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writes: I am 15 and I go out with boys, but I admit I get frightened when I am kissing my boyfriend and he tries to feel my breasts so I stop him. I have lost two boys because of this. Should I let him do this and if I do, will he want more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): of course he would want more silly he would be very attracted to them but dont let him if you dont want to dont. do what you feel comfie with im sure if he loves you that much he will understand and let you take your time
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reader, Listerning Angel +, writes (10 February 2006):
You let them do it when it feels right to you and not before, if thats all it takes for them to dump you then they are pretty stupid. A true guy won't mind and will understand and will never pressure you into doing anything that you don't feel comfortable with. He will come along one day you are still young so don't worrie. And when the right guy comes along youll be glad that those other losers did dump you for stupid reason. Cause he will make everything so worth while
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reader, chrissymarie +, writes (10 February 2006):
 i am a 16 yr old female.....any ways about your question if you dont feel right when a guy touches you and they break up with you for that, dont worry about it you are still young guys come and go.....they need to respect your wishes and if they cant deal with the fact you dont want to be touched let them leave you.....
never let a guy walk all over you and make you do stuff you dont want to do. you will find a guy out there that will respect you and not break up with you over something like that......
to tell you the truth if a guy breaks up with you cause he cant touch you in areas you dont want to be touched that just proves one thing hes not with you because he loves you hes with you trying to get in you pants.....so dont let a guy make you change your mind stay a virgin as long as you can and when the right guy comes along you will no it and feel much better about him doin things with you....... well good luck and follow ur wishes not his!
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reader, Calidus +, writes (6 February 2006):
Im an 18 yr old guy, look, if you dont feel comfortable with then feeling your breasts, say no, and stick by that, if the guy genuenly likes you, and doesnt just want sex from you, then he'll understand that, that isn't what you want.
If a person dumps you over it, there not the type of guy you really want to be around.
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reader, lucy +, writes (5 February 2006):
heya sweety . firstly i dont agree with the 14 year old boy (below.) if you do not feel comfterable with this then do not accept it.
At the end of the day a decent guy will respect you more for speaking your mind rather than not saying anything just so that you dont 'loose' him.
There are however some real stupid guys out there who are only after one thing so if they dump you because you dont want to do this then you know that they were bad news anyways and you are better off without them.
Trust me you will find a guy who loves you for you so he will wait until you feel ready to do anything. i hope this helps xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): listen i am 14 and a boy if you want a boy let him feel your breasts, just a little bit, tell him dont go overboard. trust me he just wants to feel your breasts, he'l be satified even ifs its just a little bit
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 If you are uncomfortable with something, say no!
This is a good rule of thumb for anything in life.
If these boys have dumped you for saying no to feeling your breasts, then good riddance to them!
Never, and I mean... never... let anybody do anything to you that you are uncomfortable with,and dont just give in on account of not wanting to be without a boyfriend.
And yes, if you do give in, he will be wanting sex from you next.So if you are going to start something, be sure you are willing to follow it through...
But I must state, I do not condone this at all.You are only 15... remember that the choices you make today, are the ones that shape your future.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Yes he will want more! It's all they think about at your age...oh well at my age too...at any age actually if they are still breathing. Get used to it. You have not lost them...they simply realised you were not a quick feel and they moved on to someone who has less self esteem for themselves than you do. (that says you never had them..they were playing you)It hurts like crazy. It makes you feel like YOU are the one who is wrong. But, baby girl, you are not wrong. One day the perfect little boy is going to come along and you will be best friends first. When He kisses you and you ask him to stop...he will. He won't push you and he won't break up with you...because he wants more from you than just stepping you along to get in your pants.When you find that...and he touches you...it will be ok because you already trust him. And every step you take will be together...NOT because he's pouting, threatening to break up if you don't, or wanting something to brag about to his friends! You may think you are crazy as one by one your girlfriends start to brag about what they have been up to..and treat you like a little girl who does not get it. But, don't give in and don't forget who you are and what you want. You can't go back and UNDO this....but if it is the RIGHT boy...there will be plenty of time to change your mind. listen to that song..."Check up on it" "you have to be patient...I like my men patient!"Your body...YOUR RULES...if they can't take it...then they will have to find someone they can call Slut...it won't be you!
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