Is the pill effective after only two weeks?
Q. If my girlfriend was taken birth control pills for 2 weeks could she get pregnant if I cum inside of her?...
A. 24 March 2010: Yes its possible she could get pregnant. I've heard different stories that depending on which pill you should be on it for anywhere from 1-3 months before you can consider it to be effective to its full extent. It's got to get into the system and ... (read in full...)
What's going on in his head for him to treat me this way???
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. When we met i had 2 children from the previous relationship, 6 mths and 1 years old, 18 months later i got pregnant with his child. Now 4 years on im having his 2nd baby. I know he loves me but he's got a ...
A. 24 March 2010: Honey I think this guy is using you. You say he doesn't work and just hangs out with his friends all the time...well let me guess you work to bring in money and take care of the kids right? He doesn't help with bills or money for the kids? He sounds ... (read in full...)
She said I was too small for her. Do other girls think the same?!
Q. I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologiz...
A. 24 March 2010: Wow I can't believe that. Like seriously, she sounds like a huge b***h...sorry to be that blunt but oh my god. You are NOT, and I repeat, YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG HERE. Size should not matter...if someone actually likes you for you that detail is ... (read in full...)
He took the condom off and then fingered me. Could I be pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and i have had sex about 3 times now,and one of the times after we were done he took off the condom and then fingered me a little later, i asked him if he had any semen on his hands and he said that he whiped it off, so he thought. Well ...
A. 4 February 2010: The chances of getting pregnant from that are very low..but again not impossible. Pregnancy tests can read false negatives in the beginning because the hormone that shows up when you pee isn't present til I think it is 7-9 days after implantation of ... (read in full...)
Ladies, here's something for you. I want your opinions on this?
Q. Is it true that you girls will never forget or always feel something for the guy that you "never got"? The one that you knew you loved but he never asked you to be in a relationship. Do you still think about him even after you're in a new ...
A. 9 January 2010: I do. I had this guy friend I met when I was 9. When I was 12 I started to like him...each year I liked him more and more but never said anything because I didn't want to ruin the friendship. I finally got over it when I was 18 (so 6 years) and ... (read in full...)
My ex with another man is destroying me. Please help!! Please.
Q. I am in a very low bad place at the moment. I have just found out that my ex girlfriend who split up with me 2 months ago has a new man. It shook my world when she split up with me but whilst she wasn't with anyone else, I was coping ok. Th...
A. 9 January 2010: It's the absolute WORST feeling in the world, I know, I've been there. And to be completely honest there was nothing I could do and no one had advice for me either they were all just "get over it you'll be fine" The only thing that worked was time... (read in full...)
Will my obsessive ex scare my new boyfriend off?
Q. Hi everyone! Alright so I just started dating this guy last week. We are having fun, going out, getting to know each other better etc. I really like him and things couldn't be better... Except for my obsessive ex-boyfriend. Him and I broke up ...
A. 10 December 2009: To: Ask oldersister,
When I said mutual friends I mean my ex and I have a lot of mutual friends...not the new guy.
And I didn't say that my ex had been leaving me alone since Nov.1st. I said "A month ago I finally got it through his skull that w... (read in full...)
I am so emotional and upset with every click of the mouse when he looks at other girls!
Q. My bf looks at other girls in front of me and that makes me very sad and uncomfortable. He also browses for naked girls on the net... and constantly buys porn magazines and videos. It really bothers me! I have told him about it but it just seems ...
A. 24 November 2009: wow this guy is a jerk. the fact that he is doing it in front of you too shows he has no respect for you. I am thinking he is keeping you around so he has something while he is in search of his next girlfriend online. or maybe he is already ... (read in full...)
I am so emotional and upset with every click of the mouse when he looks at other girls!
Q. My bf looks at other girls in front of me and that makes me very sad and uncomfortable. He also browses for naked girls on the net... and constantly buys porn magazines and videos. It really bothers me! I have told him about it but it just seems ...
A. 21 November 2009: When you say he's searching for chicks...where is he searching for them? Like if it is on a dating site...then thats a big issue. Is he google searching girls just to ogle them? Or is he searching for girls on like Myspace/Facebook type thing?
M... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship, now how can I get him out of my system?
Q. i was in a long term relationship with a guy for almost 15 months, during the relationships there were ups and downs, i believe i was always treated second best to everything else in his life. and i was treated terribily, loads of times i cryed ...
A. 19 November 2009: A guy that lies to you, is on dating profiles while you guys are together, and treats you like crap does not deserve you. It will probably just take time for you to stop thinking about him and be wondering what he's doing. The no-contact thing is... (read in full...)
How can I move on and be more social?
Q. hi I went out with a guy for just over a year and in that time found out he was a compulsive liar who lied about his age, (he said he was 23 and he was 27) relationship status (hes married) and having a child. Im glad that I dumped him but Im having ...
