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writes: hi.i'm 12 years old virgin. my dad's closest friend grabs me at any chance he gets. i've told him not to do that and i'll tell for him if he tries it again but he says no one will believe me not even my dad his good friend for years. He said he will tell them i'm unstable and seeking attention, that my best bet is to allow him have fun with me. i am against this but what can i do? who will believe me i'm adopted you see.i try to stay good and not cause problems, but i'm scared they will believe him?please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, lucy +, writes (30 August 2006):
hunny you have to tell someone. this man is a peadophile and he can't get away with it. tell whoever in the world you feel closest to, weather it's a parent or a teacher. They will believe you, trust me. Chances are that this man is doing the same to other young girls aswel and he will get found out if you tell someone cos then something will be done about it. best of luck sweety all my love, lucy xxx
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reader, Rachx +, writes (30 August 2006):
You really MUST tell someone about this man straight away.People will believe you, what he is doing is very wrong and dangerous. Dont feel scared you kow in y our heart your telling the truth and thats what matters.X
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): With the others I also say you MUST tell someone about this.
You must understand sweetie that men say things like "No one will believe you" because that is how they manage to get away with what they do. They scare the person in to not speaking out. It is NOT true though. Someone WILL listen. What he is doing is VERY, VERY wrong.
If you don't feel like you can tell your step parents then tell child services, a teacher, or another adult that you trust.
Do not think that this situation will sort itself out by itself - it will not. It could get far worse. Please tell someone and come back here to give us an update if possible. Never doubt yourself, you are in the right here and you need an adults assistance to help you out.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Martini is right, contact a child services organisation and tell them what you have told us here. You are not a trouble maker and dont allow this man to make it seem that way. Tell them everything and dont allow him to get away with this inappropraite behaviour. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): hi. i told my best friend and she made me tell her mummy. Now my foster mum knows, since my friend's mum made me tell her but she was with me the whole time. I have never seen my foster mum cried until today.after alot of embarasing questions she promised me that dad's friend wont set foot in her house again and she was going to tell dad so they can decide what to do. She said she believes me,said dad will too.she said she loves me but was upset i didnt should come to her first or trust her enough.Thank you all for helping out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Hi Darling, People like this man will try to scare you into being ashamed and make you believe that people will doubt you, but dont believe him, he has more to loose than you so tell someone anyone and everyone this bastard needs to be exposed darling be brave enough to do it, as soon as you go back to school tell a teacher you feel that you can trust and they can call in your parents, this is the year 2006 and people cant get away with this like they used to, so before he totally ruins your life speak up sweetheart you have done nothing wrong and people will believe you the only person to be ashamed is this nasty man NOT YOU. Take care and stay safe XX
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Tell one of your step parents..they will be able to see that you are not lying, by your hesitance in telling them. They will be able to see that something is troubling you, and that you are afraid.. Is it affecting your school work? Before long a teacher or someone will notice that something is bothering you anyway. So you MUST report him!!
Just tell him that you have taken advice on this - (which you now have).. that his little "secret" is out in the open anyway - but not when you are completely alone with him - and do not let it stop there. He is a pervert and he is committing a serious criminal offence. What he is doing is sexual assault, no less, and it MUST be nipped in the bud.
He may already have a criminal record of child abuse, so if the police find out, he will be in trouble for this, and serve him right!
You will have to run the risk that they may not believe you at first, but if you are telling the truth (if needs be, keep a diary to show them when this has been happening, but do not let it go on for too long), it will out in the end anyway, so keep on until they DO believe you..Tell the teacher or social services, or your friends parents.
Try to avoid being in the same room if at all possible with this man, and if anyone asks why you dont want to be alone with him - TELL them!! If you dont, he will only get worse, as he will keep trying to push the boundaries, and he will get bolder and bolder until he gets the opportunity - so please, DO something before he gets the chance!!
A relative of mine has been through the same thing, when she was only 10 yrs old and when her grandparents found out, the police lady told them that these predators just keep pushing their luck further until finally they end up raping their victim. We stopped him just in time. So be brave, be strong - and TELL someone!
If you need more advice, please feel free to send me a private e-mail - just click on my name, I would really appreciate the chance to help you. Good luck.
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (30 August 2006):
 hi darlingim so sorryyou areputting up with that if i was you tell your step parents if there not willing to listen you say your are adopted tell your social worker i know there would be trouble but if he does end up doing something you have told someone and then he an say all he wants cause no one will belive him darling because you have already opened yourmouth you take care hen dont let him get you down take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): You absolutely need to tell someone. What about your mom? These preditors work on a fear factor -- the more scared and ashamed he can make you feel, the more control he has over you, and the situation will only get worse. He'll use excuses that "he was only kidding around" or "just being freindly" however, any man told to back off under these circumstances would do it. He is a preditor and he is trying to make you his next victim. It might be really scary to talk to your mom or someone else you can trust, but once you do it will be okay, and you will fell better and you will be empowered. You have not done anything wrong and your parents need to know. Please write again to tell how it turned out. Be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): If your dad doesn't do anything, then I suggest you go to Children Services. Look that up in your local white pages or government directory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): Well i think that you should definitely tell your dad or someone close to you, because that is sexual harrassment and he is trying to take advantage of him and your dad's relationship. You should tell your dad and if he loves you then he will do something to take care of the problem.
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