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writes: For a long time now I've known I am a lesbian and I came out about it a couple of years ago. Ever since coming out I've had some of my friends asking me what I've done with a girl, but I haven't done anything with anyone. And that doesn't bother me, it's my choice not to do anything with anyone. They keep asking me why I haven't done anything with anyone and I think it's because of trust issues, I don't trust anyone enough to do anything with anyone and I'm a bit shy. I don't know what I'm supposed to look like (if you get what I mean) and I don't want whoever I do something with to tell everyone about it. But as well as having my personal issues such as trust and my shyness, I have everyone asking me what I would and wouldn't do with someone. Half of the time I don't even know what they're talking about but if I do understand the question and I chose to answer it everyone turns round and says it's disgusting. I don't understand what they want me to say and do. They continuously ask questions yet they're repulsed by my answers. What should I do? Any tips or ideas about what I should look like would be appreciated and any ideas about how to answer their questions. Some of the questions I refuse to answer about sex, while I answer others honestly. But my answer always appears to be wrong. I don't get it, please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help, I'm glad you said looks don't matter, it's made me feel a lot better about myself. :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2011):
 Ok well first of every girls body is different. There is no set way to look and there is nothing abnormal. Everyone is different thats what makes us unique.
As for people asking these questions well they are being immature and nosey. It is none of there business what you have done or what you would do with a girl. In fact good for you that you have chosen to wait before getting sexual with anyone its the mature thing to do. Any more in future if they ask you any questions just tell them that it is your personal life and you would rather not share it with anyone. As you get older people will mature and not ask you as much silly questions about your sexuality.Goodluck.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (24 April 2011):
Hi dear,I think it's very brave of you to come out as a lesbian at such a young age. Most lesbian girls won't have your courage at that time.However, maybe most of your peers aren't ready to treat you in a decent way and simply haven't got your maturity yet. So don't bother discussing your sexual issues with them. It's not worth it. If you want to talk about your sexuality,which I consider as important, it's best to look for a gay/lesbian youth group or internet forum, or to confess yourself to your close friends. Don't worry about looks too much. I lived as a lesbian for a long time and nowadays I feel that you can look as you like. There's no specific style. And I like diversity. However, you're going to be recognised as a lesbian faster if you dress a bit like Shane in the L Word. if that's your goal, then look her up on the net.Don't hesitate to write me a pm if you need more advice, I'll be glad to try to help.
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