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And for those who wonder, transexual (or pre-operative transgender) basically means that I'm a "chick-with-a-dick". |
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Am I with "the One"?
Q. HI I want to know if im with the "One".I keep a diary and every day for the two years of our relations I rate my happiness with my partner.I am average 70% happy with my girl.i have asked my friends and the say they are like 90% happy with their ...
A. 18 August 2012: If you're having to get into calculations, its probably not a good sign. And "the one" is mostly a media-fuelled myth.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend liking/saving sexy pictures of exes and attractive female friends, how to overcome my jealousy
Q. I know my plight is not as dire as some and I should consider myself lucky its not worse. I just want to know how to get over my anger and jealousy so we dont have to fight about it anymore! My boyfriend of nearly 6 years (hes in his early thirti...
A. 28 April 2012: I think that's a reason to be jealous if there ever was one! Have you tried to explain your misgivings on this issue? I don't think you should "let this go", really. Please resolve this or it may poison your relationship.... (read in full...)
Will first time sex still hurt if the woman has been fingered before?
Q. I'm in my late twenties and have never gone all the way sexually with anyone. The furthest I've been was to let my ex-boyfriend finger me and since then I've masturbated doing the same. Now I'm currently in a relationship with a man who makes me ...
A. 14 June 2011: First time sex will generally hurt a woman (depends on how big the penis is as well, of course). I've slept with a few first-timers and they did always experience pain, even those who masturbated regularly. its still nothing to worry about - the ... (read in full...)
I suspect he's being used for money and I'm really worried about him!
Q. I don't understand what I've done wrong. I'm close friends with a guy an the other day he asked me to send an email for him which i did. I saw another which I shouldn't have and I basically got the idea that hes being played by a girl from the ...
A. 14 June 2011: Yes, he's getting played. There are people who used to do it in thailand also but its even more common in the phillipines. you can only keep reiterating that you think he's making a mistake. finally he's a grown man entitled to make mistakes.... (read in full...)
I think my husband is homosexual!
Q. i have been married to my husband for seven years and have one child. in the past two years things between me and my husband have been very strained and the sex has been non-existent except for when he is drunk. i was on our shared laptop when i ...
A. 14 June 2011: I'm sorry but it does sounds as though your suspicions may be justified. more than the homosexuality itself (he may swing both ways for all we know) is the fact that he has been neglecting you and may even be cheating. it may be time to confront him ... (read in full...)
Sexy photos of me in a frame or on a t-shirt as a gift? Any low budget date ideas?
Q. would it be okay as a gift for my boyfriend of 9months to get some sexy photos done of me and either give him one really nice one in a frame or maybe get it printed on a tshirt or something? Does this sound like a good idea? If not what else might ...
A. 14 June 2011: Framed photo, yes. T-shirt - terrible idea. Where would he wear it? When it comes to sexy photos, unless you are in the entertainment industry it's not a good idea to have overly sexy photos lying around with people. Try to keep it classy.... (read in full...)
I was giving my husband a blow job and my son walked in on us!!
Q. So.. I was having a rather pleasant time pleasuring my man... yes BJ ... we have been together 20 years - married for 14 and have 2 young children.. 2 and 5 yrs. We had not closed our door as we tend not too because we can generally hear o...
A. 14 June 2011: that must have been very embarassing indeed. at the age of five it is indeed possible he may not only remember it, but mention it in company. you may want to give him a little talk about how "Daddy's legs hurting" is something you'd not want to be ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get tested for STDs?
Q. Is it unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get tested for STD's? I get tested every year at my check up because you never know what someone else is doing and my job has some exposure risks. He has never been tested. We have a sexual relationship, ...
A. 10 June 2011: if he has cheated on you, this should be non-negotiable.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell him his sexual habits are strange for me...
Q. Hi guys, I just want to ask is it normal for a guy to lick his own come? It's just after we've finished having sex, my boyfriend will go down on me and put is tongue right inside me to get all my come and his come in his mouth... I was just ...
A. 10 June 2011: oh there are people who like that. if it makes you uncomfortable, let him know. it's a porn theme basically, so many guys have seen it on screen and maybe find it sexy.... (read in full...)
Can anyone advise me on how to deal with my godmother, who is constantly bombarding me with emails, calls and facebook messages?!
Q. Can anyone advise me on how to deal with a family member who is constantly bombarding me with emails, calls and facebook messages?! My godmother is in her 40's and since she signed up to facebook she has been more of a nuisance than ever. Sh...
A. 8 June 2011: Try avoiding facebook altogther for a while, and answering your emails no more than 2 times a week. Say (truthfully) that it is because you feel 'technologically burned out'.
