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writes: I'm 15 and have been going out with my bf for about 2 months. I love him loads but I'm worried he'll start to fancy my best friend instead of me. My best friend is amazing and drop dead gorgeous as well but until now I haven't been worried because she's very shy and hardly talks to him. However lately her confidence has started to rise and she talks to him more and I'm worried my boyfriend will start to like her more than me. Am I just being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2005): hello, wow we're going through the exact same thing. See I have a best friend who is so pretty, and she talks to my bf alot, more that she used to (she used to hate him), but yeah he probally doesnt like or will have feelings for her. And remember she is your best freind, she would tell you if she had feelings that he might be interested in her. The best advice I would give to you is talk to him, belive me you will feel alot better. Thats what I did, and things feel better than ever. Just tell him straight up, and tell him to be perfectly honest. And if your still unsure talk to your friend, ask her questions. But im sure you worring over nothing, I mean he is with you, not her! so hope everything works out! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2005): I bet there are plenty of people that feel the same way as you. I have with my current bf. I was always too busy concentrating on what was going on between them to see if anything was going on, it drove me mad. She always got so much attention from loads of other guys, because I'm the shy one. I actually eventually spoke to my bf about how I felt and he told me that he only saw her as a friend and nothing more. Since then our relationship has got better and better, we talk about things a lot more.Feeling that way nearly ruined the best relationship I have ever had.
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reader, Cambelina  +, writes (27 June 2005):
No, you're not being stupid because I have the same problem.... Often being outshone by my best friend (or feeling that way, anyway). But at the end of the day, if you believe in yourself that you are just as beautiful and worthwhile as she is, then this will rub off onto other people and they will believe the same thing. If you're insecure then people will see this as weak and you will make it harder for urself. Show the world how amazing you are, and that you don't care what anyone thinks about you because you know the truth about yourself and you're happy with who you are, and people will pick this up and you've got it all, sister!
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reader, lucy +, writes (26 June 2005):
Don't wrorry you're not being stupid, it's natural to worry about things like this. However, I feel that you are thinking the very worst as I am very sure that your bf will not start fancying your friend. He chose to go out with you, and that shows that you have some really special qualities which he must love. The amazing thing about every one of us is that we are individuals and just because you think your friend may be better looking than you it certainly does not mean your bf would prefer her at all, as I am sure he sees you as beautiful on the inside and out. There are always going to be people who you feel are funnier/better looking/more intellegent than you but you have to remember that you are a special individual and your boyfriend likes you for being you! hope this helps sweety. xxx
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