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writes:I am in a bit of a dilemma, and was wondering if you guys could help me. There's this girl who I think is so pretty, and she has all the qualities I am looking for in a girl. However, she likes both guys AND girls. I don't know whether or not I should pursue a relationship with her, or if I should get involved with a girl who likes guys AND girls. Would it be wise to go out with a girl like this, or should I look elsewhere? I would really like to give her a chance because she sounds very sweet. Reply to this Question
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Why not? Bisexuality would not by itself change how a person would behave in a relationship. If you think it makes a person more likely to cheat, that's not really true. Straight people can be as slutty as bi or gay people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Give her a chance, I myself am a bisexual girl.. but I fall inlove with people for who they are, not their sex. I have a girlfriend now and guys dont even phase me, I dont feel like Im missing out on anything. Give her a chance, just make sure she knows you want a monogomous relationship and if that is a problem for her, then maybe let her be and find someone else. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Why on earth does it make a difference that she likes girls as well as guys? It doesn't make her less faithful, less cute, less capable of moral commitment than you are. I think you're being really prejudiced here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Do look elsewhere it will only end in heartbreak and wasted soul searching for the right woman. If people are born bisexual that is fine and not something at all to discreminate against. There however an alarming trend of people not being true to themselves about who they really are and they are confused and think it is trendy and cute to be 'bi'. So take this into consideration before you act.The reason I say it will end in heartbreak is because you wrote 'would it be wise to go out with a girl...' it indicates that you already know she is not the one for you! :) Keep looking - great that you know some of the qualities you like in a girl.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Why wouldn't you? Why would her being bi-sexual make any difference? Do you think she'd cheat on you with a girl or something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): it really depends on how confident and comfortable you are, in all honesty. because think about this. what happens when she goes to a bar and some girl comes over to talk to her? what if another guy does? now EVERYONE that hits on her is fair game to worry about. i know this because i've dealt with it first hand. if this is something you don't think you can deal with, then i would suggest not even considering going any further with her. but if you can be confident and comfortable in knowing she loves you and only wants to be with you - go for it. it really just depends on you. if you're the jealous type...i wouldn't go there.
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reader, Merawder  +, writes (25 May 2011):
Sure go out with her! Why does being bi mean in any way a negative?
That just means maybe at some point down the road she might be open to some fun ideas or not doesn't matter. I dont really think her sexual preference shud be a huge deciding factor as long as she is into your gender.
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