A. 19 November 2009: Hey, I dont really have a whole lot of advice for you...but I thought I would mention that I'm in the same boat as you. Mine lied about so many things and then moved on as though I never even meant anything to him. It felt like i'd been punched in ... (read in full...)
Please give me tips on how to not beg my boyfriend to take me back!
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: Four different posts from the same person have been combined into one.] Iv been in an on/off relationship for 2 years. I recently came to realise that he basically loved the control he had over me. He has no respect, puts me down...
A. 18 November 2009: He's verbally abusive! I went out with someone just like that. They degrade you to the point that they get you feeling so low about yourself that you won't have the power to leave, and then they can just keep treating you like crap.
You are a real... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my friend going out with my ex?
Q. Hello agony aunts. I'm feeling depression,anger and jealousy all at the same time.The thing is my gf who i've been going out with for over 5 months just up and dumped me like i was nothing to her. She says i wasn't good enough for her. It truly ...
A. 7 October 2009: If your best friend would do something like that to you after seeing how much you loved her...he is not a friend at all. My "best friend" did that to me when I was 17, I never forgave her. The ex-boyfriend started apologizing n wanting to be my ... (read in full...)
I've been missing periods, and I'm not sexually active, so what's the problem?
Q. Hi I started my period in January 2007 and to start with they were really irregular, like in June of that year I had two 7 weeks apart But recently i have been kind of getting into a 3-5 week cycle. But now I haven't had a period since 11th July ...
A. 6 September 2009: Question...do you suffer from acne or darker hair growth in places such as your stomach or face (ie. more like male pattern hair growth)?
If you do, even if you don't...have your doctor check you for polycystic ovaries. I have it..ever since I was ... (read in full...)
Should I even consider getting back with my ex-girlfriend?
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up on very bad terms a few months ago after I found out that she had been lying too me about her ex-boyfriend. She had told me that he was begging for her back and that she just hung up when he rung her/contacted her. ...
A. 4 August 2009: The others are right.
Don't take her back. Your heart says yes, you head says no. This is one of those times where it is important to listen to your head, otherwise your heart is in for a major beatdown when she decides to hurt you...AGAIN.
You a... (read in full...)
I found my 40 year old husband in bed with a blonde 20 year old!
Q. What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girl being young, blonde everything he would like, he gets paid about 4K a month and his credit card bill was higher than usual so i dont kno...
A. 27 July 2009: Divorce his ass!!!
You can both still be there for your children & you should try to keep things civil for their sake so that they are not dragged into this.
But as for the husband...that shows nothing but disrespect. I guess it's a lot harde... (read in full...)
How do I stop lying and just end this?
Q. I have been with my bf for 5 years. Over the past year or so my feelings for him have really changed. I can't pin point exactly when it happened or what caused it, but I don't want to be with him anymore. Everytime I hug him, kiss him or we have ...
A. 24 July 2009: Well this isn't probably good advice...but I am going through the exact same thing!
I think the reasoning is because you and I are people that like to make others happy..and therefore put other people's happiness before our own. We know that in orde... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant And is it true that women don't ovulate while on the pill?
Q. Ok, so I'm on the pill, and I'm not very good at remembering to take it (sometimes miss over 3 days at a time) and recently had sex (3rd week of my cycle) using the withdrawal method, which I know isn't exactly the most effective method. I'm just ...
A. 7 July 2009: I agree...you should probably switch to a method that does not require you remembering to take a pill daily. Have you heard of the NuvaRing? You insert it and leave it there for the amount of days you would normally be taking a pill everyday, it ... (read in full...)
I keep falling in this cycle and I don't know what to do
Q. im really gonna try make this short, i was going out with this guy for about a year, we broke up + he messed me about by seeing me afterwards but sayin he doesnt 'want a relationship' but anyway, we had been broke up for about 3 months, then he came ...
A. 23 June 2009: This guy is an ass and he did this to you because thats what these guys do--they pick on girls that are innocent and trusting & goodhearted. Once they get to know you & learn you are a forgiving type, they will jerk you around cuz they know we will ... (read in full...)
Should I put my foot down or am I overreacting?
Q. I am 34 weeks pregnant and I have been married for 7 months. My husband, however, is still visiting a dating site and contacting the women on there. He does let them know that he is married, but he wants them to send him messages and pictures. I ...
A. 11 June 2009: You aren't overreacting that is uncalled for. Have you told him yet about you seeing the picture & messages when he didn't close out? If not maybe don't and ask him about what he's doing on the dating site to see if he will tell you the truth. If he ... (read in full...)
I think his new girlfriend needs to know what he did with me
Q. Hello all Ok i have a bit of a problam hear, anyway it involves an ex and we split october last year but have always remained friends,anyway hes now got this new gf whos 5 weeks pregnent with his baby, My problam is that monday just gone he took...
