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writes:why do some guys.. make you think HE REALLY LIKES YOU..but he just wants sex...when you DO GIVE in he never calls you again.. and if u DON'T GIVE in he doesn't call and changes his number??why are all they looking for one night stands??ive been single for a year now.. and five guys have come and al they wanted was sex..( I NEVER GAVE IN and i haven't heard from then since)is very hard when u are looking for a relationship and when u really like that guy but he only thinks about his dick!!ive lost faith in love:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009):
I said women trade sex for intamacy here.Another observation I've made is that the most women are especially attracted to the sexually assertive males.They are exciting and stir those loving feelings.The guy that "goes for it" sort of speak.While women are not at all attracted to the nice guy male that would wait for sex.
I believe you are somewhat attracted to sexually aggressive bad boy males but don't want the end result.
That's why they are called players they know exactly what to say, act interested just to trick you.They just want sex as often as possible.I'm a guy and know guys that do it, it's a game of conquest.
Find a rare species 'the good guy' that will love you for who you are not just for what you can do for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): Someone said here,that we girls trade sex for intimacy and then unferstand that we were cheated, because when sex is over there is nothing after that.
That's why we have to wait for a couple of months before we have sex. And if a guy dissapeares it's very good, as we don't need someone like that anyway.
There are guys out there who will love u and wait for u, you stll very young, patience, and he 'll show up
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 You are absolutely 'right' in your observation. You are right, that most of 'male' are such...care for their 'size of dick' and ' taker of one night stand only'. I am studying this question, and also met some same sex lover of male category,[gay] where even many 'male' who are serious about relationship, and they complaint that they met mostly one night stand lover, just having curiosity about size of 'dick'...and that make them [same sex lovers] unhappy. This prove that there are same sex lover male, who also have the same complaint as female have. So, it is really problem of character, which depend upon 'right ideology'
However, the truth do not pertain to all, but your observation and my little study, make me to think that majority male have this ugly character. The reason, I think is this: Because our definition of sex and love, or sex and spirit is always remain as 'religious' against philosophic, or dualist against monist, or subjective against objective. It is mainly cultural and intellectual problem. The character of male or female in spiritual realm is not inherent but subject to creation. I think, it is 'ignorance' make human problem very critical.
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reader, ????RB???? +, writes (12 December 2009):
i am a teenager right i know they want one night stands with you to brag about to mates. find someone who isnt close to their mates as the others trust me!
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 For what it's worth, I'm a straight male, age 25, who's a virgin and even turned down my ex for sex (before she slept with a mutual friend of ours instead and left me for him). So there are women out there that can't keep their pants on, and there are men that do keep theirs on.
I know it sucks to have experienced these five lousy men, but there ARE virgins out there that want love and a relationship, not just sex. I'm thinking of several of my male friends at the moment who are like this.
You haven't dated such a man yet, but they DO exist. Maybe you're just trying the wrong kind of guy? If you're meeting these at school, try looking at church. If you're going after jocks, try some quieter guys. Just keep looking.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 If they cleared off coz you would not sleep with them then they did you a favour coz they were not worth sleeping with anyway.
Sooner or later a guy will come along who likes you for you, enjoy's just being in your presence and spending time together no matter what the activity, and will respect you enough to wait without complaint. When that happens you will know you are sharing yourself with a good guy who deserves you.
Keep your chin up they really are out there :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): exactly my point,the male species are somtin else!they profess love on and on,when wat they realy want is sex...if its not achieved they turn their backs completly,and the gurl is left speechless.am 19 and i stay in nigeria,rite now am actualy in this same boat with you!i feel so sad,bcuz i actualy went al d way wit dis guy...infact he was almost penetratin me...bt i stopped him...2days later he asked 2see me but i turned him down,i tried speaking to him but he ignored saying he knows i wont hve sex wit him soon'can u imagine dis s a guy dat our relationship was barely 5days old.no calls frm him since then.
plz dont give in to any guy thats obviously after sex.until u re ready for it,sex requires the consent of both persons.as it is,i don hve an answer for you.i jus hope to benefit from the responses you will get from yr message.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (12 December 2009):
 Don't give up, you may not have found anyone yet, but someone decent will come along. Just don't go looking for it, and it will happen when you least expect it.
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reader, shrek  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 dont loose faith in love.... in life, it is not good all the things not always positive and happiness, sometimes we have to put negatives too, for you to know the difference.... cheer up! and keep moving... here on earth we are only human beings!
g00d luck! keep safe...
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reader, Wontonbomb +, writes (12 December 2009):
 It's getting pretty tiring is this.
I'm sorry you're not meeting the right type of guys, but maybe you are looking for the wrong type. I mean, I don't have a single male friend that would prefer a sloppy unpleasant and awkward one night stand over a relationship where they can have sex on tap with someone who knows what they want, and neither would I.
You have met 5 guys. There are 3 billion on the planet. I don't think this constitutes a proper sample. I could easily say from my past experiences, 'why are all women batshit insane?' But I know that although all the women I have been with have been mental, most women are decent, loving and caring creatures. It's just a matter of time and meeting the right person
Keep looking and you will find the right guy, and just don't give in, the right guy will prove he likes you by waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): Dont lose faith. There are some wonderful men out there that arent just after one thing, so dont write them all off because youve kissed a few frogs! I dated my partner for months before we did the deed. He was ok about waiting a while and when you meet a decent guy you like, who likes you, he will be ok with it if he thinks youre worth waiting for. Youre too young to be jaded by love. At your age alot of guys in the same age range are just a bundle of hormones and so many girls give out so fast, that the guys take it sex is on offer with all of you! And they think you cant like them if you say no. So be very precise when asked about sex. If you like the guy, tell him its not personal, you just dont put out straight away. If he likes you he will stick around. And get to know him well before you do anything. By then he will have bonded with you and wont run off as soon as hes had sex.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 December 2009):
Try on line dating. That way, you form a relationship by talking first. Also put it in your profile so that only guys who want to respect you will contact you. There are plenty of good men out there. And technology has made it easier to meet them!
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