.All you can do is try and keep in contact with her, letters, try and visit again.I get the feeling she's going to need you in ... (read in full...)
Just moved house and have no friends here.
Q. I am 17 years old. I have just moved from London to Hampshire with my mum and stepdad. I have no friends in this area and I dont know anybody either. I have seen a few teens around, But i would never know how to approach them. I need friends help ...
A. 10 February 2013: Hey, I moved from one large city to another place when I was 18. That was 20 odd years ago and never looked back. I remember feeling isolated, lonely, afraid.Then I started college and had the time of my life. Think about a college course, job, eve... (read in full...)
He's an older married man and the chemistry between the two of us is elecric. How can I get over this strong attraction?
Q. Hello all I am separated. He is married. We work together. There is this crazy, undeniable electricity between us. Just hit us both out of the blue. We have known each other for a year in the workplace. It is at the point where when we look at each...
A. 7 February 2013: Hi, take it from someone who knows, do not act on those feelings of yours.I fell for a younger guy at work 16yrs older.Although he or Iweren't married, our employers do not allow work romances.when you talk of the connection, attraction etc you ... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend said his best vacation was with his ex! Should I be mad?
Q. Hi everyone, we talked with my bf the other day about spending some summer vacation together. We want to go to the sea, because we haven´t been by the sea for a long time. My BF told me he was by the sea few years ago and it was the best, most ama...
A. 31 January 2013: Some men(not all) unfortunately speak without thinking.I can see why your upset by this.Be honest with him and tell him it upset you. Is this the only thing that's upsetting you about the relationship?... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend said his best vacation was with his ex! Should I be mad?
Q. Hi everyone, we talked with my bf the other day about spending some summer vacation together. We want to go to the sea, because we haven´t been by the sea for a long time. My BF told me he was by the sea few years ago and it was the best, most ama...
A. 30 January 2013: Some men(not all) unfortunately speak without thinking.I can see why your upset by this.Be honest with him and tell him it upset you. Is this the only thing that's upsetting you about the relationship?... (read in full...)
Should I show my boobs to my online boyfriend?
Q. hi i am of 18old .i have a small doubt can i be romantic with my boyfriend? when we generally talk each other in video chat,at that time he asked me to show my boobs(chest without bra and anthing like that) i want to know can i show him what he h...
A. 18 April 2011: Only one answer to this.NO,NO,NO,NO,No.You don't know him long enough... (read in full...)
Why don't kids respect their parents anymore?
Q. I have three kids that I have raised on my own and I am proud of my children and the people that they are trying to become. Recently I had this big blow out with my children where they felt they had a right to sit there and disrespect me in ways ...
A. 14 April 2011: I agree with caring guy,however it is obviously bothering you.When we are children we are taught not to disrespect our parents.As adults its more on a level footing i feel.You don't say what the blow out was,but it must of been pretty big for all ... (read in full...)
Son is dating an older woman with children. How can I make him come to his senses?
Q. Hi all, I've been pretty confused about something lately and just can't seem to get my mind off of it. I'm really having a hard time figuring out why my son who is 22 y/o is dating this older woman who's 33 and has 2 kids (twins). I feel like he's ...
A. 11 April 2011: Is your son happy with this woman?Has she done anything wrong to upset you or your son?Have you actually met her?
I feel you may be a little controlling of this situation.Your son is 22,an adult.I think you should try and accept this rela... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents I can hear them having sex?
Q. I still live at home and my parents are in their 60's. I keep hearing them having sex and it's getting quite annoying and loud. Do you think I should say anything to them?...
A. 1 April 2011: This so reminds me of when i was a little girl.I remember banging on the wall saying i know what your doing, and feeling mortified.You are now older,and it is there house,Be thankful your mom and dad are still enjoying themselves at there age.If its ... (read in full...)
Would this be called cheating the new Gf? If I just asked my ex to strip while we were on webcam.
Q. Is it cheating if? Let's say you have a girlfriend. And you know your ex still loves you and you still have feelings for her, but you don't want to be in a relationship with her, but you drunk call her telling her you love her, and miss her, et...
A. 22 March 2011: How would you feel if your girlfriend did all the things you have just done.Would you call that cheating??? ... (read in full...)
