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36-40,
*eirdre
writes:hi I went out with a guy for just over a year and in that time found out he was a compulsive liar who lied about his age, (he said he was 23 and he was 27) relationship status (hes married) and having a child. Im glad that I dumped him but Im having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that he has moved on (very quickly) and has a new girlfriend (he texted me to tell me this along with calling me fat and other insulting things)I would like to know how can I get over him and meet someone single who is available for a relationship, Ive tried taking up a hobby and I already have a part time job aswell as studying in university. I would like to make more friends also, as I dont have many and Im finding that I get lonely a lot these days, despite me normally enjoying my own company.it suddenly struck me when I celebrated my 21st birthday mostly alone how friendless I am aswell as how unlucky in love so perhaps someone can suggest something for me to do to improve the situation.thanks for reading my letter ('',)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 November 2009):
I'm sorry you met such a complete liar. And I'm glad you've got away from him, so good for you.
You now need to focus on yourself entirely. This is the time for you to start doing a hobby you want to or something like that. If you want to meet people, then you need to be doing things that mean you have to interact with others (learn a foreign language, or do dancing or something). Just spend a lot of time on yourself adn your confidence, and you'll meet new friends, and hopefully Mr Right too :). Good luck.
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (19 November 2009):
Hey, I dont really have a whole lot of advice for you...but I thought I would mention that I'm in the same boat as you. Mine lied about so many things and then moved on as though I never even meant anything to him. It felt like i'd been punched in the stomach. It was horrible. I gave up a lot of friends for him, and I have about a handful of friends left, and my family...who is in a different city from me so I cant see them much. I feel alone and it sucks.
One of the best things I did to try and get rid of all the built up anger is i got a notebook and literally starting writing out EVERY SINGLE THING i hated about him, whether it was something he did, said, lied about etc. I'm not even kidding i have 15 pages, front and back written about him (mind u alot of this space is taken up by writing out situations in which he lied to me about something, or somethin to do with other girls).
And u can message me too if you want to talk, since we are unfortunately going through the same thing :(
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