She'll realise it's not going to make a difference whether she messages... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sometimes acts strangely when we're together! How do I approach the subject?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together almost 10months now.. We spend abit of time together every week, I see him 4 days out of 7.. We get very heated.. We've been doing sexual 'activities' for a few months, nothing to far.. But the past 2 times ...
A. 1 June 2011: you haven't said what it is that you're doing but i assume its some variation of oral sex or handjobs. guys do generally know when they are about to cum (well, I always do) and so he doesn't really have a good reason for not giving fair warning.
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Should a 20-year-old mildly autistic woman marry a 47-year-old whom she met in a home for adults with special needs?
Q. My name is, well, I'll call myself Teralyn, and I'm 20 years old. I live in a home for adults with special needs, but I plan to move out exactly one year from tomorrow (Today is Tuesday, May 31st, 2011, and I plan to move out on Friday, June 1st, ...
A. 1 June 2011: It seems you may be making decisions based on factors other than love. There is nothing wrong with marrying a person if you have feelings for him, but don't you think you should explore relationships a little? You're very young,and autistic or not, ... (read in full...)
Is an underware picture a good conversation starter?
Q. I like this guy and we have sent each other pics naked but our faces are not in them and we trust each other, but we stopped and are our conversations are getting dull, I want to know if I should send him a pic of me trying on underwear asking him ...
A. 27 May 2011: if a relationship is what you're looking for - or anything else that doesn't involve you getting used, actually - then this is a bad idea.
what would it achieve beyond giving him the idea that you're easy? trust is not the issue here what you are ... (read in full...)
Premature Ejaculation Tips - Last Longer In Bed!
Q. Premature ejaculation can be a serious problem for guys. Often times its effects go outside the bedroom and into your relationship. But the good news is there are things you can do to last longer in bed. If you or someone you love can’t last very ...
A. 25 May 2011: Pretty good tips from the OP. It's very important to know how close you are. One of my partners is on the wrong side of fifty and he uses this technique very well - when he knows he's close, he changes position, the break clams him down a bit and ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a relationship with a bisexual girl?
Q. I am in a bit of a dilemma, and was wondering if you guys could help me. There's this girl who I think is so pretty, and she has all the qualities I am looking for in a girl. However, she likes both guys AND girls. I don't know whether or not I ...
A. 25 May 2011: Why not? Bisexuality would not by itself change how a person would behave in a relationship. If you think it makes a person more likely to cheat, that's not really true. Straight people can be as slutty as bi or gay people. ... (read in full...)
Should I be me or the dancer?
Q. I am an ex dancer so used to have a good body and be considered attractive. I got treated really badly by an ex boyfriend who I lived with for 2 years, he cheated on me with about 8 of my friends and ended up becoming violent. My self esteem ...
A. 25 May 2011: "Strengths" of erections are relative. I've had some of my strongest erections just looking in a mirror. Sometimes with an absolutely hot young male model or gorgeous actress it takes me a while to get going.
You should probably try to get fit ... (read in full...)
Is is ok for married people to be physically attracted to others?
Q. Is it acceptable or not for a married person to have sexual attractions to other people? I have been married to my wife for about 7 yrs. and she told me that although she is COMPLETELY happy with me sexually and I treat her right AND I give her ...
A. 25 May 2011: It would be very unusual if people in relationships were not even attracted to others, after all, attraction is a reaction, isn't it? As other posters have said, though - attraction is unavoidable but acting on it definitely is.
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Does it make men mad when they can't finish
Q. How do I last longer in bed I'm 18 and when me an my boyfriend get intimate I always have to stop an he don't get to finish sometimes because it hurts. I want him to be able to finish an be happy. And one more question does it make men mad when they ...
A. 24 May 2011: Mad as in 'angry'? No, not really, never. But frustrated, yes. I usually jerk off when that happens though. My lovers are normally happy to let me cum on their body or watch me cum on myself. Perks of being a bisexual transgender, I guess?... (read in full...)
Was he offended by my height?
Q. I am an outgoing 27 year old female. I am 5 foot 4 1/2 and slender. I recently had a date with a guy and went to the river. I wore flip flops because of the rocks, he (6 foot 3) thought that I was taller (I wear heels a lot) Was he offended by my ...
A. 24 May 2011: I've met people who got offended by the silliest things but never by a woman being shorter than them.... (read in full...)
What would you do if you found out that your bf/ husband is into transexuality...
Q. Okay I need help/advice.. My mind has been going crazy trying to figure out what to do. Okay here is my story. Today, I used my husband's laptop to check my email and it just happens that his email account was open and out of curiosity i open...