Husband says I can't handle criticism
Q. hi! ours is a love marriage. Both of us are doctors. No matter how much work I do at home, it doesnt satisfy him. For ex, when my maid didnt come, i cleaned the house, washed dishes and clothes, cooked, went to work and after coming back i prepared ...
A. 20 March 2011: You are both Doctors,you both have no doubt equally worked hard to become Doctors,but this is not an equal relationship.Its difficult to judge this as you come from a different culture to me.
all i can suggest to you is to catch him when he is in a... (read in full...)
Because of my husband's child from a previous marriage, my family hardly ever gets my husband for just OUR family time together...
Q. I am having a massive life crisis, and seem stuck in a rut I don’t know I want to be in. I have been with my husband for eight years, we have two children together and he has a child from a previous marriage. His other child lives 3 hours ...
A. 20 March 2011: It sounds like he takes you for granted,why don't you shake that up abit.If you are dependant on his money he will no doubt call the shots.If he is at home in the evenings why not get an evening job,just a couple of evenings a week.It will get you ... (read in full...)
It's not fair!! The woman who my fiance cheated with is happy with her own new family...while I am still suffering from his affair.
Q. I don't think its fair how the woman who played a part in my relationship stresses, gets to have her happy relationship. She now has a partner and child and is getting married. I have my child and home but harbour the anger towards her and my fianc...
A. 12 March 2011: Chances are if she got into bed with your partner so readily,she will do it again.I don't think you should waste anymore time on this woman.The best thing you can do is move on and try and build your relationship up again with your partner.If you ... (read in full...)
Why would he meet up with a woman he says he doesn't like?
Q. I'm so confused about my boyfriends behaviour.We have been going out for 2 yrs.I liked him because he wasn't controlling,he didn't demand anything off me.Sex is amazing,and he is the perfect gentleman.We are both individual and both have male and ...
A. 27 February 2011: Thanks for all your advice,firstly he wasn't going to come out to my daughters birthday,it would of been to much stress having my partner and my ex there.If my partner had been more involved in my daughters life i would of invited him.As it was he ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to dress up sexy for a halloween party...
Q. My husband wants me to dress up very sexy for a Halloween party this year. He wants me to be a german beer girl. He has the costume all picked out, even down to the lace panties he wants me to wear. The costume is very provocative: it shows a lot ...
A. 5 October 2010: I recon if you feel comfortable in it you should.You husband obviously fancies you something rotten.I would.However if you don't feel comfortable enough then don't,but promise to put it on when you get home.... (read in full...)
My b/f's friends are into weed and I am having trouble accepting it!
Q. Hi - I have just moved countries to be with my boyfriend and I am just starting to get to know his estabished friends most of whom he knows through sport. He has been cagey about me meeting them, even though I was really looking forward to it, and ...
A. 14 January 2010: You don't mention anything about yourself.Do you work,study?Why not try meeting new people yourself.Maybe then his friends might not be such an issue to you,as you will have your own social scene.I'm not saying don't go out with your boyfrinds ... (read in full...)
He claims the women he messages online are just friends! What do I believe?
Q. I have been with my partner for almost four years. Last August i discovered that he had been texting and calling another woman day and night. He had even been round her house (to fix her tap...hmm..) whilst i was on holiday with my children and ...
A. 14 January 2010: Hmm tricky one.Have you ever met any of these women?If not maybe you should suggest just that.If they are just friends,then he shouldn't have a problem you meeting them.If he starts looking uncomfortable maybe thats a sign he is not being totally ... (read in full...)
He claims the women he messages online are just friends! What do I believe?
Q. I have been with my partner for almost four years. Last August i discovered that he had been texting and calling another woman day and night. He had even been round her house (to fix her tap...hmm..) whilst i was on holiday with my children and ...
A. 14 January 2010: Hmm tricky one.Have you ever met any of these women?If not maybe you should suggest just that.If they are just friends,then he shouldn't have a problem you meeting them.If he starts looking uncomfortable maybe thats a sign he is not being totally ... (read in full...)
Should I make contact with her or say anything at all?
Q. I've posted here before. About two weeks ago i broke up with my girlfriend over some pretty hurtful things I saw on her phone (yes I looked through her phone). The month before she had told me she didn't know if she wanted the same life as I wanted ...
A. 6 January 2010: i can tell you the exact same thing happened to me last week.I'd been seeing this guy for 4mths.I get on with his friends and go out with all of the from time to time.As i have a daughter i don't go out all the time.He phoned me on Sat night and ... (read in full...)
