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writes: my girlfriend really wants an orgy with 2 of her friends and their bf's + 2 other of my friends. everyone wants to do it, and we know that everyone will have a go of each other. but, i really dont want to do it. im not ashamed of my manhood, but i love my gf. i dont want to have sex with anyone else and i certainly dont want anyone to have sex with her. as i said, it is looking likely, so what do i do. how do i tell my gf i dont want to do this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Stormy0812  +, writes (27 July 2012):
Sounds like we have the same friends. My friend wants an orgy with me and my boyfriend and another couple who we are friends with. My boyfriend seems okay with it but he can be the jealous type but unfortunately I'm not okay with it. We broke up last summer because I told him to do what he wants but its not going to be while hes with me. Tell her how you feel and if she complains let her go. She may come around after she realizes what she lost over an adventurous fling.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (17 April 2011):
lovebird and Quantum are right. YOU JUST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. If she gets pissed off and says she's still doing it then she needs to be single when she does. If you're not comfortable with this then don't do it. If she loves enough she needs to respect your feelings and the relationship. If she does it anyways then honestly that shows you her TRUE character and it "ain't" good.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (17 April 2011):
An orgy with so many of your friends? Sounds like a really stupid idea to me!!!!! Who came up with this bullshit? I'm not a conservative person at all. Really. I've tried things out. But there is so much potential for people getting hurt.Having an orgy with strangers is somewhat different - if the experience sucks, you don't have to see each other again. But sex with friends??? Seeing each other naked, hearing each other moan, watching each other changing partners? That's uhm.. predestined to be weird.I mean, if anyone gets hurt, you'll lose friends AND you'll have to deal with bad experiences. If you don't feel comfortable, please please please don't let her talk you into this. I don't say it because I'm a prude or judging her morally, but this could hurt you. If your idea of a relationship is monogamy and you can't bear the thought or vision of her having sex with someone else, then you have to be true to yourself.Please tell your gf how you feel. If she loves you she'll understand and respect you. If she doesn't it's better to find out like this, at least you won't have to go through this orgy thing.There is no easy way to talk about a difficult thing like this. Just tell her the same thing you just told us.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 "Honey I love you, you can do as you please, but if you do this I will have to leave the RS because I don't approve and will have no choice"This is not manipulation, it is your limitation on your boundaries. If she does go for the orgy though you will have to enforce your decision or look like a chump in her eyes.
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Well to be honest, I think this is a horrible situation you are in. I totally understand where you are coming from and feel for you, I really do. The first thing is this - you *must* tell her and not keep quiet on this because it could destroy the relationship. I know your probably scared she will react badly but if she cant respect your feelings on this I would question whether she is the person you love. You just need to sit her down and tell her straight how it is and how you feel about her as a person as well. There is no other way but the plain and direct way on this one. Hopefully, she will see sense and not go through with this. She may even be secretly hoping you will speak up as she maybe being pier pressured into agreeing. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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