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writes:So I'm 2 months into this realtionship and things where good at first but now the sex part seems to be going south ( on his part) it starte with him not being able to stay hard during intercorse and now he can't seem to stay hard for anything now. We start out good and then he just loses it. He tells me it's him that he's stressed or some other excuses.. Everytime it's different tho. So now I'm starting to think he's not into me anymore or is just board of me already. Thanks looking forward to seein what you all have to say. Reply to this Question
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Is he encountering a lot of stress at work? That can be a very common cause of not being able to maintain an erection, or sometimes plain tiredness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): I think I know the problem, cuz I also had that problem. One night I convinced my girlfirend to give me anal after she had a lot of drinks and felt loose. I got hard, and after stuggling to get it inside, I pumped for a little while, but then I lost my erection and couldn't finish.
A few weeks later, we tried again, same conditions and same result. I got hard, got inside and went limp. I think it has to do with the lack of sensation doing it anally. Everyone talks up anal, but to me it wasn't nearly as good as vaginal intercourse. Sure it is a tighter orifice at first, but there aren't any bumps inside the anus to stimulate the head of a penis and keep it erect. I think it is a stimulation problem.
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reader, Nathan1  +, writes (11 January 2011):
You haven't said how old your partner is? I'll take it that he is close to your own age, has he been in a long relationship before. Some men love the thrill of the chase and are just interested in the lastest conquest. You both need to move the sex to another level. Try role play. Do it rough, on the kitchen table. Watch some porn while you do it. Get some toys. Go commando. Take your time and try not to get drunk before. Book a dirty weekend away for you both. If none of this works then have a chat with him, if he has a problem he may need to see his Doctor. Approach it gently though.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Well there could be many reasons for lack of an erection and usually the last one would be that he has lost interest so try not to worry and think that its to do with you as am sure its not.
I bet he doesnt even know why it is happening and he is just as frustrated as you. It could be stress and also now he might be scared when it gets physical in case he cant get it up and it is probably making him nervous and losing his erection even further. Try get him relaxed enjoy lots of foreplay together and massaging and if the problems keep persisting maybe you should mention to him that he should go and see a doctor in case there are problems medically. Goodluck.
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