Worried about saying racial slurs accidentally
Q. I am a student and when I'm away from home, there aren't many people of african origin. When I came back to the city it became a sudden culture shock to be back, and now I have a job working and I've suddenly got this paranoia that I'm going to say ...
A. 22 June 2011: If you were racist, you wouldn't worry so much about this, and I am sure that people won't perceive you as a racist person.
As you seem to notice, if we focus on things we want to avoid thinking of, we actually think about them MORE. this is psyc... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake having sex with him?
Q. This sound stupid but you all have to help me out. My lecturer has being asking me out for one week. But later i decided to go,but only for him to tell me that he loves me and that i'll benefit lot of things if i accept. That particular day he had ...
A. 21 June 2011: If you ask me, it was more kind of his mistake, him abusing his power over you.
You shouldn't feel guilty or like a whore, but see this as an important lesson in your life and take better care of yourself in the future.
This man's no good for you,... (read in full...)
I want to keep the baby but he wants an abortion!
Q. Hello readers... I've recently found out that I am pregnant. I'm thrilled but really hurt at the same time. The father on the other hand is upset and want me to have an abortion. BIG PROBLEM, because I don't want to. I just don't understand how he ...
A. 21 June 2011: Congratulations to your decision! Keep us updated and well, forget about this complete idiot.
I'm really happy to hear you're supported, and I wish you all the best. You're a brave woman.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of having no bust. Can implants save this situation?
Q. I really hate my small breasts! I don't know if I should get implants, because men hate implants (supposedly) and because they're risky. But I really can't stand my small breasts anymore. I've been with few guys, but all of them, including my ...
A. 19 June 2011: The way you describe it, there's nothing wrong with your breasts but a lot with your relationship.
My rule is: I don't criticise imperfect body parts in my partner and I don't expect to be criticised either.
A man who really loves you will c... (read in full...)
I want to keep the baby but he wants an abortion!
Q. Hello readers... I've recently found out that I am pregnant. I'm thrilled but really hurt at the same time. The father on the other hand is upset and want me to have an abortion. BIG PROBLEM, because I don't want to. I just don't understand how he ...
A. 19 June 2011: A very difficult situation.
I've got no experience on pregnancy/abortion, but I'd recommend you listen to your heart and also take a good look at your life situation.
Would you want to raise a child on your own, if the father's not cooperating?... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend feel comfortable with me wantimg a threesome knowing I'm bisexual?
Q. i have a boyfriend who i love and he loves me to and i wouldnt try to change him in anyway..! i like guys and girls and i have dealt with females my whole life but slowed down at 19... (im 23) but a few months ago i told my bf i like girls and h...
A. 17 June 2011: To me this sounds like secretely, you want to push your boyfriend into accepting a threesome. You say you don't want to change him.. but is this really true? Accepting your bisexuality and accepting a threesome are two different pairs of shoes. ... (read in full...)
I don't love him the way I did before because of his cross dressing, and now I don't feel like being faithful anymore! What should I do?
Q. My Husband of 25 years decided to go on a business trip 6 years ago and decided to dress up as a woman and had friends that did the same. He said he did not cheat on me and after that I changed my looks and lost weight I felt I was not woman ...
A. 17 June 2011: I'm not really sure if I understand you, but I have different ideas, I hope this helps.. a) his dressing up sort of made you feel anxious because you were afraid something had come in between the both of you that you didn't know before and that ... (read in full...)
G/f can't cum during sex
Q. I can't make my fiance come during the intercourse. We do it in missionary mostly and I try to touch her clit during action but she says that it does not work during intercourse. Therefore she takes away my hand whenever I touch her there during ...
A. 17 June 2011: Dear OP,
When I reread this post I had another thought.
Have you asked your fiance if it's important for her to orgasm during sex? And if yes, have you asked her what she thinks you can do to make her orgasm?
I mean, having us guess what... (read in full...)
G/f can't cum during sex
Q. I can't make my fiance come during the intercourse. We do it in missionary mostly and I try to touch her clit during action but she says that it does not work during intercourse. Therefore she takes away my hand whenever I touch her there during ...
A. 5 June 2011: Most of the time, I can't come during sex either. There was just one man that could make me come during sex. He did something that was maybe a little bit like this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_technique
Try.
... (read in full...)
I'm having sexual difficulties and would appreciate some help.
Q. Hi there, Actually I have got two questions for you... I'm 20, and I have been in a lesbian long distance relationship for more than two years now. My girl and I see one another 3 or 4 times a year and that for 5 days every visit. There ...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there,
I lived in a relationship with a woman for quite a long time. And I ask myself - why do you want to reach orgasm faster?
My ex was quite "slow" but I loved to go down on her for a really long time, to stimulate, massage, everything..... (read in full...)
