How can I tell my parents I want to be a pornography actress without them blowing a fuse?
Q. i no this sounds weird but i would love to become a pornography actress and im choosing my opitions as i type this but i dont no how to tell my mum and dad with out them putting me in a bording school or in a high up castle with a dragon for a ...
A. 25 February 2007: firstly you are only 15..its illegal to be having sex at your age let alone considering a career in pornography! in my opinion porn is degrading towards women. Women are intellegent, independent, free thinking beings, and should be treated with ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and from a church going family. I like this guy who likes to party and smoke sometimes. Should I go for it?
Q. hey! im 14 years old and a freshmen but i think im pretty mature fir my age. not to sound conceited but theres a couple guys who would like a chance with me but i come from a strict, church going family. im falling for this very hot senior but has ...
A. 21 February 2007: if he has a girlfriend then leave it hunny. if he really doesnt love her he will finish with her, then you can start thinking about it but for now i wouldnt raise your hopes until he is single. i wouldnt let the smoking and partying put you off, if ... (read in full...)
This guy asked me for my email address but I still haven't heard from him yet. Do you think he likes me or should I forget him?
Q. Hi I have been seeing quite a nice guy for only about a month. I am 26 he is 24. A week ago he went to stay with his dad who lives in another country. They don't see one another often. He is there for valentines and he asked for my email but as of ...
A. 13 February 2007: well if its only casual at the moment, dont necesserily expect a valentines email. maybe he is busy and will call you when he gets back, and if not then its his loss xxx... (read in full...)
The boobs on his phone were his mates having a laugh he said. But he calls "these boobs" every day!!! What should I do about it?
Q. About 2-3 months ago I found a picture on my boyfriends phone of someones breasts while trying to bluetooth an image from mine to his. I calmly asked who it was and he insisted that it was a mate winding him up but I had already called the number ...
A. 13 February 2007: hmmm i think you should ask your bf about it and be honest, say you found that she has been callin him etc. etc. dont wrory you wont look paranoid, it will just put him on the spot. if his excuse is rubbish maybe then think about calling her and if ... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt he have called me ?
Q. there was this really reaLLY fit guy that i was seeing, we went out on 2 dates and we talked on the phone and we went to the pictures and i gave him a hand job and then he went quiet and called me less and less and now he doesnt call me anymore and ...
A. 30 August 2006: im pretty sure that the reason for this is cos you gave him the hand job. from my experience of guys, they like girls who will give them 'sexual favours' on the first/second date for a brief moment but they often consider these type 'easy'and decide ... (read in full...)
I'm only 12 and my Dad's friend always grabs at me! Who will believe me and what should I do?
Q. hi.i'm 12 years old virgin. my dad's closest friend grabs me at any chance he gets. i've told him not to do that and i'll tell for him if he tries it again but he says no one will believe me not even my dad his good friend for years. He said he will ...
A. 30 August 2006: hunny you have to tell someone. this man is a peadophile and he can't get away with it. tell whoever in the world you feel closest to, weather it's a parent or a teacher. They will believe you, trust me. Chances are that this man is doing the same ... (read in full...)
Scared to date him incase hes a player...
Q. Hi there, Recently I met a guy on a friday night and turns out my friend also met the same guy while she wa working on the saturday, as he came in to view a property as she is an estate agent. He didn't ask her out but apparently was asking if sh...
A. 30 August 2006: hmm yer hunny this guy does sound like a bit of a player if he's gona act interested in you and then your friend aswell. If i were you i wouldn't meet up with this guy OR i would confront him about it because it's best to find out that he is a ... (read in full...)
My husband looks at porn and has a female friend from college
Q. my husband of 3 years started going onto porn sites about 6 months ago - some of which were teenage porn sites, which disturbed me as i have a 13yr old daughter (he is her step dad) he was also having online chats with the porn women on a stumble ...
