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writes: I am 16 and suffer from depression. I have attempted suicide twice.I cannot talk to my parents or friends about my problems. I can only speak to my girlfriend who is also my best friend. We have been together 7 months and I love her but she has just told me that she may be gay. She is 15 and has had a gay relationship in the past. If I lose her I don't know how I will cope. Can someone please help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Don't kill yourself over a RELATIONSHIP!!
If it turns out that she is gay...you can still be friends.
My boyfriend dumped me and I thought I would die. I even carved the first letter of his name (G) on my hip with a razor blade.
I cut my wrists 5 times in one night.
And for what?? Cause my life wasn't perfect.
You are 16, you have SOO much to live for it could be sports, academics, art, science, helping others, whatever you love.
What you need to do:
Make a list of everything good about yourself (hair, talent, nice abs, strength, friends, brains, ANYTHING!!)
Get therapy- it saved me!! I had an eating disorder, I cut, I had low self esteem- EVERYTHING!!
Change your attitude- it is 90% of everything you do....no joke. Look at it this way, she set you free to be with someone better.
Take an anti-depressant. (don't stop taking it without consulting your doctor...thats what my uncle did....he killed himself then)
Relax....its going to be okay.
We all know what you're going through.
We love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): you need to get heip i have tried to kill my self 6 times and it has been a year since and i feel great
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reader, QueenKatofTypos +, writes (29 June 2005):
Get help NOW. I mean it! I attempted suicide twice, 2 years ago, and I can't tell you how great I am doing with the help of therapy.You CAN make it through, even if you aren't together any more. Like others said, you're still young and you never know what tomorrow will bring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2005): Hi there, I understand almost exactly what you're going through, first off being 15 is really hard because it's when you start to experience these feelings and that you don't quite understand yet. I'm 17 years old, and I have been in a relationship on and off for 3 years .... basically since I was 14 ... when we were both 15 we went through those exact feelings your going through now. We both use to cut our wrists or forearms just to release some of the pain we felt because we were going through so much emotion at the same time. It's ok to not want to talk to your parents about your relationships and your problems ... it was hard for me in fact I still don't do it at times. But I strongly suggest that you talk to the one friend YOU consider as your BEST FRIEND EVER (other then your ex)and tell him or her what you feel inside and the things you do to yourself. It won't be easy but they will understand and hopefully try to help you to get over your girlfriend and your problems ... but it won't happen in one day and you have try yourself to get over your problems. About your girlfriend, you are still young Dear, and so is she. It is really hard to get over something that you're going through, but it will get better if you just look up and not down. Take it from somebody who would once upon a time ago kill herself if she ever lost my boyfriend ... you learn to except the fact that things have changed ... you either adapt or you don't. But if you must have her in your life ... keep her as your best friend and maybe try and talk to her about your feelings. Theres a saying that I kinda live by, maybe you should too :: Find arms that will hold you at your weakness, eyes that will see you at your ugliest, and a heart that will love you at your worst. This means that if your girlfriend thinks she might be gay and that you guys might brake up just think of this saying ... YOU WILL FIND SOMEBODY OUT THERE THAT WILL LOVE YOU AND NEVER LEAVE YOU, what I'm saying is don't stoop looking Dear because the one you might truly love one is out there and if you stop loking now you might not find her. So sweetie don't stop living your life because your girlfriend doesn't want to be in it, rise up from this and show her that you don't need her right now and look for someone else that WILL TRULY see you for you and stay by you at all times and will never leave you for a girl or other guy. Trust me shes out there ... don't give up!
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (28 June 2005):
 I am 15 and i tried suicide once but I realised there was more to life than meets the eye! I cut my wrists 3 times. I only did it because my boyfriend cheated on me. But after that things started to blossom. I finished my boyfriend and I know I will find someone else that I trust and really like. My life has turned right side up now, and it will for you too. Don't worry about your girlfriend being gay you are still young you will find someone who feels the same as you and someone you can trust just like your ex. I just thought you might want sopme help from someone who has been through what you have!!
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reader, lucy +, writes (28 June 2005):
awww sweety I am so sorry to hear this. But I really think you should seek some help from maybe a counsellor or something. I know it sounds scary and you think it may not help but it really is worth the try. I am so sorry to hear about your girlfriend but things will get better I promise. If you two break up then of course it will be a bad time but maybe you could look at it as a time to meet new people as friends (male or female). A true friend will always stick by you through thick and thin while girlfriends/boyfriends will come and go. Please don't try and attempt to kill yourself because you are a special individual and it is not worth it. I'm not going to preach to you about life etc.etc. but things will get better sweety and I know this. Little by little i think you should start becoming less dependent of your girlfriend, until you relaise that it will be easy to live without her and when you start a relationship with someone remember to make them part of your life, not your reason for living. It may sound simple but simply by making a list of the good things in your life you may help this realise that things are not quite as bad as they may seem. You say you can not speka 2 a fmaily member or a friend but i strongly suggest to give it a try, as even though it seems scary and you think they may not understand, there is a very strong possibility that they will, as i am sure you are loved by many people and if they realised how much you were sufffering they would do alot to help you. For now though i think you should definitely seek professional help and maybe join organizations or clubs which involves meeting new people and which would maybe take your mind off certain depressing situations. Good luck and please look after yourself. xxx
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reader, becky05 +, writes (28 June 2005):
hiya, I am 23 and have had depressive episodes since I was 16 and I am just beginning to recover now.I have also attempted suicide several times in the past. I know it may seem that you wouldnt be able to cope if you lost your girlfriend and I know it would hurt for a long time, but on the positive side, you would be able to stay friends so she would still be there for you. I have felt the same way many times in the past and have been hurt more times than I can remember but it DOES get better.You are still young and you have a lot of fun still to have and even though it may not seem like it, there ARE other girls out there for you. I hope this helps a bit.
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