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writes: Hi, i'm Sean.I'll try to make this as interesting and as short as possible, sorry if it is otherwise.About 4 years ago, i met this girl on the internet, and since that day we could not stop talking to each other. We talked to each other every night for about 1 year we were both madly in love, I was 12 and she was a few months older when we met,As silly as that sounds, and as young as i was, i was DEFINITELY in love. i knew how i felt, she used to call me when it was my bedtime, and we used to talk on the mobile for hours after that. I couldnt stop thinking about this girl throughout the day.About 1 year after we met, i lost contact to her through the internet because a problem with the computer at home. 1 year later, after not speaking to her for 1 year (dont ask why it took 1 year for me to get back on the computer, also my phone was taken off me that 1 year as well) i talk to her finally, she's speechless, and she has a boyfriend who she was with for 6 months.. i left it at that, because i felt like i got stabbed in my heart, and didnt speak to her for 2 years till the present dayin those two years i stalked her facebook profile. everyday, ive seen her every move and her every picture 1million times. (dont judge me)i got the balls to say hello to her a few weeks ago, and i asked her how she was and stuff... and then i brought up the flick that we had and that talk made me feel much better, because she told me that obviously, she understood that i couldnt get on the computer and 1 year is along time, and that you meet people along the way.. and she met her boyfriend, she said i mean so much to her and she can never forget what we had.. but she just went offline after that and i left it at that again..i still cannot stop thinking about her, a girl who i met on the internet and have been in love with for 4 years sometimes even the thought of this girl motivates me to do thingsi feel if i meet someone else, i would be cheating.. and that i feel like im waiting for her. i want to know why i feel so strongly for this girl and how do i get over her, she has got over me..i thought about it while writing this... i dont actually know if i want to get over her. i love this girl so much i would die for her. im not joking.. thanks for your time guys. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBoth of you, thank you so much for your advice, it's even the thought that there's people giving me advice warms my heart, i feel much better. x
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (8 May 2011):
Dear Sean,To be honest, I don't think you should be waiting for her. But hey, why not ask her if it would make any sense to wait for her, and if there was any chance for you both. Listen to her answer and then decide.Maybe you need to talk to her one more time, to hear it from her, in her own words, that you can't bring back what you had, and that it's over. And if she says it's over, be really tough to yourself and "withdraw" from this behaviour and fantasy of you and her together. It is going to be very hard, and you will have to force yourself to stay out of facebook/internet a lot. The best thing you can do is distract yourself and be with friends now. Go out even if you don't look forward to. Set yourself some goals, in school or sports or arts, something else that gives your life a structure and purpose.I know how I was when I was first in love. I would have died for her. I used to walk past her house (which was half an hour from my place) just to look at this place, and cry, because I wanted to be in there so badly. I used to wait for her everyday after school and make it look like we bumped into each other by accident. Yes, if there had been facebook at that time, I'd have done the same thing as well. It's not stalking, I mean, you don't harass the other one, you just torture yourself, basically. First love is incredible. It's the most pure love, and it's beautiful. But it's meant to break some day. Since you're very young and need to go on and get to know other things as well. But you never stop feeling certain things for your first love. That's normal, but it doesn't mean you can't open your heart for someone else anymore.
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reader, darkwind94  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 You remind me of my self before... :|I used to feel the same way about this girl that I met in school, and I was pretty much crazy about her, and trying to do anything to see or talk to her. I was really emotional at the time; I feel your pain. Anyways, you may not be able to get over her unless you meet another girl. If you are having a lot of sadness due to your attraction to her, than you should consider moving on since she has a boyfriend. At least she was happy at what you had before, right? That means that she still wants to be your friend. If she someday leaves her boyfriend, that may be your opportunity, but then again, that may never happen. And have you heard of the main 5 poisons that will hurt you in life? Well..there are 420 in total, but the main ones are Anger, Lust, Greed, Attachment, and Pride. Try therapy (isn't as bad as it sounds), try doing stuff to keep your mind occupied. You don't have to get completely over her, you can just not be obsessed. It's hard to let go of anything, but there are other girls. Try finding another girl, and maybe it will help more. And try not to do anything rash. Good Luck!! And I hope you can try to look forward, not dwelling on one person all your life. Reply if you need more help, or even give it some time for other people to answer.
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