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writes: Hi there,Recently I met a guy on a friday night and turns out my friend also met the same guy while she wa working on the saturday, as he came in to view a property as she is an estate agent. He didn't ask her out but apparently was asking if she had a boyfriend.This guy sent me a text when I got home friday and also phoned me the following night. However I didn't reply to him until a few days later and agreed to go for a drink with him which has not happened yet but we are meeting up this friday.I am worried he is a player and thats why he was also interested in my friend. Perhaps it's because I hadn't contacted him orginally, I don;t know.I split with my boyfriend of 4 years months back and have suffered a lot of heartache so I am scared about meeting men I don't know much about.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Maybe you should hold off dating until you are have recovered fully, hun. Getting back into the 'dating scene' should be fun, exciting -not anxious and worrying about whether this guy or that guy is a cad or a player.. Dear, he's shopping around and there is nothing wrong with that. Why is it when a guy expresses interest in two women whom he is NOT clearly dating, yet, he gets branded as a player? He doesn't know you so how can he swear an 'exclusive' allegiance to you? If you are worried he's a player and you haven't had a date yet...then the poor guy is 'branded' a bad guy right off the starting gate. So stop and think about this. Doesn't he have the right to pick and choose. Us woman do that all the time when we are dating ..discriminating and scrutinizing. We know that dating is a selection process-shouldn't a guy do the same thing? Selecting is a way of getting to know people who could be a possibility. If he's not a possibility then you make the 'clear cut choice' to walk away or possibly keep him as a new friend or not. That's up to you. Having drinks with a guy doesn't mean you have to date him again. So..stay clam, stay rationale and go have that drink with him and keep this in perspective, because I can assure you...he's got it in perspective. He just wants to get to know you better, as a person, a friend-possibly someone he might like to 'date' in the future. After talking with him awhile, your instincts will kick in and you will know if he's a player or not. If so, simply say "no thanks-see ya', hold your head high and walk out the door. But give him a chance..play it smart, use your head and don't allow your emotions to get the best of you. Be strong and good luck.
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reader, lucy +, writes (30 August 2006):
hmm yer hunny this guy does sound like a bit of a player if he's gona act interested in you and then your friend aswell. If i were you i wouldn't meet up with this guy OR i would confront him about it because it's best to find out that he is a player now rather than getting emotionally attatched to him and then finding out. lotsa love lucy xxx
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