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writes:So.. I was having a rather pleasant time pleasuring my man... yes BJ ... we have been together 20 years - married for 14 and have 2 young children.. 2 and 5 yrs.We had not closed our door as we tend not too because we can generally hear our little ones coming down the stairs(won't make that mistake again)So - this had been going on for I dont know - 20/30 minutes - teasing him and massaging, etc(you get the picture) with of course the anticipation of it going to a full on session.... when all of the sudden I look over to see our 5 year old son standing there.. AHHHHHH!!! I was toooooo mortified to say anything at first and we passed it off as daddy's legs hurt and he didn't really say anything else. Nor did he bring it up today...(and yes after he we got him back in bed AND CLOSED the door - we went back to the scheduled programming)So - we are worried he might bring it up at a time when won't go over well... plus he has been ummm - checking out his package alot prior to this(which we know is normal but have had to say "that is for private" etc)Sooo - What is a good way to handle this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): It happens.
If he brings it up, just say it was normal mommy and daddy time and mom and dad were making each other feel good or mommy was giving daddy a massage.
He may remember.
He may not.
First memories, when we reach adulthood, vary tremendously, some people remember back to around 16 months, others can't remember anything before they became teens.
It's happened to us, but we don't have to worry about it any longer, our oldest is 18, the youngest is now 11, she told my wife and I recently that we were to old to have sex...
So we just quit.
NOT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011):
Wow. Not to make OP feel bad, but I can remember an awful lot from when I was 5. That's kindergarten. I don't remember what I had for every meal, but I certainly remember some of them. One thing I would wonder is if he routinely sees you guys nude in the house. If he does, then don't sweat it much. If he does not, then he is likely to remember. I used to see my mom nude all the time (she is European and it just wasn't a big deal) but I only saw my dad nude once when he was getting out of the shower and I still remember the incident. It didn't scar me for life or anything, though, and I think that's the important point here. We don't really know what your son saw or how sophisticated he is for his age. Just don't bring it up and he probably won't either except in therapy years from now. j/k
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): OP he has no concept of what you were doing at all and hasn't even the slightest clue what was happening. He won't even know what he had for breakfast this morning, in a couple of weeks.
OP toys, sweets, cartoons, playing with friends, going fun places, school, having to eat smelly vegetables ugh and scraping their knee. That's a 5 year old's life and priorities, these are the things it remembers, not you helping daddy with his sore leg.
All this is, is a funny, embarrassing anecdote you can laugh about with your friends. There are very few parents this hasn't happened to.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 June 2011):
 I think every kid walks in on their parents... it's a fact and rite of passage.
If he asks questions be matter of fact, "Mommy and daddy love each other and we were showing each other.. it's something married adults do"
but if he hasn't asked by now he probably won't...
do not make a big deal about it and this too shall pass.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Hi
He wont remember this his 5, Just next make sure you KNOW his asleep for sure before you start anything in future. I am sure we have all had an lets say awkward moment when it comes to the sex thang lol Just never mention it again, infact his probally forgotten already and your the one thats scarring yourself about it. hope your next planned mission goes well :) x
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reader, matt183782 +, writes (14 June 2011):
he will never rememeber
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Kids don't dwell on stuff that freaks us out, as long as we're blase about it. One of my kids (ca. 5 years old) walked in on us and asked what we were doing -- "oh, mommy and daddy were just playing". No harm, no foul, and not, as far as I know, recollected. That's the joy of toddlers. Now, try to have a sex life with teenagers in the house ...
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Basically, I agree with most of the responses that suggest this episode will pass if not mentioned again, and of course, keep it private from now on.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Dont bring up the incident. If you behave normal, he will forget about it very soon. Thank your stars he's just 5 and not older!!
Hope he hasnt seen much. Next time, LOCK the door!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Speaking from the point of view of a child who has walked in on this sort of thing, please, PLEASE close your door next time.
Also, try not to freak out. This happens. I'm not scarred for life, just a little grossed out. He likely will forget depending on how long he was standing there.
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reader, galdegir  +, writes (14 June 2011):
a few of the comments here are rediculous especially honeypie's vaseline on the door handle comment wth?? At 5 your child I doubt would even remember it or bring it up in a later conversation all he wanted was a bit of attention from a little trouble sleeping I've had similar awkward moment with my own daughter. As Wild Thang said I wouldn't give your son a complex on the complexities of sex just yet if he hasn't asked about that night or mentioned it just pass it off as a awkward moment and allow him to be a child still without the worry of what sex is about yet maybe in the future when you and hubby are planning on being intimate to close the door and lock it before hand to avoid other walk in moments or await until later in the night when you know the children are soundly asleep.It happens at times dont get worried about it with parenting there is no how to book with it.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Step One...Do not Bring up the incident.
Step Two...If they ask, you were having Mommy and Daddy Time. Say no more.
Step Three...get a LOCK for your door and use it.
Best Wishes.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (14 June 2011):
 What can you do but laugh.
He's not going to remember anyways.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 that must have been very embarassing indeed. at the age of five it is indeed possible he may not only remember it, but mention it in company. you may want to give him a little talk about how "Daddy's legs hurting" is something you'd not want to be mentioned in front of people.
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (14 June 2011):
 The only way your kid makes something of it is if you do. The best advice is to treat the incident much the same way as if he walked in on you while you were washing the dishes and he asked you what you were doing.
Bottom line - you'll give him a complex about sex if you talk about it right now. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Just tell him (IF HE ASKS) that the two of you were mommy and daddy wrestling, something for grown ups.. and in the future... vaseline on the door handle on the outside or lock it for the duration.
Sex happens (hopefully). Don't fret. Being a parent doesn't = no more sex ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): He's five and likely won't remember. You needn't bring it up, as he's five and has no capacity for understanding sex.
Next time, close your door or wait until the kids are napping or away on a play date.
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