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writes:well it happened again. I was cheated on. I went out with this guy who i really liked. We got on so well most of the time. However we started arguing one week he decided he'd had enough and we split up. Im only young 15 he was nearly 16. I found out that he had been going out with another girl at the same time all along. Im not very confident when it comes to guys anyway. But this has thrown me over the edge. I've lost hope in guys. R there actually any decent ones out there?? why do i meet all the idiots?
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reader, realguy +, writes (20 November 2006):
Hi Kat,
Sorry about your early experiences with my brethran so far. I know it realy sucks but as I put my right hand on a bible, I can honestly tell you that the type of guy you dream about does exist, he just has to grow up a little and then of course you have to meet him eventualy. Unfortunately, guys mature emmotionaly MUCH slower than woman at this age. I was one of those idiotic young guys once. Thank god, I got plenty of doses of my own medicine and then woke up to the beauty and sacredness of women's soles. It was like a light going off in my head and wallah, I was cured from my slimy prior existence of testostorone crazed player guy. You just have to be patient and with more experiences will find the right guy who will not want to find someone else. Just remember that your confidence in yourself will not only get you through such difficult experiences but will actually make you more attractive and sought after by this "right kind of guy" in the future. So put your head up high, realize you are the mature intelligent, passionate one and move on, your prince charming is waiting for you somewhere. Honest.
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reader, marie78 +, writes (20 November 2006):
It's difficult to get over mens lies... I've never been cheated on but my ex-bf now wants us to be friends with benefits. I just feel like everything in our relationship has been a lie, and I've just been used for sex. Well, look, you have to believe that there are decent men out there, because there are. And when you find out where they are, please send me a message. ;-) But seriously, don't lose all hope or you'll send out negative signals that "nice" guys will pick-up on. Just stay true to who you are and everything will fall in line. Good luck!
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (19 November 2006):
 There are plenty of really wonderful guys out there who wouldn't dream of cheating on their girlfriend. A great deal of dating is trial and error--you'll soon learn to recognize the signs that a guy isn't all you hope. Until then, you've just got to be as strong and open to new love as you possibly can.
You should also understand that a lot of these guys who are just horrible to women at this age will grow out of it. They're learning, too.
I wish you the best of luck.
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