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writes:hey! im 14 years old and a freshmen but i think im pretty mature fir my age. not to sound conceited but theres a couple guys who would like a chance with me but i come from a strict, church going family. im falling for this very hot senior but has an 8 month relationship. he doesnt love her anymore we all know that. but he likes to party and smoke sometimes. Maybe he can change? He told me he likes me! what do i do ? i really want to go for it.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): hey,im fourteen too. if you really like this guy than give it a chance. but right as you might see it going somewher you dont like then you might want to break up. if you are going to do anythuing that involve after effects such as sexual relations than use protection. only if you ready.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
To be honest, I'd stay away from this guy. He might be a really nice guy and everything, but at such a young age, it's so easy to be swept up into bed scenes. And also, when you get older... if you're really into going to church and have a lot of faith, you might really regret getting tangled up with this older guy. He might be expecting a lot more out of you than you're ready to give.
When I was fourteen, I started hanging out with some people who liked to party and smoke. All though they were nice people and a lot of fun, they got me partying and smoking too. After time, I really ended up regreting ever hanging out with them. So, as nice as your guy might be, I wouldn't want you to be sorry you dated him.
Also, guys with girlfriends? NEVER a good plan. Don't even think about the guy until he's ENDED a relationship for you. Make sure he knows that you're worth the full commitment.
You sound super sweet... make good choices, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): ok first of all i can tell ur a realy nice girl thats really into this guy. and its normal that r feeling unsure if weather or not u should try anything with him but the only problem seems to be the fact that he has a girl friend. if he really doesnt love her then its any day now that they will end up breaking up buh until then keep ur mind on wats important to you and wat makes u happy and wen the time comes for him to step up and break up with his girl and be with u he will become one of this ppl that are important to you and make u happy. keep a friendship with him, im not saying flirt alot buh dont let him forget that u miit be interested so wen things end with him and his girl friend he knows he can find a wonderful girl that is worth waiting for and will have fun with him and make him happy. u just do you and keep in mind u always have ur friends if anything... like meee ((cuz guess wat... im ur p-sister)) lol oh buddy didnt c that one coming did u!!!!! i love u for real!! u dont need any1 telling u wat to do u just fallow ur heart y no olvides que if anything me and soooo many other that luv u r here for u!! we can even hit up burger king and ill treat u to a hershey pie :] ily
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reader, lucy +, writes (21 February 2007):
if he has a girlfriend then leave it hunny. if he really doesnt love her he will finish with her, then you can start thinking about it but for now i wouldnt raise your hopes until he is single. i wouldnt let the smoking and partying put you off, if he is a nice person then thats all that matters. however, if he is going to tell you he likes you whilst he has a girlfriend you have to think-if you were his girlfriend wouldnt he do the same to you? xx
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reader, Carina  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 You have to think about this a bit. First I wouldn't get involved with anyone who's still seeing someone else. It can only lead to you getting hurt. If he splits with the other girl and still likes you then maybe. However, would he change? Well, it depends so much on the guy. Some people get involved in partying and smoking because it helps them fit in with their friends and not because they want to. I've known young guys change completely when they've found a girlfriend they love, but most don't. If you have real problems with smoking and partying then I would stay away from him to be honest. The chances are you wouldn't have a lot in common with him and the relationship wouldn't work. You will end up unhappy. If you really feel you have to go for it then I would suggest that, once he's broken up with his present girlfriend, you try to get to know him better and keep it as a light friendship until you have an idea of whether or not you will suit each other and whether he would get on with your family. Hope that helps.
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