What if he really is changing? Should I wait and see?
Q. My ex and I (I'll call him Steve) were in a long distance relationship for almost a year now. We broke up a couple weeks ago because of many reasons. He wanted to control me and I had to do everything his way. I love him with all my heart but I just ...
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My fiancee is not pulling his share of the load!
Q. My partner is not supporting me, not easy to talk to about domestic issues and is not pulling his weight, how should i approach him about this? Me and my fiance have been together for almost 4 years and have a sixth month baby. We rent a house and...
A. 22 November 2009: You need to get this sorted before youget married.It sounds like he is starting to take you for granted.When you are both calm,sit down and talk to him about how you feel.Say you are too tired to have sex because you come home from a fullday and ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex boyfriend's mate being wierd?
Q. A few months ago I went for a night out with my mate liam. When we were standing outside of the nightclub one of liams matescalled mark who I never met before came over and started to talk to liam.When we walked in to the nightclub I went to sit d...
A. 22 November 2009: Maybe he fancies Liam?... (read in full...)
I just turned 18 and thought my mom would trust me with my boyfriend now, but she doesn't!
Q. Okay, so around october I started dating this new guy that I'm dating now. Last thursday I turned 18. In my mind I thought this would change things a little bit. So I asked my mom if I could help my boyfriend move into his moms house. My mom said no ...
A. 16 November 2009: My mom told me she started to really worry about me when i turned 18.This was because at 18 she is not legually responsible for me and has no real say how i live my life.She may feel she is losing you so wants to tighten her grip on you.As caring ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend?
Q. Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend? I am not close with the couple that is getting married and my birthday is the only day out of the year that it is all about me. He gives me a ...
A. 16 November 2009: My brother was the best man at a wedding,and it was his girlfriends birhtday that day,She was fine with it and even got a mention in his speech.They celerbrated it the weekend after so it felt like she celebrated it twice.Go to the wedding and enjoy ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend?
Q. Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend? I am not close with the couple that is getting married and my birthday is the only day out of the year that it is all about me. He gives me a ...
A. 16 November 2009: My brother was the best man at a wedding,and it was his girlfriends birhtday that day,She was fine with it and even got a mention in his speech.They celerbrated it the weekend after so it felt like she celebrated it twice.Go to the wedding and enjoy ... (read in full...)
My friend slept with a guy, then slept with his brother!
Q. my friend slept with a guy, and then a few months later she slept with his brother. of course, neither brother knows that she slept with the other one. neither of them were her boyfriends (the recent brother she slept with is crushing on her ...
A. 13 November 2009: i think your friend is more concerned about how these men see her.I feel she probally regreted her actions,in the hope nobody finds out whats done is done,she can't change that.In probabilty they will find out about each other.Tell YOUR friend this ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gone from being very sexual to not wanting sex anymore!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. He was a bachelor his whole adult life and frequently traveled for international sex, hetro and transexual. He was very sexual in the begining of our relationship but now rarely wants to have ...
A. 11 November 2009: i feel he may find it hard to have 'normal sex' as before his sex life has been so experimental.I think the more you experiment with wilder sex,the harder it is to have close intament relationships.If he is denying going on these sites and you know ... (read in full...)
"Sort your life out, you aren't a baby anymore"?
Q. Hi, i dont know if im being oversensitive here but i just want some feedback. Im 27 and been doing driving lessons just over a year now.My instructor wants me to book my test in and im just not confident. Last night on my driving lesson h...
A. 7 November 2009: i would change your instructor.I had the same experience myself,except mine shouted at me on the lesson just before my test.I failed it of course.I found another instructor stright after that.Don't feel bad about taking lessons at your age at least ... (read in full...)
My ex has offered to hook me up with some of her friends, and while I do want a new girlfriend I find this really weird!
Q. Ok, so I recently broke up with my girlfriend. I came to realize that she probably wasn't coming back. I eventually moved on, started living my life. Working, going out, things like that. I'm not really "trying" to find a girlfriend, but I have to ...
A. 4 November 2009: I also tried to get my ex hooked up with someone aswell,not one of my friends though that does sound slightly weird.He was very lonely after our break up and i felt slightly guilty,so i looked in loney heart colums.Eventually he found someone ... (read in full...)