Iv been stuck in a rut all my life with disgusting boyfriends. How do I get out of this and what do I do?
Q. I apologize in advance for how ridiculously long this is. It's an all around vent/question thing and I'd really like some sound advice from anyone who has either gone through this and knows how to get out or would just like to help. Thanks... My f...
A. 22 May 2011: I suppose nothing's wrong with you. Maybe you just had bad luck with love so far. I really think that's possible in your case. When you were younger you had your heart broken in various ways and now you're a bit more cautious, which is c... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm going to be left on the shelf!
Q. It seems like if you arent young (18-29) then there is no point to living. Everything is geared to being youthful, creams, adverts etc. Men all want younger women, from 20 year old men to 60 year old men, they all want women in their late teens to ...
A. 21 May 2011: Don't let this bring you down! It's all about young people because they're the ones who spend most money on things. Media might create this impression. But life isn't over just because you're older. I know people in their 30's and 40's an... (read in full...)
I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?
Q. Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...
A. 14 May 2011: I think you already know in your heart that this guy isn't good for you, doesn't deserve you, and that it's time for you to leave. This is not a minor sexual problem, it's about fairness and devotion and he obviously doesn't love you as much or care ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a guy who doesn't want a relationship!
Q. Hey guys............ Ok, so the obvious has happened, I've fallen for a guy who Doesn't want a relationship. His 4 years younger then me, been single for 5 years and sleeps with lots of women...his honest and upfront about it. (which I appreciate) ...
A. 14 May 2011: Listen to CaringGuy and jmc930!
He's obviously a player sort-of who doesn't want to attach himself but still acts in a nice, affectionate way sometimes. That doesn't mean he' s in love, but maybe he sometimes likes to imagine he was, or just doe... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: Thanks Miamine, you told us what this discussion is about in a nutshell.
I think pornography is not the cause for instable and unsatisfied relationships. I think that in our society, we're kind of forced to always look out for something new and ... (read in full...)
I'm SO confused about my sexuality it's killing me. Is this normal? What on earth do I do?
Q. I'm 21 and I have come to accept that I am gay. I've had a long term girlfriend before and was sexually attracted to her. But now I'm single I barely see girls as sex objects anymore. I am only attracted to guys. Now, I can't see myself having sex ...
A. 12 May 2011: It sounds as if you're a bit like me. You're bisexual. And you're scared of love.
But that's all of the mistery and confusion there is.
You had a concept worked out of what you are (gay), you were prepared to deal with it somehow, and now you ... (read in full...)
How do you know the difference between being in love and having a crush?
Q. How do you know the difference between being in love and having a crush? I have feelings for my best friend but I don't know if it's love or just a very persistent crush, because I've felt attracted to him since last March. The intensity fluctuates ...
A. 12 May 2011: Well, my definition is: A crush is an illusion created by too many hormones and a lot of imagination and it fades away as soon as you see who this person really is. Basically, there'll be a moment of disappointment and you realise ups no, that's not ... (read in full...)
What can I do to address these demons from my past relationships?
Q. I really need help. All my adult life I've had disatrous relationships. I was always too trusting and have been cheated on, lied to, used, even raped, the lot. 8 months ago I met a woman and begun a lesbian relationship. We hit it off straight ...
A. 12 May 2011: I agree with Cerberus.
And I think there's one more important thing.
In your past relationships, you trusted too much, did too much for other people. And now you're angry and chaotic. But at the heart lies probably some belief that only other p... (read in full...)
I am crushed. I read what she wrote about my size and don't how I am going to work this, or our new LDR, out with her.
Q. I need help with a difficult situation. I met a girl about three months ago through a work friend and we hit it off. We have been dating since then and I feel as if the relationship is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. ...
A. 9 May 2011: :( That's mean. If I was you, I'd also confront her, as many have said before. And, I agree with another agony aunt, some women DO discuss everything with their best friend/sister. Even penis size. In "sex and the city", those 4 women discuss th... (read in full...)
Obsessed with a girl for 4 years! How do I get over her??
Q. Hi, i'm Sean. I'll try to make this as interesting and as short as possible, sorry if it is otherwise. About 4 years ago, i met this girl on the internet, and since that day we could not stop talking to each other. We talked to each other e...
A. 8 May 2011: Dear Sean, To be honest, I don't think you should be waiting for her. But hey, why not ask her if it would make any sense to wait for her, and if there was any chance for you both. Listen to her answer and then decide. Maybe you need to talk... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife get over some bodily fluid aversions?
Q. I know this is a common problem for men and a lot of the advice / replies posted to this are, well, less than helpful - so let me start by saying something REALLY important: I love my wife. We’ve been together for over 12 years, have a fantastic ...
A. 7 May 2011: Difficult topic. In my experience, discussing and over analyzing and trying to overcome such a thing doesn't work and just gets people focused on that one little thing that goes wrong. To tell you something personal, which I find interesting... (read in full...)