A. 25 June 2006: argh you poor thing, he doesnt appreciate you. You deserve so much better. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel. He has been completely disrespectful, so i suggest that you tell him to pack his bags and leave if he is not willing to change. xxx... (read in full...)
We want to be together forever! Will it happen?
Q. Okay, I'm 14 and I've been dating this guy for only 2 months and I lost my virginity to him. I want to be with him for the rest of my life and he wants the same but considering im only 14 do you think this will happen? I love him so much and I wa...
A. 25 June 2006: its totaly possible that you will stay together forever. however, it is unfortunately possible that you will not. People change and often grow apart. I dont think that anybody can ever be 100%ly sure that they will stay with someone forever. Just ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be regarded as just someone's sex partner!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a lot this year and I never had a boyfriend yet. Even though I like one of the men that I have been dating, they just saw me as a sex object, even though I am not being a slut or flirt too much. What can I do ...
A. 25 June 2006: respect yourself and guys will respect you. its easier said than done, but by playing a little hard to get, not having sex unless youre in a proper relationship and letting guys know the real you may let them respect you more. as soon as you feel a ... (read in full...)
Really worried about dating at 14
Q. hey um im a 14 yr old girl n ive had quite a few relationships in my time..okay it sounds stupid as im only young but every time im in love with someone n going out with them, im really shy n nervous.. if they say lets go out or something, i get re...
A. 25 June 2006: aww bless you hunny. dont wrorry i know exactly how you feel, a relationship can be a really nerve racking thing! i think you've just got to think about it alot if a guy asks you out, and if he's really all that great then after a while things will ... (read in full...)
He touched me and tried to kiss me when he was with his old girlfriend. Would he have done the same behind my back?
Q. I love my ex boyfriend so much. We dated for just about 2 and a half months but I knew him for quite a while before. Before we got together he had a gf and although he had a gf, he flirted with me tried kissing me (I backed away as I would hate to ...
A. 18 February 2006: sweety i know exactly what youre going through. i was in the exact same situation and you and my ex dumped me a couple of weeks ago. Even though we had alot of history together and i thought that i would never get over him, trust me, every day gets ... (read in full...)
Lost two boyfriends because I wouldn't let them feel my breasts. What should I do?
Q. I am 15 and I go out with boys, but I admit I get frightened when I am kissing my boyfriend and he tries to feel my breasts so I stop him. I have lost two boys because of this. Should I let him do this and if I do, will he want more?...
A. 5 February 2006: heya sweety . firstly i dont agree with the 14 year old boy (below.) if you do not feel comfterable with this then do not accept it.
At the end of the day a decent guy will respect you more for speaking your mind rather than not saying anyt... (read in full...)
How can I trust him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been spending time apart but i feel i can't trust him. I've spoke to my mum but it not do any work. I planned a night in for us both and he called me and said he's not coming. He was out playing football but what sort of ...
A. 1 February 2006: tell him exactly how you feel. dont wrory about looking paranoid-if he isnt as willing to make this work as you are then he's obviously not worthit but if he hasnt realised how insesnitive he has been then maybe he will change. hope this helps xxx... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a girlfriend, but I want to change his mind!
Q. I'm not sure exactly how you would define our relationship but me and this guy have been "seeing" each other for a while now. He says he likes me a lot but doesn't want a gf because he has been hurt in the past. I on the other hand really want to ...
A. 7 August 2005: I have been through this situation many times and have got emotionally hurt many times because of it but at the end of the day it is totaly up to you how you feel about the situation. If you are happy just 'seeing' each other, without a ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is about half what my boyfriend would like, so he gets moody and I feel guilty!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. he gets very moody when I don't want to have sex and acts like a child. I do not like to have a lot of sex and so feel guilty that I am not interested enough - do I have a problem? If we ...
A. 13 July 2005: Talk it through. Tell him exactly how you feel about the situation and i am sure that he will be more understanding, as maybe he thinks that the reason you won't have sex as often as he wants is due to other reasons such as you don't feel attracted ... (read in full...)