A. 31 May 2009: if you can give a little bit more info?
it sounded kind of like force..but what you did with him, did he make u or did u do it willingly after he had u put your hand..u know where. Either way it is wrong what he did, its disrespectful for his g/f ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband over his affair?
Q. I need advice, should I leave my husband or stay with him and live in eternal pain after his affair, which happened last summer? I will never forget what he did to me and our daughter. I found a text from his tutor at work saying night babe i love ...
A. 31 May 2009: Men guilty of stuff always cry when you take initiative and tell them you are going to leave. There may be a few far and few in between that might be sincere when they cry & want to make things work, but the majority just use this as the "Ultimate ... (read in full...)
Is this platonic or is he just trying to score and being a liar?
Q. Got a question everyone. Ok first things first, I want to clarify that I am talking about my ex-boyfriend that I had been with for 2 and 1/2 years. We broke up about 2 weeks ago because I just can't trust him. He has a tendency of lying in his past, ...
A. 22 May 2009: Thanks to both of you. Thats all I wanted..just confirmation that I am not crazy & that I haven't overanalyzed this situation because thats what he says. He was verbally abusive too but disguised it as "joking" so my self-esteem plummeted, but in ... (read in full...)
I SAW the email from her, confronted him and now he's angry with ME!
Q. hi, my boyfriend recieved an email from a woman it said Hi, Thank you for your diary. Have a nice evening. It was nice to spend time with you. again we do it bye Smiler I asked him about this. all he said was that he has ...
A. 17 May 2009: If he's cheated before...he's most likely cheated again. Not 100% positive but the fact he has breached trust before, not once, but TWICE, hey 3rd times the charm.
After the 2 cheating incidents, did he vow to change? If so did he actually make init... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lied, should I leave him?
Q. Hello everybody, My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 and 1/2 years. We are both 21 and have been living together for a year. A few months ago, I found out that he had been chatting and emailing another girl. She lived in another city and...
A. 11 May 2009: I agree...explain to him that lying hurts you. Also mention that if he keeps lying it's going to affect your trust in him (if it hasn't already) and that without trust there is no relationship. Ask him if he really wants to take that risk.
Defin... (read in full...)
He still wants to be FWB
Q. Hey DearCupids, I've got a bit of an issue on my hands and need help. me and my boyfriend of 10 months have recently split, out of all the days he ended it on our 10 month anniversary. The main cause of the break up was due to distance, with m...
A. 11 May 2009: Hi Stacey
Sweetie friends with benefits is not a good plan. You say you are falling more in love with him with every kiss, and with each kiss & anything else you are going to keep falling harder, what if he pulls everything out from under you sudd... (read in full...)
Is he really in love with me or is he just wanting to be friends with benefits?
Q. About a week ago, me and my boyfriend of almost eleven months, broke up. He gave me the "it's for good" speech when he broke up with me. Yet, on Friday he called me for the first time it happened. He told me he loves me and that he cares so much...
A. 27 April 2009: What he wants is all the good stuff without the commitment and responsibility.
Sorry to be blunt. He very well might still love you, but he doesn't want to grow up and take responsibility. Right now he is thinking wow I still can have sex with her... (read in full...)
How come I would choose my ex over anyone?
Q. How come I would choose my ex over anyone? Like if he wanted to come back... well he has a girlfriend and he tried getting back with me but I didn't really tell him how I felt so now he's back to her and he said he'll always love me, he just ...
A. 19 April 2009: Hunny you are so young!
Can I ask how long the 2 of you dated for? And how/who ended it? And how long ago did you break up?
It just gives a little more perspective of ways to help you deal. If this boy is saying things about how he loves you... (read in full...)
I'm a little confused about my b/f's behavior. What's your take on this?
Q. A little confused about my b/f's behavior. Been together 5 years, things going fairly well overall. But I've noticed lately when we go out with other couples to party on Friday night, my b/f is a dream; sweet, romantic, flirtaeous with me. But wh...
A. 18 April 2009: Your boyfriend cares more about his public image than his private image. How long has this been going on for?
The exact thing happened to me. Except my boyfriend was also verbally abusive to me in private. Ie. do these arguments have any put-down... (read in full...)
I'm in an abusive relationship
Q. I am in a abusive relationship. My boyfriend is a possesive and jelous maniac. He does not let me go out with my friends, he doesnt let me talk to any male friends, he does not let me work in places that any guy will be, he doesnt let me wear alot ...
A. 17 April 2009: Wow you poor thing!
You say your family would disown you if they found out you were with him? That's pretty bad.
If you feel the need that you want to turn him into the police, think carefully. EX. are you the only one that knows about what he ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a break up after a long time and felt like this?