Is it good sex that leads to these feelings I have?
Q. Hi dear agony aunts, I am bisexual and got single one year ago. I decided not to get serious again until I know myself and have had some fun and experience. I started this affair with this guy. And we both agreed that we never want to make this ...
A. 4 May 2011: Dear PM,
Thanks for your answer, I don't have any doubt you're right about what you say.
It's very unlikely he'll change his mind about me being an affair.
It's just, I can't help it. And I don't know what to do. But I'll hang on and hope thin... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to lose your virginity to a Prostitute?
Q. I'm a 28 year old male virgin, who has never had a girlfriend. I have asked dozens of women out in my life though I was always rejected. There were plenty of women that I liked but did not approach them because I knew they had boyfriends already. I ...
A. 3 May 2011: Your point a) is completely wrong. It's not about experience/ being a virgin that makes women judge you for doing so. Most women are just disgusted by men who pay for sex. Because they associate it with exploitation of women and very low moral s... (read in full...)
I am in love with my psychiatrist. Please advise.
Q. Hi I am in love with my psychiatrist and I dont know what to do. I am tired of waiting but he smiled so much at me last time and looked so flirty. When I tell him i want to leave country he tells me to stay etc. On the other side I want to give u...
A. 3 May 2011: It's very common to have a crush on a psychiatrist. In fact, Freud said it will happen in a therapy (at least in psychoanalysis), because the patient is projecting a lot of good things on to the psychiatrist. Which is no wonder, since a psychiatrist ... (read in full...)
Is it good sex that leads to these feelings I have?
Q. Hi dear agony aunts, I am bisexual and got single one year ago. I decided not to get serious again until I know myself and have had some fun and experience. I started this affair with this guy. And we both agreed that we never want to make this ...
A. 3 May 2011: Dear PM, I guess you are right about it being the chemicals - but doesn't it mean something if somebody causes me to release so much of them? I know I sound illogical, but I mean.. I don't know.. I just can't help it, even though I'm trying ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 1 May 2011: Dear OP,
Please understand that I feel for you, and my rather angry post is nothing personal, but I need to get this off my chest. It's rather my opinion about the subject in general than about your specific case.
I'd be devastated if a ... (read in full...)
Was he serious about his penis size?
Q. To make this short a guy I liked and was fooling around with (making out and a bit of touching) joked about his penis being small. His exact words were "You know my dick is this big right?" and with his thumb and pointer finger made about a three ...
A. 1 May 2011: I'd guess he wasn't joking. Or why would he then break into hysterical laughter? If it had been a joke he probably would have smirked and waited for your reaction. As you already seem to know, bigger isn't always better, so you don't seem t... (read in full...)
Are there too many red flags that I am blind to?
Q. is my husband gay if he watches shamale porn, and yeah i know the question has been asked a biillion times but my case is a little different. first of all i am bi, so i can understand if he was to, but i didnt find out about the porn until a few ...
A. 1 May 2011: Thanks for making things more clear. I suggest you should just let him watch his porn, if your relationship is otherwise stable and it's not an addiction or replaces sex with you. I agree that a marriage should be open and honest, but I also t... (read in full...)
Are there too many red flags that I am blind to?
Q. is my husband gay if he watches shamale porn, and yeah i know the question has been asked a biillion times but my case is a little different. first of all i am bi, so i can understand if he was to, but i didnt find out about the porn until a few ...
A. 1 May 2011: Do you feel like he loves you? Does he treat you in a loving way? How is your marriage going? That would be my most important questions. It's hard to tell a sexual orientation just from porn.
He seems to have watched this kind of porn before, ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to relax my brain, do you have a suggestion please??
Q. I have a lots of anxiety, and my brain never can rest. . they recomandeded meditation to me many times. I was hoping ,it will help.. I really dont why , but meditation never worked for me. It is not effective to me, no matter what I try. I li...
A. 1 May 2011: If meditation doesn't work for you, maybe you've already found some strategies of your own that you aren't using to their full potential yet? Meditation is about getting calm, and being conscious of the present moment. Not everyone has to ... (read in full...)
Deviant sexual behavior?
Q. So I've never had a girlfriend or have much experience in dating or sex. Anyway, I've started dating this girl for a few weeks now. Whenever I think about her, think about talking to her, when I call her, talk to her or sometimes just b...
A. 30 April 2011: I don't think you need to worry - you're not deviant! You're just a normal guy who's turned on by a cute girl and is really really excited about her. I suppose you've got a crush on her and you're nervous around her and that's enough to get yo... (read in full...)
I think I am gay but I don't want to be! What can I do?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 years old. As question title says, I think I am gay. What can do I about this, if I don't want to be gay? I want to be straight, have a wife, family, kids. What makes me think that I am gay, is the fact, that I do not want sex with any...