Other boys are attracted to my girlfriend, because she's so pretty and friendly. What can I do?
Q. I and my girlfriend have known each other for a year. She is very friendly and pretty so she has many friends. I love her very much and she also love me so much too. Everything should well but I have some problems about her. Due t...
A. 13 July 2005: If she loves you sweety then she won't go off with these other guys. Talk to her how you are feeling and I am sure that she will tell you herself that she has no intention of going off with anyone else. She chose you over everyone else, so that must ... (read in full...)
He made a decision to end it between us, because I "do his head in"...
Q. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years finished me on Saturday. He said he's sick of me, can't stand me and that I do his head in. He said that we'll be friends though n we'll see each other all the time, but now I see him more now we're 'mates' than ...
A. 6 July 2005: I'm afraid that the chances of you two getting back together are not so likely, sweety. However, if this guy has said this horrible stuff about you you are too good for him and he does not deserve you back! You are right to not want to see him as a ... (read in full...)
A sexual assault has left me feeling dirty and horrible...
Q. I was raped and contracted herpes. It only came up once but now I am paranoid and scared that I will pass it to my husband and children. My husband knows about it but now I just feel dirty and horrible. He claims that he still loves me and still fi...
A. 6 July 2005: I am so sorry to hear this. However, i am almost certain that your husband is not lying when he says he still finds you attractive and he still loves you. This horrible experience which happened was not your fault. Your husband loves you and love ... (read in full...)
He's thinking over going out with me, but was I too forward asking him out?
Q. hiya! I have this crush and I just asked him out. He is thinking about it at the moment but do you think I have done the right thing to ask him out cos he is a year older than me? I am 13 and he is 14, is that wrong of me? Should I be going out w...
A. 5 July 2005: firstly no, he is not too old for you. It is only one years difference and at the ages 13 and 14, teenagers seem to have similar interests. Take it a step at a time, sweety but if he does say no then at least you know that you have tried. B... (read in full...)
Should I be giving my boyfriend another chance after he kissed someone else?
Q. I'm 16 years old and I have just gotten back together with my ex Tom. We have been dating for about 10 months now, but we have broken up 4 times already (but no longer than 2 weeks). About a month and a half ago, he cheated on me (he kissed anoth...
A. 2 July 2005: Instead of thinking about looking stupid, think about your self value and your pride. You are worth much more than someone who can settle for second best. Unless you feel this was really just a one off and you can sort it out, i think you should ... (read in full...)
We're having sex and he doesn't want a "relationship", but I'm in love with him...
Q. I'm a 19 year old girl and have been sleeping with this guy for nearly a year and half. My feelings are growing stronger for him but he doesn't want a relationship. I recently sent him a text telling him what I really for him but he didnt reply. I...
A. 30 June 2005: I know how you are feeling at the moment sweety and I understand how horrible this must be! I think the reason that this guy is saying this is because he is a player and wants to do stuff with other girls besides from you. If you think that by ... (read in full...)
Ever since we kissed, I can't think of anything else but him!
Q. Last week I kissed this lad who I have always liked but didnt think he liked me in that way. Ever since that kiss all I can think about is him. Does this mean I'm in love with him? ...
A. 30 June 2005: It doesn't mean that you are necesserily in love with him, but for sure you like him a lot! It's a lovely feeling to kiss a guy who you have liked for a long time, as you no know that he feels the same way! Take it slowly and see what happens. xxx... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about my problems and my depression...
Q. I am 16 and suffer from depression. I have attempted suicide twice. I cannot talk to my parents or friends about my problems. I can only speak to my girlfriend who is also my best friend. We have been together 7 months and I love her but she has ...
A. 28 June 2005: awww sweety I am so sorry to hear this. But I really think you should seek some help from maybe a counsellor or something. I know it sounds scary and you think it may not help but it really is worth the try. I am so sorry to hear about your ... (read in full...)
