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writes: I can't make my fiance come during the intercourse. We do it in missionary mostly and I try to touch her clit during action but she says that it does not work during intercourse. Therefore she takes away my hand whenever I touch her there during intercourse. I thought it was supposed to work.Occasionally, I can make her come only by touching her there.On the other hand I cannot last that long either, only when I am going for the second round. Then she gets out of the mood so quickly as well.Any advice how I can make her come during intercourse?
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (17 June 2011):
Dear OP,
When I reread this post I had another thought.
Have you asked your fiance if it's important for her to orgasm during sex? And if yes, have you asked her what she thinks you can do to make her orgasm?
I mean, having us guess what she wants or what you should do is one thing, but maybe it's better for your relationship if you guys find a solution by talking about it?
Just a thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): I'm with Lovebird. Try using your penis and pubic area to rub the clit. I was with a woman for many years who could ONLY orgasm from this technique. Even oral did not make her orgasm.
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reader, lovebird1 +, writes (5 June 2011):
Most of the time, I can't come during sex either. There was just one man that could make me come during sex. He did something that was maybe a little bit like this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_technique
Try.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 Most women don't come during intercourse. So my advise to you is to stop thinking you must. Just leave it be, when she takes your hand away she doesn't want you to do it, maybe it just feels weird or awkward to her, and she enjoys the intercourse better when you don't try to multi-task.
If you want her to have an orgasm I'd recommend you go down on her and give her oral. Don't try to make her come during intercourse, most women simply don't orgasm that way, or think it is uncomfortable if you try too hard. We want to relax and enjoy the fun, not try to perform and struggle to try difficult positions to struggle even more with trying to orgasm. Just let it be. She'll be much happier that way.
It's difficult for a woman to orgasm. It demands way more than physical stimulation, we need to completely relax and feel very comfortable.
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reader, freeme  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 I think you should investigate a book called The Tao of Love and Sex. This book alone won't 'solve your problems' but skim through it and take what you need from it, and use it as a starting point to investigate some of its suggestions further. (You might want some more details on its suggestions, or alternative methods to achieve similar goals the book discusses.) However you get there, if you take this books advice to heart, you will both be happy campers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Oral sex is the fastest way to make a girl orgasm. Very few can come from intercourse.
Take your time also. It's not going to happen within minutes. And be gentle. Speed and being ruff in that area takes that feeling away.
And then do your thing with intercourse. Hope that helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): this is a bit technical, but it does work.try giving your girlfriend longer attention with your tongue, your lips and very very gently with your fingertips in her clitoral area, before you even start to enter her.Then up the ante with more tongue and finger work entering her before you start to enter her.Then position yourselves with her in a missionary position but with her legs drawn up around your buttocks. Then enter her, but use a rocking motion of your hips to draw your buttocks back up and then thrust forward from the hips, so that you press more on her mons as you enter her deeply each time.Her feet should also be pressing into your buttocks. In an action that will bring you into her more, and her each time in unison with your rocking motion. And her hips too should be rocking up to meet you, at the same time as your hips are rocking into her so you get double force, when you come together.Also give her lots of encouraging verbal praise and demonstrate your joy as you rock togetherGood luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Pretty common problem. Depending on your comfort level, there are various vibrators men can wear designed to stimulate the clitoris. Otherwise, find a different position (like doggy) where it's easier/more comfortable for her clit to be stimulated.
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