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writes: Dear Cupid, I have been dating a lot this year and I never had a boyfriend yet. Even though I like one of the men that I have been dating, they just saw me as a sex object, even though I am not being a slut or flirt too much. What can I do to earn their respect and tell them that I am not just a sex object?
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reader, lucy +, writes (25 June 2006):
respect yourself and guys will respect you. its easier said than done, but by playing a little hard to get, not having sex unless youre in a proper relationship and letting guys know the real you may let them respect you more. as soon as you feel a guy starts treating you just as a sex object without showing any respect, tell him straight that if that's what he wants then he has got the wrong girl. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): Unfortunately some men look at particular types of girls and see them as sex objects. This could be because you are very pretty, have a nice figure and are extremely chatty and friendly.If you've been dating lots of boys in your area, then they will talk amongst themselves and if you have slept with a few of them, then this affirms what they are thinking..sex object.I would be inclined to calm things down a bit and maybe not date so many! Sadly it's still one rule for the boys and another for the girls, regardless of women supposedly being equal to men. Take your time to get to know a guy properly before you sleep with him, at least then you will know he likes you for yourself and not just the sex. That is the only way you will earn any respect.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (25 June 2006):
 Hey There Sweetie
Well firstly i'm sorry you sound so sad :o) but i do have to say that honey you have to state your opinion right from the word go on these dates ok you have to make it known that you are no just a sex object you have feelings and emotions too your human and won't just be treated as a glorified F**K buddy your worth much more than that an deserve respect the same as anyone else, also treat people as you expect to be treated in return you know :o) about the whole not had a b/f yet thing? well your young enjoy the dating scene for a while don't be in a mad rush to settle down with the first guy that looks half interesting you know go out there on the single scence and work it girl enjoy it and have lots of fun tryin :o) life is to short.. you said you like this guy but he see's you as a sex object... honey that ain't right go out and find a better guy that will treat you right.
I hope my advice was of some help to you sweetie :o) good luck ok... If you ever need someone to talk to or just a shoulder to cry on or maybe a little more advice, truely i'm always here for you ok :o)
You Take Care Babe And Good Luck X
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