After our breakup, he wants to stay "friends with benefits", but it hurts to see him with other girls...
Q. Me and my b/f of one year just broke up about a month ago. He broke up with me saying so many excuses that I dont even know what's true. Anywho, he still wants to be friends with benefits and hang out as "friends" but he rubs it in my face about all ...
A. 27 June 2005: Ok sweety, what you should be concentrating on is getting over this guy. By being friends with him you will not be helping yourself at all in the process of getting over him, in fact you'd be mkaing it much much harder. By hearing about these other ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly, even though my guy tells me I'm not...
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I am very self-confident about myself. I like this boy and he likes me but I hate him looking at me. I can't get close to a boy. I think I'm scared of what they might really see or think of me. It hurts so much, as this affects ...
A. 27 June 2005: Do you think that this could be to do with how people have treated you in the past? (for example even it was one unkind comment said to you) because even one unkind comment about someones appearence can totaly lower or even totaly get rid of your ... (read in full...)
I worry that, when I meet my text-guy, he won't like the way I look...
Q. I met this guy a month ago and have been texting each other since and he wants to meet up with me again. I really want to see him again and maybe start a relationship but I'm scared he won't like the way I look seeing as he always has a really ...
A. 26 June 2005: I suggest to do a bit more ground work before you meet up with him and find out WHY he's a player and what exactly he's done, then maybe ask him about it. If he seems to be a player I dont suggest meeting up with him as then maybe you will start to ... (read in full...)
I want to give this guy a hug, but not sure if there's some sort of hugging "protocol"...
Q. When is it appropriate to hug a guy? There's this guy I like who flirts with me a lot, once waved madly at me when we saw each other before assembly, picked me first during classwork where we had to find a partner that wasn't sitting next to you, ...
A. 26 June 2005: i say just go for it! if he hugs many girls i am sure he will not suspect that you like him, as it could just mean you are being friendly! Just hug him maybe to say hi, bye, if he pays you a compliment (etc.) Be slightly flirty with him, but at the ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend drop me for my gorgeous best friend?
Q. I'm 15 and have been going out with my bf for about 2 months. I love him loads but I'm worried he'll start to fancy my best friend instead of me. My best friend is amazing and drop dead gorgeous as well but until now I haven't been worried because ...
A. 26 June 2005: Don't wrorry you're not being stupid, it's natural to worry about things like this. However, I feel that you are thinking the very worst as I am very sure that your bf will not start fancying your friend. He chose to go out with you, and that shows ... (read in full...)
He's 20 and she's 13, but she's interested. What should she do?
Q. If a 13 year old girl like a 20 year old guy,and he smiles and stares at her,and she to afraid to talk to him, and she loves him, what should she do?...
A. 22 June 2005: well maybe he is just being friendly, but no matter how much you like him this guy is very old compared to you and i don't think anythign should be done about it. If he is looking at you in a flirty manner, i do advise to stay away from him. These ... (read in full...)
My bf seemed fine with us not having sex, but now he touches me in places I don't want him to!
Q. Hi I'm 15yrs. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about two months. told him that I didn't want sex when he asked me, he seemed very understanding and we spoke no more of it. But since then he has become very touchy feely. He touches place...
A. 22 June 2005: You sound like a very considerate girl and i think its great that you told him that you diddnt feel ready for sex if you are not ready. However, at the end of the day it is your feelings that come first. Do you really think it's ok to let him do ... (read in full...)
My best friend and my boyfriend can't stand each other!
Q. Jealousy & competition I'm dating a wonderful man but my closest girlfriend does not get along with him & he doesn't like her either. When they first met, it was great, but over the past year, they've developed mutual conflict. They both accu...
A. 20 June 2005: i think that you should basically pour out your feelings to both of them. let them realise how much you like each of them and how hard it would be to choose. Make sure that both of them feel wanted by you and make sure that your boyfriend and best ... (read in full...)
