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writes: there is a guy i really like and he likes me too but he is not ready to start a relationship. something happened between us but thats it. even if he likes me he think he is young to have something.please help methanks Reply to this Question
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reader, marie78 +, writes (20 November 2006):
Be his friend, but date other men. Find someone who wants to be in a relationship. Good luck.
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reader, Catlova +, writes (20 November 2006):
For now I would say just be friends, and then see what the future holds for the two of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): If you like this guy just try taking care of his emotional needs by being his friend, try reflective listening, which means listen to what he has to say and then summarize it in a sentence or two in your own words to let him know you understand him, this will make him feel really comfortable about opening up to you when he is around you...never judge or criticize him, but command his respect do not let him disrespect you in anyway like breaking dates or putting you down etc.
In time as your friendship grows he may feel more like being your boyfriend, but you cannot rush the progress of love or a realtionship, to do so will drive him away further from you....in the meantime leave yourself open enough to make other male friends. Friendship is always the basis for romantic love, without it, you really have a house of sand.
Don't be in such a hurry for a romantic relationship, they are work, and you never know someone else may be ready for love and like you more than this fellow does anyway.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (20 November 2006):
 You cannot control how another person thinks or feels unfortunately. If you really think there is a possibility of a relationship then stick around as he may change his mind when he is older and has 'played the field' a little. He may miss what he had with you! But dont put your life on hold waiting for him to change his mind - he may never change his mind and in the meantime you will be closing yourself off from opportunities to be with someone who wants to be with you 100%.
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