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writes: I was raped and contracted herpes. It only came up once but now I am paranoid and scared that I will pass it to my husband and children.My husband knows about it but now I just feel dirty and horrible. He claims that he still loves me and still finds me attractive but I think he must be lying, how can he, now?All I want to do is curl up and die. Should I just leave my husband now? I don't know what to do.
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reader, xbrooke +, writes (22 July 2005):
What u have been through is terrible, a couple of years ago my sister was raped my a man and woman that she thought were her friends, sje also got pregnant by this. my point is she finally got back on her feet by support from her family and friends she is now happily married, and rebuilding her life. you will too
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
You have been through a terrible ordeal. Someone has violated you in the worst way possible and along with the mental after affects, which are crippling enough on their own, he has left you with a physical one.
Your flare ups of herpes can be treated. Allow your husband to help you. Do not let the sick twisted person that did this to you ruin any more of your life. It is common for victims of sexual assault to feel dirty and unlovable afterwards, you are not alone. Seek help to deal with your feelings and i do hope that you can move on from this. Please let us know how you are getting on x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2005): I am so sorry from what has happened to you. It sounds like you are experiencing some after effects of the assault. Please seek some help for you to cope with this horrid crime. Victims of sexual assault typically experience a wide range of feelings, including anger, depression, guilt, and fear. In addition, there may be physical symptoms, difficulties with memory and concentration, nightmares or "flashbacks" of the assault, and disturbances in interpersonal relationships. Generally, counseling provides assistance with "working through" the trauma of sexual assault, with the goal of minimizing negative psychological and social effects so that the survivor can move on with her life.
A major goal of counseling is to help the survivor build a support network of people who can help her or him through this difficult time. For many, a support group can be an instrumental part of the recovery process. Talking with others who have had the same experience can greatly decrease feelings of shame and isolation. Also, counseling can include one's partner or family members, as they may need help understanding how to be supportive.
I urge you to please pursue all avenues of help and support. My heart goes out to you and your family. God Bless and I hope you find the love, support and encouragement you need to get through recovery.
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reader, lucy +, writes (6 July 2005):
I am so sorry to hear this. However, i am almost certain that your husband is not lying when he says he still finds you attractive and he still loves you. This horrible experience which happened was not your fault. Your husband loves you and love comes with a great understanding so he must really understand you and i think that he still sees you as the beautiful woman he saw you as before. Try to get some counselling sessions as these may really help. Remember that what happened was not your fault and this disgusting rapist should not make you feel like this as it is all his fault, not yours atol. Best of luck sweety. xxx
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reader, becky05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
Talk to your husband about it, this should put your mind at ease. think about getting counselling (for the record, i used to think it was rubbish till it helped me) to help work your head round this, your doctor will be able to advise you. Sexual assault takes a long time to get over so take one day at a time and dont be afraid to ask for help.
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