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writes:I'm in my late twenties and have never gone all the way sexually with anyone. The furthest I've been was to let my ex-boyfriend finger me and since then I've masturbated doing the same. Now I'm currently in a relationship with a man who makes me feel so comfortable, and I'd really like to go all the way with him. My question is will first time sex still hurt if the woman has been masturbating using her fingers occasionally? Or would it not hurt anymore because the vagina has been stretched and is quite used to being penetrated? Thanks.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 First time sex will generally hurt a woman (depends on how big the penis is as well, of course). I've slept with a few first-timers and they did always experience pain, even those who masturbated regularly. its still nothing to worry about - the experience still has to be faced eventually.
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reader, Sandys Advice  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Hi, it mite hurt a bit everybody is different some people dont feel pain while others do its the same as some bleed and some dont, most times its only a little bit of blood its nothing to worry about as its normal because the penis is stretching the hymen which is about an inch inside your vagina been fingered wouldn't break this, make sure your ready to lose your virginity and make sure you are relaxed been relaxed really helps. good luck and most of all use protection :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): It still hurts because generally a penis is a lot thicker than fingers, and the vagina won't be used to that since you're a virgin.But honestly, if you're really into your partner the pain doesn't matter much because you're so caught up in what you're doing. And it differs from person to person. Some girls I know told me they didn't feel any pain the first time and never did. I felt pain the first time and it's been six months of regular sex since losing my virginity and it still hurts a little.The pain isn't too bad if you're relaxed enough and are, ahem, physically 'ready.' Actually, sometimes the pain's quite alluring and part of the fun.And yes, having had fingers in there before will make sex less painful than if you had never had that because that will have partially if not completely broken your hymen. However, you could still have some hymen left and the removal of that during intercourse will hurt but it's not a severe pain. Honestly, it really is nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): Sex doesn't hurt everyone the first time they do it - everybody's bodies are different.
when you're ready, and feel totally comfortable your body will produce its own lubrication, which will make it easy for you to be penetrated, which will reduce the chances of pain. However, if you think about it too much, your body may tense up which may hurt.
just relax and enjoy spending time with the one you love :)
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reader, Julia-alka  +, writes (13 June 2011):
I wont probably hurt. Dont worry :)
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