A. 23 May 2011: A lot of straight men are into transsexuals (trust me, I'm one and I would know). That might at worst be a side of his personality he wants to explore (cross-dressing), or a fantasy of his to be with one. Like all fantasies and most cross-dressing ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so horny?
Q. I am Thirteen (Almost 14) and almost always horny. I'm ok with the fact, but not that I am horny all the time. Is there any way to keep my self from being like this so much? I know it would go down if I had sex, but I'm 13, that's not happening any ...
A. 18 May 2011: You will have to tell us whether and how often you masturbate.
The only generic advice I can give is to try and distract yourself by taking up a hobby.... (read in full...)
Have I been masterbated to the point where my output is now being affected?
Q. Have I been trying to masterbate too many times every day? Now I am wondering how much masturbation is too much masturbation? Usually I masturbate four times a day. But now I have reached the point where i can barely ejaculate anything anymore and ...
A. 12 May 2011: I remember being like that at your age....after the fifth or sixth time there was hardly anything coming out, not even water. I still do it that many times, but what with the hormone pills there's hardly any cum anyway.
I wouldn't worry too much... (read in full...)
My bf is now bi curious and a x-dresser....help!
Q. Ok so... my bf and I have been dating for over 3 years now. He has admited to being a crossdresser. I have seen it, was fun at first now hes really into it. AND now is bi-curious. We had talked about him trying a tgirl and i was alright with it....
A. 12 May 2011: I'm one of those t-girls, and, well...guys who like us generally want more than just to "chat", you know. He wants to see the thing through to the logical end and wants to have sex with a t-girl. If a third person in your relationship is not what ... (read in full...)
Man in a womans body, but where do I start if I want to change gender?
Q. ive known that my gender and my sex didnt match since i was a toddler and now ive come to realize that i could be ftm (female to male transgender).i want to start transitioning asap but i dont know where to start.how do i come out to my family,how ...
A. 12 May 2011: It's a long process and you should only do it under medical advice. Seek out the LGBT community in your area if any, someone who has gone through the process is best equipped to advise you on it.... (read in full...)
LDR's mom doesn't know about me just yet but I thought about sending her flowers for Mother's Day
Q. Hello all! I have an LDR boyfriend whom Im visiting in a few months. His mom will be told about us mid-May, but with mother's day coming up, I've been considering sending her flowers. The thing is, I've mentioned it to him and he thinks...
A. 7 May 2011: I agree with Tisha, waiting would be better. Sending them now doesn't achieve anything useful, it would just stir the pot a little too soon. Your boyfriend seems to have the right idea. Go with it. ... (read in full...)
I gave her oral but she didn't reciprocate
Q. I just recently just performed oral sex on my girlfriend yet she didn't return the favour. She always txts me that she does want to but she didn't. I didn't want to tell her about it since she'll just do it out of pity which I don't want. I'm just ...
A. 7 May 2011: Some women just really aren't that much into oral. Others take some time to get into the mood. Give it time, wait till she's ready. Patience might be the key.... (read in full...)
Is my wife done with me? Or is having sex just once every 5-6 months normal?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 6 years and we have a 2 year old. We use to have sex quite often, but not anymore. I know that things change when you have a kid, but we used to have sex 5 times a week, now it's once every 5-6 months if we are ...
A. 15 April 2011: No, that's not normal at all. It could be she's depressed or it may be something else. Did this start after you lost your job or after you had the child? It may be something to do with those things. Counselling may be the best option.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a midlife crisis at 25?
Q. Is it possible to have a midlife crisis at 25? I am good looking, and have a masters degree and a great job, but i just feel it isnt enough. Im not satisfied with anything, and honestly i could care less for all of it. Maybe i'm spoiled becasue ...
A. 13 April 2011: I suspect a lot of people with steady incomes, steady jobs and so on feel they are missing out on the more 'exciting', maybe seedier part of life. It's not unique to you, a lot of men and women I've known have felt the same and some of them were ... (read in full...)
Delayed ejaculations causing problems in my sex life...
Q. Hello All, I have a strange problem, I am 26 year old male, im in good shape, i never smoke, never drink and work out regularly. I was seeing a girl for 2 years before we broke up and moved on our separate ways. I stayed single for a year and...
A. 1 April 2011: It can happen if you used to masturbate a lot - the softer sensation of the female vagina makes it difficult to ejaculate if you're too used to the tighter sensation of your hands. I tend to masturbate a lot too, either by myself or getting a ... (read in full...)
My foreskin won't move down.
