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writes:It seems like if you arent young (18-29) then there is no point to living. Everything is geared to being youthful, creams, adverts etc. Men all want younger women, from 20 year old men to 60 year old men, they all want women in their late teens to early 20s and it just seems like once a woman hits 30 her life is over. I am 27 at the moment but its not long before I become 30, 40 etc and it seems that all that is available and open to me now will be taken away and I will be left on the shelf. this is a depressing thought and I dont know how to deal with it. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): I am 45 and middle aged. I love my life. I have good family and friends, go to the gym and look after myself. Guys of 25 say I look hot. It's great getting older because you are more confident and accepting of things. Don't let the media colour your life. It is a money making weapon and its how you react to it that counts.
Those who base their career on looks pay the price. They will always be replaced by younger more beautiful would you want that pressure?
When I was in my 20's I was terrified of ageing. Now I know its the most natural thing in the world. Who would want to stay young while friends and family age around us. How lonely would that feel? One life so make it count!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): Men get the age discrimination too. They just get it early in life instead of later. Try being a teenage boy. You get absolutely NO RESPECT from anyone. Everyone assumes you're immature and sometimes they take you for a flat out criminal. Even other people your age hold it against you: Teenage girls feel perfectly justified thinking of themselves as better and more mature than you by definition, all JUST BECAUSE OF YOUR AGE.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (21 May 2011):
Don't let this bring you down! It's all about young people because they're the ones who spend most money on things. Media might create this impression.But life isn't over just because you're older. I know people in their 30's and 40's and 50's and neither of them look like if their live was over, meaningless and they're not having fun anymore. Well, maybe those that have always been pessimistic, but that's really a mind thing.You're 27. Start telling yourself "I'm old now and shouldn't do X" anymore and see what it does to you. It's bullshit you can start at any age to make yourself feel unhappy.Men all want younger women - well, to be fair, I don't think all men are this shallow?! But of course it will keep them away if you become bitter and unhappy and dispose an "I'm old and nobody wants me" -attitude. I am 28 and I feel like my life gets better each year. I might have less choice in life than when I was 18, but I am happier with myself and more self confident.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (21 May 2011):
I get what you mean. I remember being a teen and thinking a twenty-something was old already. I also had the idea that it would take a-g-e-s to get to that point. *flash* Now I am 23. It went so fast. Some of the women in some of the anti-aging commercials are my age. It makes me sad, this emphasis on youth. It's the reason why young starlets like Megan Fox started using botox and fillers. Scarlett Johanssen started using anti-aging creams at 24. Many TV series and films revolve around the lives of people aged 17. It's like 17 is the magic number.Reality shows also only have young people in them. Business calls for young people, leaving my dad--who has way more experience and knowledge than any of those fresh faced 25-year olds-- without a job. There was a time when people looked up to the elderly, because of their experience and knowledge. Now they're regarded as a nuicance. I decided I'm not going to live my life with that mentality. I'm going to try to cram as much as I can in my lifetime, so that with aging, I gain cherished memories. Like a family friend who served as a commando said: "I'm never going to get sensitive about my age. It's an accomplishment that I made it this far. Plenty of people I know didn't. Plenty more young people on the other side of the world never get to live out their adult lives. Who am I to complain?" Don't pin anything to age. Don't think --oh no, I'm 30! I'm supposed to[insert goal]. It's never too late to do anything. The only regret you can ever have is not doing something you like. If you live life to the fullest and don't let this shallow image the media is trying to project on us get through to you, you'll probably age better than all those women desperately trying to stay young.
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