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writes:I have known a girl for sometime now. she likes me but pretends she don't. I want to be sure she likes me before making a move. Must a guy make the first move? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 The guys doesn't always have to make the first move, but someone needs to. And if she doesn't, and you don't, then nothing will ever happen.
Take a shot at it and be brave!
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Yes, yes, YES!!! Its easier for a guy to get let down than a girl. She'll probably won't get over it.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (16 April 2011):
I don't think a guy always has to make the first move.But in general, girls are too shy. So don't wait for her to make the first move. It probably won't happen and you might miss something beautiful.When it comes to love (or attraction..), you have to risk things. You can't deal with love if you can't deal with the risk of getting hurt or rejected. But believe me: it's still better to get rejected than to miss the chance of getting to know someone and having a good time. So please, talk to that girl, ask her out for coffee or whatever, tell us how it went!Good luck:)
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (16 April 2011):
No. The first move can be made by the guy or the girl. It really doesn't matter, there is no rule about that.The first move should be done by the one who is interested. In your case you will have to. As she won't do it if she is pretending she doesn't like you.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 In short, yes, you have to make the first move. Unless you're devastatingly handsome or fabulously wealthy. Making the first move takes confidence, anyway, and confidence is sexier than money or looks.
Why do you have to be sure she likes you? Either she does, or she doesn't. Hesitation will never, ever help you. It might decrease her attraction to you (hesitation is unattractive), but it sure won't increase it.
Make a move at the first available opportunity. Chat her up for two or three minutes, get her to laugh once or twice, then tell her that the two of you should go somewhere. If she says no, shrug it off. Maybe she has single friends.
You have to be willing to get rejected if you are ever going to succeed. That "perfect moment" does not exist.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 April 2011):
Not always, but it's often a good idea to make the first move if you like someone. If you like this girl, go ask her out and see what happens.
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