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writes: I used to be a guy that dates lots of girls till I met this girl. We have been dating for a while now and I really love her. But she is a virgin and has refused to make love to me. I have tried to be faithful but I am at my ends. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): just talk to her and explain her what might happen if she wants to stay that way! and if she really loves you she will take the best choice to keep the relationship going!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): you should respect her, if u REALLY love her you won't LEAVE her just for sex. That's messed up..stop pressuring her, it's only going to KILL the relationship. I'm a 20yr old virgin & if my BF acted like you I would think he was just in it for the sex.
Love isn't sex, so leave her alone about it. If you NEED sex that freakin bad & can't control your hormones, FINE, breakup w/ her for some easy sleeze & i'm sure you'll regret it, while your gf finds another man that respects her wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): TALK to HER!!!! I am in the same as your girlfriend.. I would love for my guy to let me know if he's feeling frustrated so we could figure out if he just needs physical release (lol, no but seriously) or if sex is important as part of a relationship. This way we could figure out a compromise or i we wanted to really put this much energy into a relationship that might not work. DO NOT cheat!! Leave if you really can't stand it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): Man I would dump that chick. 1) sex is more important to you than your relationship with her (don't argue. You wouldn't Have asked what to do other wise because you would have just said 'ok') 2) The relationship won't work out in the end because its not the top of your list, so....3) she'll date another guy after you and probably bang him because you "loosened the lid" on the proverbial pickle jar and then all that time you spent with her was just wasted cause you didn't get anything. So quit wasting your time. You want sex and she doesn't. Ball game.
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reader, Cutie_Mish +, writes (7 June 2005):
hmmm I do agree with Lucy. Shane seems to think sex is what makes a relationship more "special". Sex might bring the couple together but without sex, it really brings out what the true meanings of a relationship.This girl is a virgin and she really does seem like she wants to find the right guy, maybe you need to see that if you really love her, you'd wait as long as it takes to finially make love to her, and not keep asking... xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2005): I disagree with the below. Sex is not what seperates friendship from a relationship and there can still be love without sex. Of course some day this girl will want to have sex with you but for now stick to kissing her and making her feel special. Sex can happen between a couple who have absolutely no feelings for each other! Wait for this girl if you really love her and when that time comes it will be really special for the both of you.
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reader, Shane +, writes (6 June 2005):
Hey mate,Well, firstly, I wouldn't agree with Lucy, I think she got the wrong end of the stick. You didn't mean you were seriously considering cheating, right? Right??? Cause cheating is a bit of a no-no...This is a classic conflict of interests. She isn't ready, and you are. The answer is fairly simple. You should never, ever make someone do what they're not ready to do. Lucy was right, a relationship is more than just sex. Unfortunately, relationships without sex might as well just be a frindship. What makes a relationship different from a friendship is the sexual aspect. Anyone, correct me if I'm wrong???If you really do love her, perhaps you could wait. It is hard to wait when you don't know how long it's for though. Is it until marriage? Until she's ready?(which could possibly be a long time.) I think it's fair to ask for a ball-park.It's ok to look for sex in a prospective relationship, it is an integral part of adult relationships anyway. If you're needs aren't being met, perhaps it's time to move on. I say that totally without malice towards her. You both deserve to be happy, and if having sex makes her unhappy, or not having it makes you unhappy, then things aren't working. It might be best for you both to pursue new pastures so that your conflicting desires don't frustrate each other.Hope this helps.
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reader, lucy +, writes (5 June 2005):
Relationships are more than just sex. If you really like this girl then be prepared to wait and never push her into doing anything. When she feels ready things will start to happen, but this girl sounds like a really special person with lots of morals, which to be honest is quite hard to find! If you want sex so much that you'd be willing to cheat I think this girl deserves better.
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (5 June 2005):
There may be nothing you can do about it. You two might not work out, because you have big differences on something so crucial in a relationship. If you can't stand having to wait for as long as she does, then you gotta end it. Does she want to wait until she's married? If this is the case you probably won't be able to change her mind. Maybe you could, but you haven't succeeded yet. So is this girl special enough to endure no sex for what might be years? If she is, I'm glad for you, even though I know how bad it will be to go without sex for so long. If she isn't, then break up with her. It would be better to break up now than continue if things aren't going where you want. The hard part is figuring out what she means to you, but when you do the answer will be easy.
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reader, Devil's Advocate +, writes (5 June 2005):
 If you love her and want to be with her then you will wait for her to be ready. But let's face reality matey, what you really want to do is get down and dirty with a girl and it sounds like pretty much any girl will do so you need to make a choice: Miss right or miss right-now...
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