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writes:Is it possible to have a midlife crisis at 25?I am good looking, and have a masters degree and a great job, but i just feel it isnt enough. Im not satisfied with anything, and honestly i could care less for all of it. Maybe i'm spoiled becasue i had a privligged upbringing, but i feel like my life is just "dull". I mean is this it?? like get a job get married and have kids? omg..:( I just want to explore so much and then i look at the reality of life and im like what just happened in my life? I feel like a machine.. I want to sleep around, get drunk, experience new things, make out with older men, feel passion feel love. I know its sounds a little off but i mean whats the point of life when you cant feel it? I've been so sheltered and scholded all my life that now that i am finally single and career "done" i just am left with a aquestion mark..
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 I suspect a lot of people with steady incomes, steady jobs and so on feel they are missing out on the more 'exciting', maybe seedier part of life. It's not unique to you, a lot of men and women I've known have felt the same and some of them were about your age.This isn't a mid-life crisis so much as a feeling of discontent (correct me if I am wrong) that makes you wonder what you are missing out. I guess at your age you probably have enough time to do these things - those who go through a mid-life crisis tend to think 'life' has left them behind.I had the opposite sort of background to you, I guess, growing up in a small village in a third-world country and with a confused gender identity to boot. Three years walking the streets in Bangkok and Pattaya sort of gave me whatever education I have. I've done all that you speak about (and while I don't walk the streets any more, being the mistress of a rich older man basically means I'm merely a higher class of escort, so I guess I still do). Getting drunk isn't fun, it's what I sometimes needed to be in order not to hate every moment with a 'john'. Making out with older men was - is - the only way to make the money I need to support my family and myself. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that it's not all it's made out to be and in many cases leaves me wondering if I could only have had a decent education and a paying job, whether I might not have been happier.Sometimes the grass will always be greener on the other side.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Hiyaaaaaa,Woooow masters degree holy crap you are gooooooood! And congrats by the way too!I think you see the "dull" side of life, honestly life is like a rollacoaster and you need to get yourself on one! Life is not dull and boring you just need to get out there more, do things that excite you, make your eyes grow (just like when I walk into a chocolate shop!).You are NOT having a midlife crisis you just need to start putting fun in your life, this could be booking yourself a holiday at an Island or even going back to childhood memories like getting a bunch of your friends and go to a theme park, go karting you know be a bit wild (not all the time looooool) but once in a while is good!The weather is pretty hot nowadays so have a water fight with friends or family! Get that adrenline pumping a release that little wild hectic style!Go and have fun!!!!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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reader, brokenbrokenheart +, writes (12 April 2011):
Yes. It is possible to doubt at any given point in life. I spent a long time thinking about these things, I was going around in circles, I was really destroying myself for no reason, eventually crisis came, more or less close to what you describe. I took a decision to change my course, and have, and whatever the outcome, and whether I'm happier, I don't know. But I'm here to tell the tale.
My opinion: Follow your heart and be happy, try caring less, try going abroad for a while, guerrilla style, change your environment radically, it sounds like you need another perspective on life in general, and there is a LOT out there. It'll work out OK, just don't forget to be responsible for your future while you're freewheelin'.
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