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writes: hey, i need help i love my boyfriend more then any thing in the world he has changed my life, he help me get into college he is an amazing guy. but now i feel as if he is pushing me away and sending me mixed messages, we hardly ever have sex and i dont know what is going on i ask him and he says nothing is wrong and he says he does not mean to push me away he loves me but no matter what i try nothing will get him to have sex with me unless he starts it what can i do ......? thanks
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reader, marie78 +, writes (23 November 2006):
I've been there before, and it's hurtful and unsatisfying. As women, we're very sexual beings, and we do value a lot of our woth on our desirability to men. So, when a man you love doesn't want to have sex with you, it can be damaging. Have you asked him what's wrong? If I were you, I'd distance myself from him for a while just to see what he does. Also, don't give into sex when he's ready for it. Right now, he's being selfish and I'm not sure why. You need to talk to him about the issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): i think you should call him and tell him how you feel. Once i had trouble with my bf and he called me and told me what is on him mind and i listened closely and i mad ethe changes to our realashionship that he told me needed to be fixed. Hope my advice works!!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (22 November 2006):
 You need to talk to him and see where he's at. Maybe it's nothing, maybe he's just got something on his mind or maybe he's a bit bored. You need to find out before it's too late and while there's still time to save what you have.
Sit him down and make him feel comfortable to talk to you. He will say nothing's wrong at first, he's obviously the type of guy who finds it hard to talk about his feelings. Find out why he may be pushing you away and why he has been avoiding sexual contact.
If he doesn't have any answers for you, maybe some time apart if needed. He obviously needs time to think about what he wants and you do too. Do you really need a guy like this, who has problems but just lets them fester instead of sorting them out?
Hope this has helped but you really need to talk to him about this, he has the answers you want, as hard as it may be to get them. Don't be scared to walk if the answers are not what you want to hear. Good luck
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