Q. Hi, just wanted a little moan again. I'm so fed up of feeling sad, and worrying about things. I split with my bf five months ago, and although I don't want him back, I miss being in a relationship. He's moved on fast, which he's entitled to do, but ...
A. 13 April 2009: Hey! That happened to me a few years ago. I was also put on Citalopram as well! What dosage do they have you on? They started me at 5mg but I didn't start noticing a difference until they had increased it to 20mg. But anyway...my relationship was... (read in full...)
B/F treating me like crap
Q. First off thank u to whoever reads this, I'm so sorry that it's so long. Ok straight to the point: Im 20, BF is 25, been together about 2.5yrs aside from a breakup inbetween for a few months. Things were perfect until Sept'08. He started acting r...
A. 11 April 2009: So now aside from everything going on with the boy, now my home life is all messed up. I am seriously losing it. For the past week my heart has been pounding, my entire body is constantly trembling, my appetite has decreased and I'm just so lost. ... (read in full...)
B/F treating me like crap
Q. First off thank u to whoever reads this, I'm so sorry that it's so long. Ok straight to the point: Im 20, BF is 25, been together about 2.5yrs aside from a breakup inbetween for a few months. Things were perfect until Sept'08. He started acting r...
A. 5 April 2009: It's really hard you guys..it's only been 48 hours. I keep thinking of what he is doing and thinking. And I keep going back and forth questioning myself of whether I did the right thing...I miss having somebody here with me. I don't really know if I... (read in full...)
B/F treating me like crap
Q. First off thank u to whoever reads this, I'm so sorry that it's so long. Ok straight to the point: Im 20, BF is 25, been together about 2.5yrs aside from a breakup inbetween for a few months. Things were perfect until Sept'08. He started acting r...
A. 3 April 2009: Hey you guys...just thought I'd let you know that my anger took the stronger hold last night. I tried talking to him one last time and he was more concerned with playing on his computer and when I said are you even listening? His reply was "yeah ... (read in full...)
B/F treating me like crap
Q. First off thank u to whoever reads this, I'm so sorry that it's so long. Ok straight to the point: Im 20, BF is 25, been together about 2.5yrs aside from a breakup inbetween for a few months. Things were perfect until Sept'08. He started acting r...
A. 2 April 2009: Oh yes there is another thing!
The spark seems to be dissipating. On my part its mainly because a 25yr. old acting like a 2yr. isn't exactly a turn on. But sexually there hadn't been much of a change til a few weeks ago. Not to be graphic or anyt... (read in full...)
Waiting for the right one
Q. i'm 18 and still a virgin. is that weird? my friends tell me it's weird, but i just want it to be with a girl i fall in love with and i'm getting really self conscious about because everybody i'm around seems to have lost theirs early-on in high ...
A. 2 April 2009: You only lose your virginity once...I think you are wise. Save it for someone you love and won't regret.
Do you really want to remember for your whole life that you lost your virginity to some one night stand at a bar that you can't even remember... (read in full...)
My ex treated me like crap, so I broke up with him. Now he's decided to not speak with me, so how can I get him back?
Q. Hi all, i've been with my bf for 7 months now and i love him so much. however at the beginning he treated me bad, talking to his ex, wouldn't introduce me to his parents. we had a massive argument at the weekend because his friends think he treats ...
A. 2 April 2009: You don't want somebody like that back hun!
He is obviously being immature if he's playing the silencing game. In a relationship you deserve to feel loved and honoured, not made to feel like crap.
Here's my idea: get a piece of paper, every... (read in full...)
Help, he is hurting me!
Q. I actually have a secret that I've never told anyone who knows me and last night I nearly broke. Or maybe I am broken. I went to the gym with my boyfriend of just over one year and he has had his share of insecurities...and of telling me that ...
A. 2 April 2009: You definitely need to get out! Do you really want to live the rest of your life being controlled and threatened that he will cheat on for every little thing?
I know you said you have no support as you gave up people for him. It's very hard whe... (read in full...)
Why did he do this terrible things?
Q. Let me list what what my ex did to me 2 months after the break up (he convinced me to start talking to him again after a personal tragedy. For the next two months (4 months after the break up): Txted about how something reminded him of me Txted...
A. 1 April 2009: The way he is talking is that he probably does still love you on some level...but he wants to see if there is anything better out there.
He is still contacting you, sending you pictures, being all sweet and stuff so that he keeps you on his leas... (read in full...)
How do I trust her when I know this guy wants her?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 years. Recently she has made friends with a guy who I think just wants to get into her pants. She wants to go and hang out with him. She says she won't let anything happen and I do trust her but she ...
A. 31 March 2009: Umm wow!! I didn't think anything was wrong with this situation until you posted an update. I'm sorry but that is wrong that this guy is kissing and holding hands and being all over your girlfriend. Was he doing this in front of you? Has she told... (read in full...)
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