A. 27 April 2011: Well, it's hard to tell if you're gay by just reading your post. Anyway, I wanted to tell you some of my thoughts. - Just because you feel the urge to have sex with a man doesn't mean you're gay. Maybe you're bisexual. But anyway, to deny a pa... (read in full...)
I'm bi, but I am still nervous about dating girls! What can I do?
Q. I'm attracted to guys and girls. I consider myself bisexual. I wanna be with both I have no problem with having sexual relations with a guy because I know my penis can become erected. But is different with a girl because I'm scared to get a...
A. 25 April 2011: Take it easy- Don't worry so much, please!! You confuse yourself. Just relax!!! It sounds like until now, you're just fine - you've already figured out you're bisexual, and you've got a functioning penis. You don't seem to have a lot of sexual ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and a virgin. how do I answer their intrusive questions on lesbian sex.
Q. For a long time now I've known I am a lesbian and I came out about it a couple of years ago. Ever since coming out I've had some of my friends asking me what I've done with a girl, but I haven't done anything with anyone. And that doesn't bother me, ...
A. 24 April 2011: Hi dear, I think it's very brave of you to come out as a lesbian at such a young age. Most lesbian girls won't have your courage at that time. However, maybe most of your peers aren't ready to treat you in a decent way and simply haven't go... (read in full...)
I feel horrible about masturbation. Is it wrong to do every day?
Q. So i'm 18 years old and i masturbate often. It ranges from 2 times a day every day to 3. I can't help but feel that i'm destroying my life every time i masturbate. I've been trying to reduce the amount of time i masturbate and to no avail, nothing. ...
A. 17 April 2011: Hi there.
There's nothing wrong with you masturbating everyday, multiple times.
Maybe one problem is that you don't have too many exciting things in your life, so masturbation is the biggest excitement that happens.
What I'd suggest is that ... (read in full...)
My friend drinks about 10 shots of vodka every night...is this an addiction?
Q. My female friend drinks about 10 shots of vodka every night..sometimes more. She does this in about a three hour span when she gets home from work. After that she appears to be very drunk. She slurrs words, hallucinates and becomes a little verbally ...
A. 17 April 2011: Yes, this is an alcohol addiction and you aren't overreacting.
The problem is that people with addictions, especially with alcohol, tend to find a bzillion excuses and reasons for their behaviour and react with anger and denial towards those who ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my GF that I don't want the orgy that she's looking forward to?
Q. my girlfriend really wants an orgy with 2 of her friends and their bf's + 2 other of my friends. everyone wants to do it, and we know that everyone will have a go of each other. but, i really dont want to do it. im not ashamed of my manhood,...
A. 17 April 2011: An orgy with so many of your friends? Sounds like a really stupid idea to me!!!!! Who came up with this bullshit? I'm not a conservative person at all. Really. I've tried things out. But there is so much potential for people getting hurt. Ha... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to want real cock
Q. I started out with my gf sticking her finger in my ass well she had a dildo and she said if I could take her dildo all the way in my ass I could fuck her in her ass(she said this jokingly) so I brought her the dildo and told her to do it. I took it ...
A. 17 April 2011: I can't tell you if you should go for real cock. But IF you plan on doing so, you should be honest to your girlfriend about your wishes. Don't be weirded out by yourself. Apparently you are very open for new experiences which is good. It's very... (read in full...)
Must a guy make the first move?
Q. I have known a girl for sometime now. she likes me but pretends she don't. I want to be sure she likes me before making a move. Must a guy make the first move?...
A. 16 April 2011: I don't think a guy always has to make the first move. But in general, girls are too shy. So don't wait for her to make the first move. It probably won't happen and you might miss something beautiful. When it comes to love (or attraction..),... (read in full...)
Traditional Premature Ejaculation Cures show no results - should I seek medication?
Q. My girlfriend says she doesn't mind my premature ejaculation problem, but she almost always stays wanting more, or gets frustrated or unaroused whenever I start-stop, or climax early. I do pleasure her with oral, fingering and other body conta...
A. 14 April 2011: Dear male,
another article about this. I heard the squeeze thing works.
http://www.menshealth.com/health/6-steps-beat-pe... (read in full...)
Traditional Premature Ejaculation Cures show no results - should I seek medication?
Q. My girlfriend says she doesn't mind my premature ejaculation problem, but she almost always stays wanting more, or gets frustrated or unaroused whenever I start-stop, or climax early. I do pleasure her with oral, fingering and other body conta...
A. 14 April 2011: Dear male,
I heard of a scientifically proven method of how you can actually train not to ejaculate prematurely, not Kegel exercises, unfortunately I haven't found a good link so far. It's quite easy, if I remember it correctly.
Hang on. I'll... (read in full...)
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