We kissed on the first date... but then he SMS'd me to say he regretted it!
Q. Hi there, About two weeks ago my brother-in-law introduced me to this guy he used to work with. He had given him my phone number and he called me on a Sunday evening, we chatted for about an hour and he asked me on a date the following Saturd...
A. 8 June 2005: I am pretty sure you haven't done anything wrong. I am not sure what his problem is, but maybe it's possible he is with another woman or something? I suggsst you just leave it and find a guy who doesn't mess you around like this! Unless you really ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be "best friends" after a breakup? How?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me and she still wants to keep me as her best friend. She is dating someone else and I still love her. What should I do?...
A. 8 June 2005: I really feel for you on this one. It must be so hard at the moment, but given time you will get over her. However, in this time I suggest not really having much to do with her for the simple fact that you're going to feel more and more crushed ... (read in full...)
She offered me a threesome, but I'd rather sleep with her one-on-one...
Q. Hi, I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. I'm a male guy who has a female friend who is going out with my mate, however tonight I was talking to her online and she asked me to have a threesome with her (she is bisexual) so I said to her I prefer ...
A. 8 June 2005: No way I think you should do it. You would totally be betraying your mate for one evening of sex with a girl you don't even seem crazy about! Weigh it up and I think you will find that it's not worth it. x... (read in full...)
Caught him making out with my friend and ditched him, but now he wants another chance...
Q. I am 25 years old and I live in England had a wonderful relationship with a guy but I caught him making out with a friend of mine so I ditched him. He keeps saying he wants me back and I don't know what to do. Please help!!!...
A. 8 June 2005: Totally agree with 'just a friend'. If you actually caught him, god knows what he does when you're not looking! I suggest totally forgetting this guy and the friend. You deserve better. x... (read in full...)
He lied to me about everything. Now we're split up...and I'm pregnant!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have no idea where to start. Well, I am an 18 year old deeply in need of advice. I got myself involved with this man for 6 1/2 months now, knowing he is bisexual. What I didn't know is that he has a problem... he is whore with men as m...
A. 6 June 2005: awww I am so sorry to hear that, It must've been so horrible. However, I think that you should really try your very best to get over him by totally blocking him out of your life altogether. He sounds like a horrible person and just let time help you ... (read in full...)
She's a special girl to me, but she's a virgin... and wants to stay that way!
Q. I used to be a guy that dates lots of girls till I met this girl. We have been dating for a while now and I really love her. But she is a virgin and has refused to make love to me. I have tried to be faithful but I am at my ends. What do I do? ...
A. 5 June 2005: Relationships are more than just sex. If you really like this girl then be prepared to wait and never push her into doing anything. When she feels ready things will start to happen, but this girl sounds like a really special person with lots of ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend leave me because our relationship was too intense?
Q. Do rebounds ever last?...My now ex bf of 2 years (Age 22) who I lived with, left me (age 19), 3 months ago for another girl who is only 17. He seemed to go out with her almost immediately, but I can't understand how emotionally he can move on so ...
A. 2 June 2005: Men can totaly suck sometimes! lol. I seriously think you should move on and forget about him. I know it's easier said than done but, you're young and have your whole life ahead of you. So why not go out with some girlfriends and just have fun, ... (read in full...)
Should I believe my bf when he says that the raunchy text message wasn't his?
Q. Been dating 3+ years, thought he was Mr Perfect. Found a raunchy outgoing text on his phone that seemed to imply having slept with whoever he sent the text to. (wasnt Me!) Went nuts but he insists he lent his mobile to his friend who put his sim ...
A. 2 June 2005: Hmm, I suggest giving him the benefit of the doubt for the time being but maybe do a bit of detective work, like finding out exactly who this girl is (etc.) I'd keep an open mind about things and if anything else suspicious happens you should ... (read in full...)
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