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writes: hiya!I have this crush and I just asked him out. He is thinking about it at the moment but do you think I have done the right thing to ask him out cos he is a year older than me? I am 13 and he is 14, is that wrong of me? Should I be going out with someone my own age?Well that's the first question but the second is if he says "no" he wont go out with me, how do I get over him?please help me and thank you to all the people that reply xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
There is an important lesson for you to learn sweetie.It's wise to let the guy ask you out.Guys love the HUNT...just be yourself & they will notice you.When they are ready to ask you out...they will...don't make it too easy for them or they will lose interest.There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a guy one or two years older than you, but you are still pretty young to start dating, so be careful, take your time and don't be a hurry to grow up too soon.Enjoy your girlfriends and your family.In a few short years, you will be out on your own, enjoying your own place, your own car & your own job !Take it slow.True love is worth the wait !
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (5 July 2005):
Awwwww how sweet, its perfectly fine going out with someone older if you really like them. If he does say no just say to yourself "his loss" and remember, no boy is ever worth your tears and the one who is will never make you cry. Then all you have to do is just think of all the hundereds of gorgeous boys that will be in your future and go out and enjoy your life! Well done you for having the courage to ask him out too im very impressed, I wouldnt have been that brave at your age! Hope this helps :o) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, kt  +, writes (5 July 2005):
 I think that you have done a good thing, it takes a lot of guts to ask someone out! with him being a year older he will probably be a bit more mature than other boys your age. if he dose say no it probably wont be because of your age.if he dose say no and you need to get over him, the best thing to do is to look for other boys with really good qualitys that way you will never look back!
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reader, sickofitkelly +, writes (5 July 2005):
I say good for you girl! A year is no big deal at all, trust me. I think that you absolutely did the right thing, and that it is normal for boys that age to want to think about it. Dont be surprised if he never comes back to you with an answer-boys are like that when they are so young. He might not want to hurt your feelings by saying no so he just hopes that you will either forget about it or get the clue without him having to tell you no.but if he says YES then thats great:) The way you get over him is this: You tell yourself that he is the one who has made the mistake of saying no, and then you get outta the house, you dont feel sorry for yourself, and you go have fun with all your friends! if its not meant to happen, it wont. before you know it, there will be another boy who you will have a crush on.
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reader, Cambelina +, writes (5 July 2005):
Guys at your age (and more often than not- at any age!) seem to want what they can't have... They love the 'chase', so having you ask this guy out will have done wonders for his ego if nothing else!! The fact that he has to "think over" whether he wants to be with you is probably a sign that you shouldn't be together. When you care about someone and you want to be with them, you just "know". The thinking through is minimal because it's about how u "feel".The age thing doesn't seem like much of an issue since he's only a year older, but at your age, it's important to have someone experiencing the same things as you at the same "time". The age gap doesn't get smaller until you're much older. If he says "no" honey, then you just need to accept that it just wasn't meant to be. You've got a long life ahead of you to meet guys and find the person you want to be with so try and keep an open mind and think of the vast future ahead of you and all the opportunities that are gonna come your way. In the mean time, focus on your relationships with your friends and keep them close to you. They're more important than you realise and can understand what you're going through in a way that noone else can.Good luck xxx
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reader, lucy +, writes (5 July 2005):
firstly no, he is not too old for you. It is only one years difference and at the ages 13 and 14, teenagers seem to have similar interests. Take it a step at a time, sweety but if he does say no then at least you know that you have tried. By filling your 'social diary' with things such as going to the cinema with friends, shopping, spending time with family (etc.) this would help to take your mind off of things and would help you to get over him. Also, by going out loads and maybe joining new clubs you would be open to meeting new boys and i am sure that by this time you would be totaly over the first guy! gud luck xxx
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (4 July 2005):
Hi sweetheart,There are any much of information to know if you have asked him out too or " too " soon, How long have both of you's seeing eachother for ? , for the type of question I can imagine that this may be your first or at least one of them that you have fallen in love, but i'm not too sure to call it love yet, you see angel, at first you said that you have a crush with this guy, a crush can be determined by many meanings and very few of them are true love, what I;m trying to say is remember that rejection is always there, BUT they are not there to make us weak, instead it makes us stronger, at your age I would rather enjoy life with friends and have fun looking at boys, you have shared your feeling with this person, and NO! Age gap of one year is nothing, I have a girlfriend that just turned 17 and I'm 21 in december 2005, so don't worry about the age.Give him and your self the time enough to find out the answers to your questions, time will do it. You can now relax sweety, you have tell him how you feel, as a guy my self, when a girl asked me out at the age of 14, I went crazy! :) , but I kept silence, I was scared in toher words, so try to think about it that way, the boy may be shy as well, and he didn't answer you feelings for him and they feel tha same way for you and you are already thinking of how you can get over him ??? , Forget about that angel, or at least for now, when the moment comes, that is if it comes as he well love you forever :-) , you will know what to do.Smile ***Wish you all the very best,Matt,20.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2005): I think that you did the right thing...a year isnt a big deal...if he says no then dont stress .... there are plenty of other guys out there dying to go out with you!!
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reader, becky05 +, writes (4 July 2005):
dont worry about the age gap-a year is nothing. well done you for making the first step in asking him out! If he says no, try not to dwell on it, keep going out with friends and remember youll meet plenty other boys in the future
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