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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I had a short affair with co-worker and end up to a big fight.We became close to each, send SMS and phone each other. He was married with a kid and I'm single mother with 2 kids. He is very vocal to his feelings and running after me all the time. Myself is not ready yet so I did not show him my love.Until one day I asked him to come to my place and things happened that we did not expect. We made love. We both was happy that night and he even told me that he loves me. On the next day, he was still the same, but I dont know what went wrong to me in the evening and sent him an SMS "I feel ashamed to myself and cant even look in the mirror, trust you didnt tell anyone what happened to us last night". After that SMS, he became an evil and sent me nasty messages. I tried to talk to him, but he dont want to speak to me. Until one day, I saw a woman coming out from his room. Now, she is with this woman now and they are very close to each other. I tried to sent him an SMS through my friend's mobile and he caught me and that's the worst. He told me that I'm desperate and sick. On the next day, I found out that he went to our boss and complaint about me that I'm harrasing him and running after him, even showed all my sms. It's really ashame.Cupid, please tell me how should I move on. What I will do in order to completely forget him. Today morning, when I was passing by he kicked my arms with his body and now my arms is too painful. He didnt even say sorry....Is he still loving me?
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (10 December 2009):
 Are you serious? How could you even begin to question if he loves you when he treated you this way?
People who love others don't go bashing in to them in passing or exposing their private msg's to their bosses.
Nuff said really!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is not married..he was married and divorced. he threw me away for something else and i dont know what was that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): please leave this man alone. he is married for good ness sake. he regrets cheating with you. he doesn't want you anymore so just stop it.
what have you learnt from this: married men will turn nasty when they finish getting what they want. they throw you away like yesterdays garbage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did complain already and he got a shit today from our bosses. Just a while ago, I've met him in the cafeteria and he was looking at me like a mad man and trying to scare me. He is a stupid man.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Yes, I did get the feeling he wants to get rid of you at work, this is why I have suggested you get in touch with a social worker or a female's advocate.
If you are in a city contact some of the people I have suggested and ask them if they can help, or if they can refer you to somebody who can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe wants to ruin my career in our company.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (27 November 2009):
No, I am sorry to say he doesnt love you, it looks to me like he just used you for sex, and now he is scared his wife will find out.
I dont know what you can do about him complaining to the boss, are you in a city or large town that has a womens health centre or a refuge? If you can approach a women' organisation they may have a social worker who should be able to help you. Or contact Parents Without Partners and see if they have somebody who can talk to you. You need to know your rights so that if he starts to cause more trouble for you, you will know where to go for help.
Good luck with this, I am sorry you got caught by a scoundrel who doesn't care about feelings, only lies.
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