Q. okay, im 15 years old as a normal teen i am very interested in having sex and ive seen many videos and right about the time i was 12 i realized my penis was different i was unable to pull mi foreskin down also mi penis is quite big for my age i have ...
A. 21 February 2011: It sounds like a circumcision may be neccessary. Don't take our word for it though, you should see a doctor.... (read in full...)
I have love for him and bills to pay. Which direction do I take? Love or the great job?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We moved in together around the 5 month mark. I recently got a job I have been wanting for a long time... its a really awesome place to work. Prior to our meeting we both had planned on moving out ...
A. 17 February 2011: Your level of financial security should determine how much you need this job and if it is important to you, take it.
Good men wait, good jobs don't.... (read in full...)
What do I do? He's a tranny porn lover!
Q. I am in a relatonship of 6 months and I am getting ready to make the big leap and move in with this special someone. Sounds great, right? Well ...he recently divulged that once a month he has an incredible urge to look at shemale porn and he just ...
A. 17 February 2011: I'm on those 'trannys' you're referring to. Having known and had relations with a number of men who considered themselves straight, I can only give you the reassurance that if the transexual in question is sufficiently feminine, you don't have more ... (read in full...)
Circumcision :- to do or, not to do. That is the question
Q. well here goes I am an non-circumcised male and love making has never been a problem but i recently happened to be with a girl who does not get wet well enough, is a virgin as far as penetration is concerned and has real tight vaginal walls, tried ...
A. 17 February 2011: It's not generally considered neccessary unless you can't pull your foreskin back at all. In this case the issue seems to be a lack of lubrication, not your foreskin.
Have you tried a lubricating gel?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's inexperience is getting to me
Q. I'm 19 and have had many relationships but my boyfriend (21)has not. He has had one relationship and it lasted 3 weeks and has not gained much experience from it. I'm very used to dating guys who are more experienced in that matter and it's really ...
A. 9 February 2011: Have you communicated to him what exactly it is that bothers you? He will only learn if you tell him what is right - or else, it will be as much your fault as his if it doesn't work out between you two.... (read in full...)
Does positioning make a blow job feel different?
Q. Hey, i'd love some advice from guys and girls about initiating a blow job for my bf. When we have had oral sex in the past, it's always been lying down, in bed or on the floor. I've never given a blow job with him standing and me on my knees, and ...
A. 8 February 2011: I'd say it does. I've given and received a fair number and I personally enjoy it best when I'm comfortable with a cushioned surface under my knees. If you want to go on your knees, be aware that your knees will hurt after a while.... (read in full...)
Sex in this gay relationship has gone south!
Q. So I'm 2 months into this realtionship and things where good at first but now the sex part seems to be going south ( on his part) it starte with him not being able to stay hard during intercorse and now he can't seem to stay hard for anything now. ...
A. 12 January 2011: Is he encountering a lot of stress at work? That can be a very common cause of not being able to maintain an erection, or sometimes plain tiredness.... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy it?
Q. Do women enjoy anal? I expect that it differs from person to person, but on average? Or is it only something a girl would let a guy do as something special for him? ...
A. 12 January 2011: Most of them do not. There are a few who genuinely do, but not many.... (read in full...)
Questions on sex and frequency of masturbation
Q. Ok, i have a few questions and need some general help as i dont really have anyone to ask for help with these questions. When your with your girlfriend and you get aroused and hard...does your hardness stay till you edjaculate or cum? Or does you...
A. 3 January 2011: I'm generally able to maintain an erection until I actually ejaculate. Once I ejaculate it can take a few minutes to get hard again.
Generally you will have a bigger load if you don't ejaculate for a few days. If you hold it back beyond a few days... (read in full...)
I'm pansexual and want to come out to my Christian boyfriend and best friend..
Q. :] I have just recently realized that I am pansexual (gender doesn't matter) and I don't know how to come out to my boyfriend and best friend. My boyfriend is a devout Christian and doesn't tolerate homosexuality what so ever and my best friend i...
A. 3 January 2011: Regarding your friend, I really don't know - maybe it is best to come out.
Regarding your boyfriend, the question is whether you want to be with a man who would not accept your sexuality, which is a significant part of what makes you, you.... (read in full...)
How come being a devoted girlfriend is not enough?
Q. Trying to make the decision either to ignore statements or end it w boyfriend. Been together 8 years. Tired of his comments that he would like to see me w another man or women. I understand more of him wanting to see me w another women, most men...
A. 3 January 2011: Umm...I don't know...I've known a lot of men who've had this fantasy. Some have asked me to be the third person in their threesome (perhaps being a transexual I'm seen as less of a 'man' than normal men without quite being a 'woman'). It's a ... (read in full...)
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