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writes: Okay, I'm 14 and I've been dating this guy for only 2 months and I lost my virginity to him. I want to be with him for the rest of my life and he wants the same but considering im only 14 do you think this will happen? I love him so much and I wanna spend my life with him and he also told me that when we're out of high school and I turn 19 he's going to ask me to marry him. Also he told me there's no way he will break up with me, unless I cheat on him. Should I believe this?
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reader, i no how u feel  +, writes (26 June 2006):
Hey i no it feels like he is the love of your life but your still really young and you will change alot as you grow up. i remember my boyfriend and i at 14 telling each other that we would be together forever and nothing would break us up. as you can guess we broke up a year later. when you get to 17 18 you'll find that getting out into the world and experiencing different things will make you want different things. i'm not saying it won't hapen i know people that are married now and got togther when they were 13, but it's a rarity. just enjoy the relationship and see what happens. don't make any major plans. i live with my partner (who i got with at 17) of 6 years and we have a 2 year old daughter. just get out there and have the time of your life and don't tie yourself down too young. you don't want to miss out on the best years of your life. goodluck
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reader, lucy +, writes (25 June 2006):
its totaly possible that you will stay together forever. however, it is unfortunately possible that you will not. People change and often grow apart. I dont think that anybody can ever be 100%ly sure that they will stay with someone forever. Just make the most of everything, be happy and try not to think too much about the future as you are young as you never know what will happen.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): hey Melissa. i KNOW it is is possible to stay together from 14 years of age because my mum and dad were 16 and 17 and have been married for 25 years so far! my auntie and uncle were togther from the age of 14 and are still together, they have been married for 20 years and have kids and everything! my cousin and her boyfriend have been together for years since the age of 16! i think it kind of runs in my family lol! So yeah, of course it could happen, so dont worry about it and see how things go.write back to me on this page if you want.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (25 June 2006):
 There is no way that after two months he can be saying he will never break up with you. People change over the years, especially during the teenage ones, so I would say that to say that at 14 after two months together is pretty unrealistic. It's not impossible...but the odds are heavily stacked against you.
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reader, Bev Conolly +, writes (25 June 2006):
 It's pretty unlikely, statistically speaking, but it's not impossible.
The huge majority of people grow and change so much between the ages of 13 and 20 that the 14-year-old You won't even recognise the woman that you'll be in another half your lifetime. What tends to happen is that you outgrow the person you thought was "perfect", in exactly the same way that you outgrow fashions, music and hobbies.
A very few people do find their partners at your age, but it would be maybe a few out of ten thousand couples that start together at 14 and stay together for life.
What I'm saying is, enjoy that it feels GREAT, but don't feel too bad if things change in future.
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reader, AsianGirl +, writes (25 June 2006):
 dear melissa-xxx,
i have the same experience with you when i was 17 and i thought that he's gonna be the man that i can spend the rest of my life with but it turned out to be the opposite, coz after a couple of years he broke all his promises when he got me pregnant., so if i where you., dont just believe easyly coz you might left hangin. just lay low and still love him but don't expect to much because your both young,. wait till your both mature enough to make serious decision.. take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): It's possible that you two may stay forever, but highly unlikely. Considering you two are still inside the 'comfort' of the public education structure, and that of your parents' protective zone. There are so much more to life outside of this zone that it's difficult, unless you two live in a secluded location away from civilization - eg: a town of 300 ppl or less...
Believing things like this are for the idealistic, but it's not realistic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): i think guys are totally un predictible but this guy seems pretty commited. i would assum hes telling the truth but keep your guard up. i wouldnt fully trust him until you guys have been dating for at least a couple years because then you'll know hes definetly commited. I would also not think too far ahead, focus on whats going on now, it will definetly help you feel more confident in the relationship
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reader, kae baby +, writes (25 June 2006):
hey girl
haha same exact thing right here. except we been dating a lil bit longer.
I dont really know what to say buts its crazy because the exact same thing is happening with me.
I mean like all that is exact! ha how wierd. age and everything!
just follow your dreams!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): Life is a rollercoaster! I really doubt this. You are so young. If I knew now what I knew then! WOW! You have a whole life of learning ahead of you! You learn so much about people and relationships over just a few years. There is no way I would even think about that at your age! I would focus on school and good marks!
Good Luck!
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