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writes:Ok, i have a few questions and need some general help as i dont really have anyone to ask for help with these questions.When your with your girlfriend and you get aroused and hard...does your hardness stay till you edjaculate or cum? Or does your erection fluctuate?My problem is when im in foreplay and stuff i am super hard but as time goes on and still just playing around i lose my hardness and my gf sometimes ask me if im not horny which makes me think this is not normal.Second, i have been masturbating for a long time 10 - 12 years...usually its 1 to 3 times a day (sometimes 1-3 times a week). sometimes i dont for a few days and sometimes the number of times can reach really high (8 or more). I have been experiencing at times when i edjaculate there is no cum or there is only 1 drop of semen. then at times its a big load (mostly when i dont do it for a few days). i know that i might over masturbate and thats why this is happening but lately for the past 5 - 6 months i have not been masturbating alot. i would go 7 - 10 days without masturbating and when i do, there is stil very little semen or cum that come out. Last real big load of cum i had was about 2 years ago. then there is ever so sometimes when i masturbate that i cum alot.So, first is this normal? then is there anything i can do naturally to increase my semen load? and does the fact that i used to masturbate very much before have any effect with my current gf? (ive been with her for about a year)
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reader, mb129 +, writes (12 February 2011):
When you masturbate are you very aroused? From personal experience if I masturbate twice in a day, the second time rarely has any ejaculate. And yeah a third time definitely nothing or very little. If I masturbate or have sex one day, the next day has less ejaculate. If I go 3 or more days, there is a ton of ejaculate. It feels weird to me the second or third time in a day, so I stick to doing it only a few times a week. You should probably talk to a doctor about it if you go so many days without ejaculating and still have no cum. I'm not sure what the problem might be but it is worth investigating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Thanks for your responses, but how come when i dont masturbate for a while about 1 week and then i masturbate i still am not able to see alot of cum....somtimes its barely 1 or 2 drops even after the wait. Thats what worries me alot. Also me and my gf have not had sex and shes rarely in the mood for it, so when she does and my hardness goes away, i think it makes her feel like she is the cause for it....what do i do there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): you sound completely normal.
Yes sometimes it may wax and wane in hardness. But it can always come back with a little kiss/lick/suck/touch. So don't get stressed by a temporary wane in hardness.
And all your masterbating tells me is you are easily aroused and have a high sex drive. Don't ever feel that is a problem - many men are exactly the same. Many men would love to have your level of high sex drive.
If you have not had intercourse nor masterbated for some tume - then yes your cum, when you do come will be thick and white.
Whereas if you masterbate more often then the fluid will become less white and less thick. If you've masterbated a lot all day then by the end of the day the fluid will be almost clear.
Don't get hung up on the amount of ejaculate. A teaspoon is completely normal for many men.
But remember just one microscopic sperm is needed to get her pregnant - so please use a condom.
Masterbate when you feel like it. Though be aware that some women get offended. Though they shouldn't. But
some do.
Just make sure you spend a huge amount of tome on foreplay for her. So she enjoys it all as much as you enjoy the experience.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 I'm generally able to maintain an erection until I actually ejaculate. Once I ejaculate it can take a few minutes to get hard again.
Generally you will have a bigger load if you don't ejaculate for a few days. If you hold it back beyond a few days sometimes what can happen is that the semen ejects through your urine, leading to there being a 'normal' load the next time you do it.
So yes, it is not unusual.
Why exactly do you want to increase your load? Unless you are trying for a child and have been tested to have a low sperm count or something, the size of the load is quite irrelevant. (In fact even in that case, the volume of the load is not important, it's the proportion of sperm in it).
I don't see it affecting your relationships in any way other than what appears to be the case right now - you're obsessing over things (like the size of your load and its co-relation with the frequency of masturbation) which have nothing to do with your actual relationship.
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