Is this the beginning of physical abuse in the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a fight. It was bad, I would not give up without talking, he wanted to sleep (had a test the next morning) so he ignored me and my tears (I am extremely depressed lately and feel like I have no one to turn to, so there is a ...
A. 29 October 2009: i think some relationships just don't work.You say you have been depressed lately and cry alot,maybe you need to work out why your depressed.Go to your Doctors an deal with it this way.What he did was wrong,but like others have said you are ... (read in full...)
Are we heading into rocky territory by texting each other so frequently? I have never had a friend of the opposite sex I was this close to!
Q. My husband and I have been very close friends with another couple for years. We spend holidays together, birthdays together, take vacations together, etc. My husband and the girl are very much like brother and sister and have had this relationship ...
A. 12 October 2009: Think of putting yourself in the position of your husband.How would you feel if he was texting his female friend 200 hundred times a month,and the content was filled with sexual innuendo?... (read in full...)
Pregnant with twins, but my boyfriend doesn't like the names I've picked out!
Q. I am twenty four years old and I discovered about four months ago I was pregnant and then I discovered I was pregnant with twins! I was just estastic and so was my boyfriend of two years. We have had so much fun preparing there rooms and going ...
A. 23 July 2009: Why don't you choose one name each,say he chooses the boys name and you choose the girls.That way he will feel more included.... (read in full...)
He's just not there for me any longer... I miss my husband and best friend.
Q. I don't know where to begin. My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 13. I have 2 adult daughters from a previous marriage, and an 11 year old son with my husband. My problem is, my husband spends no time with me, one on ...
A. 12 July 2009: i do understand how you feel,i was in a simular relationship until a year ago.i had to put up for years with emotional and physical abuse from hopitalising me for knocking a glass out of my hand and cutting my leg open to spitting in my face.My ... (read in full...)
He's just not there for me any longer... I miss my husband and best friend.
Q. I don't know where to begin. My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 13. I have 2 adult daughters from a previous marriage, and an 11 year old son with my husband. My problem is, my husband spends no time with me, one on ...
A. 10 July 2009: get rid,you don't actually need him,as you do everything anyway.In fact you won't have to tidy up after him,cook his dinner,clean his clothes.If he wants to be with his friends so much he can go live with them.... (read in full...)
My friends make fun of me and call me fat...but I'M NOT FAT!
Q. ok so. Pretty much all of my friends are non stop making fun of me for being fat. BUT IM NOT FAT! When im not there they talk about how fat i am and draw pictures of how fat i am. dont say theyre jealous cus theyre all skinnier than me. but im still ...
A. 9 July 2009: Your absolutely right your not fat.I think if there getting a reaction out of you they will keep doing it.Personally i would find nicer friends,or if you ignore them they may stop.All the best... (read in full...)
On her birthday while having sex I called her by another girls name!
Q. My girlfriend (of 2 years) and me were making love. I called her by the wrong name by mistake. She really mad at me and than she started crying and storm off. I've been calling her like crazy with no answer and went to her place but her roommate ...
A. 14 June 2009: You can't actually blame her for being annoyed,even if you weren't cheating on her you must of been thinking of someone else.Serious grovelling needed here.Try and put your feelings into a letter so she can read it,and understand how you feel.Even ... (read in full...)
Please tell me if she is manipulative or do I expect too much?
Q. Please, forgive me for the lengthy email, but I need to get the facts straight here. I have dated this woman for 1 1/2 years. She is 29 now. A few months ago I caught her lying to me. She told me - she actually set up her lie for a week!!! - that ...
A. 10 June 2009: This sounds like a parent,child relationship to me.Would you have a problem if she went to a reggae concert with her friends?She sounds like shes rebbelling from her authorthian father.I think she may be a little immature for you,maybe you need to ... (read in full...)
Guys: Does it bother you if your girl uses a vibrator?
Q. This is a little embarrassing. I have enjoyed masturbation for many years, and then for my seventeenth birthday my weird but lovely best friend bought me a vibrator. Ever since then I have loved using them on a daily basis. I was quite a late ...
A. 10 June 2009: Absolutely not,my partner and i use them all the time,infact he goes and buys mine.Its all part of our love making ritual.I feel i can be myself and let myself go with him.I would gently put it to him,and ask how he feels about it.The look on his ... (read in full...)
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